Support thread for parents of pre-teen & teenage girls - if you're tired of the eye-rolling, door-slamming, buy me stuff now leave me alone hormonal roller coaster, join us here!

[KidsDontThinkImCool]

So, I've noticed there are ongoing support threads in other topics and wondered if we could do with one here. My DD is 12. She is smart and articulate and has lovely friends. Her teachers say she is engaged and enthusiastic and she is always the first to make someone new feel welcome. She is also rude and aggressive and irrational and loves telling me I'm a crazy, horrible, annoying idiot. She slams doors, pushes me around, hits her brother and tells me she only loves her dad and wishes I was dead. There are days where I wonder if either of us will make it to her 13th birthday. And it's only 2 weeks away.

Anyone want to join in?

As a father of a recent "princess bitchface", I can sympathise with you all.

Birchy: Your DD may be suffering from two opposing impulses. The first is the natural selfishness of the teenage girl, the second is her concern for your health. The conflict will drive her nuts. I had day surgery on her 15th birthday and it really upset her. Of course, she couldn't show concern for the fat old boring bastard, so I had to be punished even more.

Now? She's just great. We cook together, she ridicules my nasal hair, I ridicule her vampire obsession.

birchykel : I don't have any real advice but just wanted to ask that when you take the phone away and it doesn't work, could it be that she has an alternative so isn't that fussed?
We had issues taking phones away because dd would then use the iPod, take phone and iPod away dd would just go on the ds and act completely unfazed!! you get the picture, much to my frustration.

Take all electronics away apart from allowing allocated time for homework on the home computer, now that does the trick! DD will do anything to have some form of electronic device and will turn into a complete angel until they are returned!

Hi everyone,
There's a new thread in the Media requests thread looking for people with troublesome teens - can you take a look and get in touch if this is you?
Thank you!

Thanks for advice, yes I take all electronics away she says she isn't fussed but caught her this morning trying to sneak the phone away to see if anyone had texted her, she she is banned for another day now!

I'm trying to be a positive mum, it's difficult my father is really poorly at the moment and doesn't look good so I think my sadness and stress levels are showing and the kids are therefore acting up. My youngest who is 2 has turned into the devil! So I'm trying to approach things better and hoping for this to help the kids behave better......can only hope.

My operation was a year ago tomorrow and I'm still being treated. I guess she must have suffered in some ways, she must have been scared and like my youngest is taking it out on me in the only way she knows how and that's my being nasty.

Hope everyone else is ok and the teens are behaving! ;)

What a great thread. I don't have any DDs but I have an adored niece aged 15 who is wonderful with me but appalling to her own mother. Talking sense to her is like trying to reason with a rhino.

I took her out last week and she photographed herself for snapchat about twenty times, literally. I can't approve of this in eg cafes etc. I'm not ancient but of course if you're not 15 then you might as well be methuselah. And she invented all of it, nobody was ever a teenager before.

She is also the s l o w e s t person on the face of the earth. Any attempts to speed her up a bit are met with tripping over and hysteria.

Her jawdroppingly inane and meaning-free chatter about the boys in school made me want to jump off something very high to be honest, but I see a lot of myself in her and I think I turned out ok.

When I was about 28.

My heart goes out to anybody struggling with really crappy teen issues just now, reading this thread makes me realise that the hard work doesn't end when they can wipe their own arse. They do grow up, and one day they will appreciate all the love, hard work and sacrifice.