Anyone else got a slim dd with big boobs?

[dingit]

Just had a stressful shop, managed to get new bras. But we had floods of tears over her size, people make comments etc. she then realised she needs a new swimsuit, which of course we couldn't find. What can I do to boost her self esteem?

@Shlurpbop

I'm sorry but I really can't believe the amount of people here on this forum posting all kinds of private stuff about their children.

You do realize this is an open forum and EVERYONE can read this!

If you need help ask for help in a lingerie shop. I'm sure she won't be the first teen they meet who isn't happy with her body.

They know what they are doing.
What if she reads this? That will surely help to boost her confidence and trust in her parents when you find out they post private stuff about you online.

My kiddo doesn't know I post here OR my name so meh

@qod
A child doesn't need to know what name you use. If you post enough private information on here...
Then the person will recognize him/herself in it.

This thread started on the 5th of January. If someone went out shopping with her mum that day or just before the 5th and:

• she's 15 years
• blond hair
• is 5 ft 1.
• has a boyfriend
• Is slim with large breasts.
• A nice lady measures her breasts by m&s
• she didn't tried on a bra.
• Brought new bras by m&s
• Has been crying about her breast size and comments she gets on them
• comments come from her boyfriend, friends
• Then looked for a new swimsuit, but couldn't find it.

More then enough information on there for the person to understand that it's about her or that it could be about her.

Always nice to find out your mother posts this type of personal stuff about you on some forum and thinks it's ok because she uses a different name.

Whatever

John Lewis is another good place, not a very big choice of bras for the teeny of back big boobed girls but the ones they do have are simple and pretty. Back size goes to a 28 which isn't really small enough for the very skinnies though.

Another 26E here - Bravissimo sorted us out (expensively)

@ profilewithoutaname
Actually I wish mumsnet had been around when I was a teen and I wish my mum could have asked for advice.
She then would have known where to take me to get me properly fitted, to get a bra that made me stand well and made me feel a bit better about myself.
Leave the OP alone - she's concerned about her daughter and is looking for advice to help her.

She probably knew that herself as she has got big breasts herself. And if all she needed to know was where to get a bra for ladies with a big cup. Then that was all she needed to ask.

I was that teenager. I had a reduction at 21.
I'm not saying you should encourage her to have surgery, but if it's bothering her that much it's worth making her aware there are options.
It changed my life, completely.

Really?

DD & most of her friends are in 32/34 b/c; when DD wanted to wear a 'proper' bra rather than a sports bra we spent months buying bras trying them on & then taking them back before DD agreed to come to Bravissimo & be fitted properly. Her friends are horrified she is wearing a 28DD (26s aren't made) as she is 'tiny'

Breaking away from the herd is a big issue - as is finding a bra that fits - the intervention threads are a clear example of this

I was the same as a teen. I know that being blonde doesn't make your boobs look bigger but ime it does make people more likely to treat you as a bimbo or sex object.

I struggled until I discovered Bravissimo and can't rate them highly enough for bras, bikinis and vest tops . I think a day out to one would be good as all of the fitters are experienced in the emotional side as well as proper fitting.

What I wish I'd had more help with was the emotional impact. From around age 11 I would constantly (2-3 times a week) have random men pulling their cars up next to me to chat me up when I just happened to be walking along or waiting at the bus stop, I didn't wear revealing clothes. My mum had the same figure as a teen and had been made feel ashamed of her figure. Her way of countering that was to almost encourage the attention I got and I think in some weird way it made her proud and she was reliving her teens through me. She thought I should be pleased with the attention. I piled on the weight as I got older and I know believe this was in part due to wanting to almost camouflage myself. If my mum had seeked advise on here I may have avoided the body issues I've had for the last 15 years.

@Whitershadeofpale

I don't think a proper fitted bra would have changed your teenage years. It's just a sick crazy world out there. I think just about any female teen gets unwanted male attention at some point. One more then the other.

Just depends on how you look, where you live, how you dress and how you deal with the attention.

It's not nice that your mum relived her own teenage years threw you. But also that happens more then you think.

She has got a point with that you should be proud on yourself. It doesn't matter really how you look. Just feel happy with you being you.

Take a look at this man

Born without arms and legs, but happy with him being him. Looking at what he has instead of what he hasn't got.

I was that teenage girl too and I think for me the but that was horrible about it was I had this sexualised body that men made comments about and women were bitchy over, before I was a sexual being at all.

Once I was an older teenager and had sex and was learning about my sexuality etc I became much more comfortable with my body. Alas that only comes with time.

It wouldn't have changed but having a well fitting bra made me feel less of a freak who couldn't be catered for.

There are 2 problems for the OPs daughter as I see it. One is that she is worried about finding well fitting bras and bikinis. This can be easily solved.

The other side is how she feels about the unwanted attention and comments she receives. This is a much harder problem but hopefully our shared experiences could go someway to helping.

The boyfriend needs to beat the crap out of his friends, or she needs a new boyfriend.

If this is the treatment he thinks she merits from his friends then he is not the right boyfriend for her.

DD2 has a really slim figure and 36 DD on top. The one boy (not a boyfriend) who ever made a comment, weirdly enough, has a mother whose norks are probably JJJJJJJJ. DD2 poured a cup of Coke on him.

It's nothing to do with her boobs. It's about other people who are really badly brought up.

dingit

If you can get measured at Bravissimo so you know the size required then it is worth trying brastop.com:

www.brastop.com/

They sell a lot of the same styles as Bravissimo but are a bit cheaper and they always seem to have sales. You can sign up for email alerts for their sales and they often have special offers and cheap deals especially if you are not bothered about colour and just want to find a bra that fits!

I'm a bit bigger in the back and not as big in the cup but I think they start at size 28 back and go up to J or JJ cup sizes I think. Might even go up to K in some styles.