Anyone else got a slim dd with big boobs?

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Just had a stressful shop, managed to get new bras. But we had floods of tears over her size, people make comments etc. she then realised she needs a new swimsuit, which of course we couldn't find. What can I do to boost her self esteem?

I've only got boys but I was that slim teenager with big boobs, so I really sympathise! I was so embarrassed about the whole thing. Looking back now I had an amazing figure and should have made the most of it

Did you get her fitted properly (ie not M&S) for the bras? I struggled through my teens and most of my 20s in ill-fitting bras that did me no favours at all. There are some great bra threads in the Style & Beauty section that will help you check. There are some really expert posters who will be able to advise young fun brands to try as well (Curvy Kate is a brand that springs to mind) It was quite a revelation finally getting bras that fit me properly.

Debenhams and Bravissimo are both worth a look for swimsuits. If she is perky enough she might be able to get away with a "normal" tie bikini - go up sizes to get the cups big enough and then tie the back really tight - but otherwise cup sized swimwear is the way to go. Once you know her size you can look online so she can try stuff at home as well?

I just got even more embarrassed if my mum tried to discuss this stuff with me but then she isn't very empathic and you sound really lovely. I'm sure there are loads of girls her age who would kill for your dd's figure.

Thanks shoe. I can sympathise as I have matching big boobs! Funnily enough we went to M&S, and the fitter in there was absolutely lovely to her. She was measured but didn't try on, but I'm fairly confident we bought the right size. I think we may head to Tescos when their summer stuff comes in as they do cup sizes, and new look. I plan to take her shopping and spoil her a bit!

I told her she has a figure to kill for, and that she is clever and pretty. It breaks my heart to see her sobbing, I just knew when I had a dd she would inherit big boobs

Bravissimo all the way.. M+S do NOT fit correctly..however lovely they may be!
I say that as the mother of two very slim daughters ..one of whom is a 26 E (and no we can't get 26 backs) and the other..poor girl... is a 28J.

Floods of tears trying to find a bikini..yup. Bravissimo actually do ones that will fit..though you have to pay through the nose for them. Get in early too as the more unusual sizes (ie really skinny really huge boobs) go FAST.

My girls are now 21 and 19 and really struggled with their self image for a long time. But gradually they have learned to accept their beautiful figures, to dress nicely for them (DD2 with the 28J wore baggy hoodies for years to hide herself..now she's woman by fatface). Both of them get very peed off with men leering/trying to grope but have learned to tell guys to step away.

DD2 in particular really really needed the very structured bras that Bravissimo are great for, while still looking girly. I think she may still go for a reduction when she finishes University as she gets very bad back ache with them, but at least she is now comfortable in her own skin.

Side comment, if your DD is a younger teen.. teach her NOT to put up with comments from boys/men. DD2 suffered so many (she also has waist length spiral curl blonde hair) because of her boobs and hair. She actually had to hit a guy in a club recently when he kept trying to grab her boobs. She bloodied his nose! Usually I wouldn't be impresses with violence byt when a man harrasses a 5 ft 2 tiny women because of her chest... he deserves it!

She's 15. The comments have come from her boyfriends friends! I've just said they are teenage boys with very tiny brains. Good point about other men. She also has long blonde hair and is about 5 ft 1. It's a sad world we live in sometimes.

I have the same problem with my DD1 (15yo) She hasn't gone swimming for years. Would need a one piece for school, is hugely bigger on the top. Uses eczema as an excuse to get out swimming at school. She will not wear a bikini. To use her words, she feels she looks like a porn star

When I got myself fitted recently at Debenhams, the lady commented that a well-fitting bra doesn't make you look bigger - if anything it makes you look smaller, because the effect is just neater.

With swimwear I got something good in House of Fraser - plain black with sort of built in underwiring. I think teenage type shops aren't necessarily much good if you have a slightly more mature figure and don't want to let it all hang out. It's a question of finding places that are still fashionable but in a more sophisticated way.

My daughter really hates being on the beach/poolside in swimwear - though she'll happily go for a swim. But she wants to cover up immdediately afterwards. I think that's not unusual in the teenage years.

I don't think you can make them love their bodies. All we can do is make sure they have the clothing they need.

M&S will have her as at least a 32/34 back I bet. Please have a look at the bra threads, a properly fitting bra will make such a difference to her confidence. If she is slim ie under a size 10/12 she will be a 28 or 30 back at most.

No they measured her a 30

I was a slim teenager with big boobs, if you want her to still have a brilliant figure when she's an adult, do not let her wear the m&s or Tesco bras. Take her to Bravissimo who fit correctly and don't use the ridiculous old method of using measuring tapes and adding inches. Debenhams can be good for big boobs too. I was a 28FF at 15. M&S would probably fit me at a 36DD or something now and I am a 28-30GG/H

My dd is a size 12 with b/c cup. Not huge but was very unsure about having a bikini last year for our summer holiday. In the end I ordered loads from Next and she tried them I at home which was more comfortable for her and we could mix and match sizes. I agree you need to get them early though. I think teenagers are very body conscious and critical of themselves. Just wish I was a size 12!!!

Agree that M&S are terrible - I lived with torpedo boobs for years.

DSIL entrusted DN to me for advice as a fellow H cup wearer. I took her to Rigby & Peller when I went for a fitting. We get our size confirmed there.

