DD cant stop crying after letting herself down at school today and being asked to leave the classroom.

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DD2 17 . For those of you who don't know DD was readmitted to yr 11 due to her statement for ADHD /AS Symptoms . This was because of her SENCO who stuck her neck out and her 138 IQ.

Well she was thrown out of the class (First Time This Year) for muttering a swear word when the Biology teacher was being (BORING). She went in to isolation and has not stopped crying or shaking since.

She is petrified the school are going to expel her ( Despite the Senco and me reassuring her they are not) DD has worked so hard this year with attainment and her behaviour and is in line to get 6A* 1 B In (BIOLOGY)

I have grounded her for a week and banned her from playing Hockey at the weekend. She will not stop crying or shaking , how can I help her to stop crying and shaking.

The school breaks up tomorrow for half term, the Senco has suggested that the punishment should be 3 days isolation when half term finishes.

Should I keep DD of School tomorrow and let her play hockey on saturday.

The Times December 11th 2013.

Paul Green 39 a PE Teacher from stoke On Trent has been banned from
Classrooms,after a catalogue of abusive behaviour including swearing, calling students offensive names, throwing things and wrestling with students. The National College For Teaching and Leadership found him guilty of unacceptable Professional conduct.

Sorry - my mistake! I thought it was HER teacher

As a parent of a DD with a BESD statement who managed to pass 7 gcses (all gcses, not equivalents, all academic subjects apart from media) in Y11 without having to repeat Y11 and who frequently got into this sort of scrape and was excluded too many times to remember, I would say your daughter is reasonably typical of kids with behaviour problems. Dont know what my DDs IQ is but she's certainly not dim. Many of the other kids with behaviour problems in her school were also not dim...in fact most of the ones that got shipped out to the PRU (thankfully DD didn't) were all on course for good grade GCSEs. Its poor behaviour that generally results in low achievement rather than lack of intelligence in my experience - kids who really do have global learning difficulties, or low IQs for want of a better phrase, are usually really lovely, focussed kids. Anyway, I learnt to pick my battles with school. There will always be some teachers that manage behaviour better than others. I learnt to let lots of things go because I am a teacher myself and understand what it is like managing difficult behaviour day in and day out. Having a proactive and experienced learning mentor that was my daughters biggest fan and stood up to the teaching staff when needed (and also let dd know when she was out of line) was the secret ingredient. The SENCO who is your personal friend is so the wrong person to be taking on this role for your dd. A huge conflict of interests.

Olivevor. Here are a few of "my friends ideas" that have helped DD , and were not implemented by her previous 4 Senco's. :

One to one working , when removed from and placed in the library, this was used last year , when DD was distraught about her future.

Setting DD "High Targets" that she Is very capable of despite previously showing no evidence of capability to other Sencos.

An Individual Education plan that changes when DD meets each target , to start with last year the targets were D grades. The target now is A Russell Group University.

Though we are telling DD its A* Grades at Gcse. I have promised her Driving Lessons (GOD HELP US) if she gets them . Her Grandparents have promised her a car if she passes A levels.

This time last year we were looking at a Level 1 NVQs and now we think she is capable of a Russell Group University.

( Conflict of Interest ... The other Sencos were not able to help DD in the correct or same way.....

I am delighted that your DD is achieving , it shows that individual targets and plans based on reward and discipline achieve the best results....

When removed from Classes and placed in the Library.

Its become clear (The Little Minx) why she was so upset, with herself.
She sent two applications for 6th form places to two Grammar Schools in the next county.
She was expecting letters back ,well she has just got one inviting her to an interview .

It all makes sense know doesn't it...

I can only congratulate your DD in showing amazing "Cunning" and determination in applying .

I have read your posts on the Secondary Education board and I wish your DD all the best luck on Wednesday with her interview.

It may help your DD , that I read somewhere that some grammar schools were trying to admit some pupils who had not had straight forward educational journeys . Your DD might stand a very good chance because they might be seeking to get their percentage of students with Statements or needs up to show how they benefit non "Typical Grammar School Girls"

Olivevoir. One of my Daughters tricks was (Up until Yr11 when even the bottom group kids stopped thinking it was funny) was to start talking about a random subject out loud.

She researched a subject to an inch of her life (Instead of doing any Homework or any classwork) , then would ask the teacher a stupid question, and when the teacher either gave the wrong answer or did not answer her would start "SHOUTING " across the classroom "I told you she/He is not very bright" The Five or six "Dickheads" bottom set kids would start giggling for twenty minutes and keep goading or winding her up every lesson to keep doing it.

Eventually even the "Dickheads" realised they had to do some work and stopped encouraging DD and her antics.