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Sexual behaviour at parties

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felicity1971 · 04/02/2014 15:20

Good grief! I have just had a chat in the car with 14 year old son and four of his mates, 2 boys and 2 girls. They had been discussing parties that have happened recently and got onto the subject of girls being 'slutty'. Apparently it's the norm for some of the girls to get off with five or six different boys at a party and I don't mean just a quick snog! Some of the girls are giving blow jobs and getting fingered in front of the others. One girl was on her period and was fingered by two different boys one of whom proceeded to walk round showing his bloodied hand to others. These are year 10s by the way. If it had just been the boys talking amongst themselves I wouldn't have been so inclined to believe it all, but the two girls seemed genuinely upset by what's been going on. One of them said she gets called frigid because she doesn't want to indulge in this sort of behaviour.What is going on? They are still children. Genuinely worried that kids are growing up so fast that some might think this is a normal way to behave!

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Timetogetup0630 · 04/02/2014 22:41

I think this is disgusting. My peer group certainly indulged in sexual behaviour but it was all rather furtive and done in private.

My kids are anti social and never go out, so we haven't had to deal with parties yet. But one of my neighbours threw a party for her 14 year old. It got on Facebook and dozens of kids turned up.
We had drunken children staggering down the road clutching bottles of wine and some cars got vandalised.

I just don't understand why some parents provide alcohol for their underaged children and their mates......

Travelledtheworld · 04/02/2014 22:49

When we lived in the USA I heard about "lip sticking". All the girls would wear different coloured lipsticks and take turns to give the same boy a blow job and see how many different coloured rings he could get on his D**k.

CouthyMow · 08/02/2014 23:10

It was just as bad when I was a teenager - there were still porno videos readily available, and it was 'normalised' then...was 13 in 1994, 19 in 2000...

My DD is now 15, and it's just as prevalent now as it was when I was a teen.

I did it, all my friends did it, it was only in my early 20's that it calmed down. Hate the fact that it's just as 'normal' now.

CouthyMow · 08/02/2014 23:12

Travelled - that was pretty standard when I was a teen! Blush

bringbacksideburns · 08/02/2014 23:27

I was travelling to work this week and there were three schoolgirls infront of me. One showed the others her phone and there was a photo on it. It was pretty obvious to me it was taken from the angle of someone lying down on a bed with an errect cock sticking out of the blankets. She was smiling, the others remained silent. Thank god there were no mobile phones and social media when i was that age.

So it doesn't surprise me.

My son (yr8) goes to an all boys school and is only interested in the X Box and guitars. I'm hoping there's plenty of time for these shennagians in Sixth Form.
I'm trying to decide whether it's really cool that they are so open about it all infront of someone else's mother, or slightly cringy? Are they trying to shock?

Some things never change though, girls are still labelled Sluts and Slags and the Boys never get labelled.

MostWicked · 08/02/2014 23:51

I'm in my 40s. There were teenagers behaving like this when I was a teen.
Not much changes.

heinztomatosoupp · 09/02/2014 10:17

this happens at the parties kids in my DD's year have (she's 15).
lots of people smoking weed, getting drunk and then some of the girls sucking off lots of boys and also getting off with many of the girls is not uncommon around here, and we live in a very nice middle class area.

scherazadey · 10/02/2014 10:57

My kids talk openly to me too (thank god) and I have heard of many similar goings on. What my Dd (now 17) found really hard at around age 15 was that she really didn't want to indulge in this and so didn't but then became slightly ostracised from the group at the time.

Horsemad · 11/02/2014 21:33

OMG! DS1 (16) is going to a house party on Fri. He's not saying much about who's going etc or if the parents are around but the girl whose party is is a bit forward (from what I've seen on his FB) She's not the only one btw, the group's conversations on there are interesting to say the least.

DS was telling me about a 6th form party held at a local venue last week & I was horrified. I was a quiet teen so was a bit naive as to what they get upto.

I'm going to make sure I have another chat with him about safety & respect.

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