Very often I then go and order online as the styles are 30-40% cheaper on sites such as Jolie and Affair lingerie.

The Freya brand of swimwear is very nice with cupped tops, still quite dainty, but supportive. It's all about the bottoms though - make them fussy to distract the eye.

It's super hard not to jump down men's throats when I see them ogling her on the street. But why should she cover up, and not wear a perfectly normal vest or tee?

I remember going to Uni and running for the train in Paddington (probably in my crap M&S bra) and a guy shouting, yep at the top of his voice, from the mezzanine above the platform "look at the fucking massive tits on that bird". It echoed around the platform, everyone looked. A bit of me died that day and I spent years just covering up.

It makes me very protective of her freedom.

DD is a petite 5'2", size 6-8 and curvy 28DD - she has long blonde hair and a figure to die for IMHO!

However, she says the 30D underwired bra I recently got her (virtually impossible to find 28DD that aren't glamour style) is too tight on the back band and she prefers her 32C. How do I convince her it's not the right size?!

My dd is an 8/10 at 5ft 5 and 32 DD - probably a 30 f to be honest but she has issues with tight stuff... Hence the 8/10 sizing! She's a 8 but says they're too,tight

She has a size 12 swimming costume and it's baggy round the bum but she won't let me alter it and won't go swimming. Had to do a self preservation thing at school the other week and only did it as they went in in clothes

Sorry, going back to the original problem, my DD has a number of bikini's (mainly from supermarkets!) where you can get a 30D with size 8 bottoms. Would that be any good?

Thanks big Tilly, yes I think we will try supermarkets first.

I think they had more stock as summer approached - not sure how much choice they would have right now, but I definitely got DD some in March last year.

www.brastop.com

They currently have a sale on and its very affordable. Also good returns policy so its much less stressful than going round all the shops only to find nothing fits at all.

Lots of stuff thats suitable for a teenager and not too sexy.

To boost her self-esteem, get her looking at some bra bloggers' sites. There are some really amazing ones out there written by real women, e.g.

www.curvywordy.com/
www.thinandcurvy.com/
brasandbodyimage.com/

My girls are a bit taller at 5'11 and 5'8 not blondes (does that make boobs look bigger I've seen a couple of poster mention it?) and busty 32J (size 10 /12) and 30EE (6/8/10 depending on store) Took eldest to rigby and peller at 12 for fitting went from M&S 36C which obviously we knew was wrong to 28G and she was still growing!
Bravissimo is good for sizing trying styles and swimwear ( they buy expensive mono coloured bikini top and mix a d match the bottoms with patterns from new look etc to ring the changes)..
DD 2 the 5'8 30ee has some lovely sets from believe it or not Asda. We actually drive the20 miles to nearest store and bra shop. At £6 a pop she can afford to have multiple which mean they last longer and they look pretty when she's changing for PE which used to irk both DD as friends bras were not 'granny'. Debenhams is also good. We do have a laugh at how often larger cup sizes seem to be dreamt up by Ann Summers designers and often seem to have a dominatrix theme going on! Both buy debenhams matching sets knickers and bras in the sales.
Good support and the right size makes boobs look smaller and clothes fit nicely when dressed.
I helped build confidence by emphasising that we should judge people on their character rather than looks so they are confident in their own skin and tend to mix in social groups that are less shallow. Shopping hard with them in early teens to find the necklines, cuts, colours, styles that suit them. We discussed dressing for yourself not to please others ... 'just cos its the fashion doesn't mean it's for you' and had fun with it trying on styles for the flatter chested and doing a jig in changing room to watch it all pop out etc and both enjoy developing their own styles including being on trend by accessorising when the fashion doesn't suit Showcasing your best bits ... Dd1 has legs to die for and mini skirts /skinny jeans are her friends teamed with nice fitted tops and no cleavage (scoops work really well). DD2 has shorter legs but a delightful derrière and favours fitted skirts/ stretch dresses and looks balanced & proportioned.
You can't stop people looking at you when you are young and beautiful but you can stop them looking at you because you have all your goods on display ( iykwim)
Oh and an industrial strength sports bra is a good investment. Most look like Olympic athletes gear these days and they can leap freely across the playing fields without giving themselves a black eye.

Another one here who would recommend Bravissimo. My DD is a 28HH. She finds Panache Bras good. Also Figleaves is a good site. It's tricky though because they really do need to try loads on as opposed to being totally driven by size. The starting point though is getting the back measurement right and then trying on from there. Some styles are better with slightly bigger cups on Dd but the back is always 28.

I can sympathise - I was your daughter when I was younger. I covered up throughout my teens and early twenties, got bullied by an older woman at work over my figure, rejected for a breast reduction due to NHS funding :(
I am now in my thirties and have learnt to accept my body although it's taken a long time, good friends and a lovely husband. Having a mummy tummy to focus on helps direct my attention somewhat too! Saying that though, it still only takes a snide comment, ill fitting clothing or bra shopping to tip me over.
However, I now have a daughter myself and i have already decided that if she has my figure and the body issues I had as a teenager I will pay for a breast reduction for her - I can't bear the thought of her enduring what I went through.
I definitely recommend bravissimo, in particular the Freya range of bras. They do really lovely styles in good colours and wide range of sizes.
Sending your daughter hugs x

Oh, forgot to say, push off profilewithoutaname. It's clear the OP is looking for advice.

Bravissimo is fab - that will boost her confidence