Y7 mixed sleepover

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Dd wants to invite 2 boys and 2 girls to have a sleepover for her 12th birthday party.

Personally, I don't have any issues with them all sleeping in the same room, but I don't know whether other parents would, or whether I'm being naive!

Opinions?

I would say yes to a family that I knew well and no to a family I didn't. But my natural instinct would be to say no.

My main concern would be that my kids felt safe and not in situations that they're not ready to handle.

Someone won't even allow boy mates in their daughters room? Good grief! Do you think they are sex crazed and will be totally unable to control themselves? Mine always have been allowed to and always will be. You're putting the thought into your daughters heads that all members of the opposite sex are potentially wanting to molest them 24/7!! Also when the time comes that they do feel ready to do anything sexually they may end up in the park or on a pile of coats at a party. My husband was cycling through the park last weekend and was shocked to see the daughter of an acquaintance giving a boy a blow job on a bench, only slightly hidden by a bush. Her parents don't let boys in the house either.....

Oh yes Mymum all teens are totally sex crazed the whole time. It's all they think about. A mixed sex sleepover would end up in an orgy for sure.

Haha for sure Sparkling, even in year 7!! Sorry got a bit carried away with my previous post which wasn't even in response to OP! I've always treated friends, male or female, the same. My middle son was best friends with two girls and two boys for most of his time at high school without ever going out or even being attracted to either of the girls, they were and still are just friends. Yes let them have their sleepover, they'll have a great time.

I think that having friends of the opposite sex is a healthy way for young teenagers to learn. If they have no siblings of the opposite sex it can be hard to know how to interact in a comfortable relaxed way. Without that there is only the example set by others in class at school which isn't necessarily very mature.

DS1 (18) has always had more girls as friends than boys. His BFF is a girl he was at school with and went on sleepovers with at 13. His new best flat mates at uni are girls. He also has a girl friend. Learning about platonic friendships at 13 was a valuable lesson.

I agree Pea, and not letting that happen would send a really odd message IMO.

MyMum Year 7s possibly the worst.

Indeed Sparkling, I always found them to be sex obsessed at age 11 - not!!! Dd had a 'boyfriend' in year 8 and they would come home after school and go up to her room. Whenever I checked they were never even within touching distance of one another, they got on great though. This 'relationship' went on for five months and dd laughs about calling him her boyfriend now as they never ever kissed or even held hands. He's still in her friendship group now they're both 16.

Ds2 had a 'girlfriend' at 11. She made a model of him out of clay complete with football shirt.
They finished because she said 'it wasn't working out'

Like I said we all have different views! Some people will allow it and some won't!

Mymumisag hahaha!!

I just hope that in the OP's case the other parents will be the agreeable sort.

Who mentioned molesting! Haha! Bit sick to think that really! That thought never entered my head anyway! MYMUMISAG! Hahaha

Yeah they do come in the house just not in the bedroom! Hahaha! Oh I'm such a bad mum for having my daughters best interest at heart! Makes me laugh u silly women @mymumisag

Why do you keep 'hahaha' ing at everything mumofthree - you sound a bit deranged.

My DD is Y8 now and she's been on mixed sleepovers - no issues at any of them. She has a nice group of friends, male and female, and I trust her judgement on them.

Good for you! You sound a bit mental 2! Was I actually talking to you

Hahaha

Some people join in different names on here and you notice one post! Just idiots who like to cause shit I guess!

which planet are you on mumofthreegirls? I have not a clue what you are on about.

Can someone explain what's going on here, I am lost? Are we still talking about mixed sleepovers?

Who are you now? I didn't realise we were having a conversation! Any one else fgs!

Yeah we were and people seem to want to start shit childish morons lol

Wtf is going on in here?

Are you over tired from a sleepover, mumofthree?