what does a teenager (16) take to a party these days?

[equisiy]

cans of soft drink? Big bag of crisps? DS thinks nothing.

Booze

Alcohol - if someone will buy it for them. We dot end to buy some for ds3 when he goes to a party, because then we know what he's drinking.

Not the answer I was hoping for! DS can't drink - meds. The age group will be 14-17 but I guess you will all still say alcohol. Cans of cola look pathetic?

I was going to say booze, but given your 2nd post he should take some of whatever he wants to drink - to ensure that there is something he can drink.

Booze. But if not, probably nothing?

Nothing if not booze. But may be sensible to take something he can drink.

Alcohol - bought by parents with said teen in tow so that you can have a discussion about safe drinking levels and ABV content which they will probably ignore when one of their mates brother's buys them vodka, but you know what happened when I found out don't you, DS1

This post made me smile. At a similar age I suggested I could get my daughter, as a treat, a pack of J20 to take to a party. I still remember the look of horror on her face! Sadly only booze (and condoms!) is deemed acceptable party supplies.

Oh well, my ds must be really uncool then - he tends to go out and buy a big bottle of coke or tano or something - I've instilled in them it's polite to take something if someone is hosting a party.
When he was 16 we let him have a couple of cans of cider a few times, but he's not really bothered by beer or cider, so he's happier with the pop. (He's 17 now, and plenty of his friends turning 18)

Condoms???

Wkds or fruit cider.

But if he can only drink pop,it's ok for him to take a bottle of coke.

BackforGood you have restored my hope

Do appreciate all MNetters responses.

usualsuspect trying to convince him it's okay to take bottle of coke as I type.

Mine has a party on Friday and a party on Saturday. She is taking booze to both. This has been carefully negotiated. What we have not carefully negotiated is the amount of booze and the quality thereof. Is a can of cider okay, do you think? She is thinking a bottle of bubbly.

Not many teenagers like bubbly I don't think.

There are some lovely fruit ciders around now.

I used to get dd lots of food, crisps etc and muffins. Anything to soak up the alcohol which she assured me she wouldn't drink.

I didn't ever buy alcohol for them ot take to parties. It's illegal for a start and I didn't want to add to all the bottles that would be there anyway.

It's on the news today actually that they want to significantly increase fines for parents/adults buying alcohol for under 18s.

red bull?

I would say a 2/3 cans (of the weak stuff) - parties tend to last for a few hours. What kind of bubbly is she thinking of?

All the teens around here drink cider. 4 cans of whatever's on offer. If he doesn't drink some cans of Coke would be welcome.
And yes to ensuring they're alcohol aware.

DS1 is 16 and off out to "meet mates" this evening. He's taking £10 with him - if he can buy it, he can have it! (Knowing full well he will not be able to buy alcohol without ID - which he doesn't have)

Oh dear, I just want to freeze my DDs at 12. I know I was boozing at parties at 16 but I don't want them to be.

energy drink sounds a good compromise, if your dc can drink that op?

my dd wanted vodka, but i got her fruit cidar, which made her happy.

If we choose for our teenage children to drink alcohol in our own homes that is up to us but I would be most unhappy to find alcohol supplied at a party for this age group 14-17. Either by the host or by other guests.

I know I'm not the only one with such (puritanical) views as my friends think the same.... may be if it was just 16-17 year old perhaps.

Similarly when I have young people visiting my house I not let them watch films classified above their age or play video games with certificate above their age - unless I have prior consent from the parents.

I don't think there will be 14 year olds at this party - will there? Tbh, I think there is quite a big difference between 14 and 17 year olds. I certainly wouldn't have been happy with either of the teens being provided with alcohol at 14, but now that DS is 16 and going to parties with 16/17 year olds I'm a bit more relaxed about it.

Another reply which is good to hear MrsTaraPlumbing. DS thinks I am only one who thinks this way.