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Teenage dd self medicating with cannabis

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losingdd · 03/08/2006 11:15

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ggglimpopo · 29/08/2006 07:55

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 09:17

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 15:15

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Twinkie1 · 29/08/2006 15:19

Think you abuse drugs - you don't self medicate with them.

God I sould like a right bitch don't I!!! Just think that you need to change perspective on it - what she is doing is illegal and could end up with huge long term health implications and 'self medicating' is not really what she is doing.

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 15:26

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Twinkie1 · 29/08/2006 15:36

Sorry meant that you needed to change your perspective - thought that you thought she was 'self medicating'!!

Do you think this is all down to her relationship with her father - I know I sould harsh but bad things have happened in my life and I had no choice but to stay with it and carry on - its been bad because in some respects I haven't exorcised demons that I need to and that to some degree dictates how I react in certain situations but I also never tried to blot it out with drugs.

Can you not try and approach each problem as s seperate issue rather than saying it is all down to her realtionship with her father and so giving her in one respect a reason to behave like she is.

God its hard and with 2 DD/DS I really don't know what I would do but part of me feels that teenagers, especially, are given this whole excuse that they are not equipped mentally or emotionally to deal with things and so in one way its ok that they turn to drink and drugs - well I know I sould harsh but with me it was always - deal with it - its happened and blotting it out is only going to prolong the inevitable!!

Oh I haven't really helped have I!!

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 15:49

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 15:51

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 19:49

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runkid · 29/08/2006 20:03

losingdd,it sounds like she misses you and the family she has got her self in a mess and may not know how to get out of it and the hardening off thing is self protection for her so she doesnt feel bad

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 20:23

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WideWebWitch · 29/08/2006 20:28

losingdd, do you think it might have suddenly occured to her that she CAN say to you 'Nope, you're not in charge, I AM' and it's a bit scary? I felt like tihs as a (horrible, dope smoking) teenager. Sort of wanting all the independence but not wanting it too and being afraid and realising that I truly was alone in the world (in the sense of not being physically joined to anyone, i.e. had to take responsibility for my actions) and it scared me a lot. I remember saying to my history teacher 'But I've just realised only I can do this' and she gave me an odd look so I kept my feelings to myself for a while after that but what I meant was that my sudden realisation led to a frightening understanding of responsibility. Maybe this isn't making sense but it's how I was. At 14, with a dope habit. Poor you and poor dd.

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losingdd · 29/08/2006 20:34

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WideWebWitch · 29/08/2006 20:37

sorry, not terribly coherent but hey, I remember it being a scary time and I'm ok now. I know that's not much help.

runkid · 29/08/2006 21:05

losingdd,i dont think you have lost your daughter she still tells you she loves you that is a good thing

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losingdd · 30/08/2006 16:11

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runkid · 30/08/2006 18:06

Losingdd, it wont heart just to send a text and tell her you love and miss her

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losingdd · 30/08/2006 18:11

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runkid · 30/08/2006 19:24

Keep your chin up losingdd we all have those days it will seem better tomorrow dont let it get you down you still have a life to live

makemineadouble · 30/08/2006 21:48

my dd and I were apart for what seemed like 4eva a few years ago..she would'nt speak or visit me.i text her every night to tell her little things about mt day her siblings and that i missed her and loved her millions!After all this was resolved (maybe 2 years of letting her find her own way)we have found a place in the middle where we both can be ourselves and enjoy eachother....my point...She since told me that the nights i did'nt text(to tired,to pissed)she could,nt sleep she waited for them even tho she never answered ...so you text her every time you need to x

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losingdd · 30/08/2006 22:04

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runkid · 30/08/2006 22:11

you sound like you are a little run down treat yourself make tim for yourself even if its just a nice soak in the bath you need looking after to. you will soon get your fight back we all feel this way sometimes were human

stephanieplum · 30/08/2006 22:25

losingdd have just seen this >>>>

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losingdd · 31/08/2006 00:22

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