I'm engaged, the parents won't let my fiancée move in!

[youaretooyoung97]

I'm 17 and been with my partner for 2 years, been engaged for 3 months, and the fiancée asked for blessing from my parents before proposing. 2 weeks ago I raised the subject of him moving in, and without thought, my dad said no. I won't argue with my parents. It's their house, their rules, and I'm their daughter, but I think it's unreasonable that they'd agree to us getting married, but not to us living together? Is there anything I could do to change their mind? Oh, and he has a full time job, willing to pay £100 a week for rent and I'm not allowed to move to his either.

[cory]

If you are engaged to this boy, then you have committed to a whole life with him. Waiting one or two years really won't make any difference in that perspective. Dh and I had a 10 year long engagement. We have been together 30 years. It's a very strong relationship.

[specialsubject]

once you are 18, get a job with enough money to let you get a flat with him. No reason for your parents to support another adult. Nothing to stop you leaving at 18.

I wouldn't rush the wedding. A relationship that starts at 15 needs to be proved until you are both 25 as you will both change hugely. If you are still together then, get hitched.

[mrsjay]

you are old enough to be engaged to be married means you are old enough to move out your dad might be very domineering and old fashioned and he will never give his blessing for you to move out but it is something as a grown up you will have to do to live your own life blimey you could get married tomorrow if you wanted to elope to scotland and not need his permission for anything

[ChanelTunel]

OP,what are you thinking? There's a houseful of kids anyway. When your dad gave his blessing for your engagement,he probably thought that one of you was going to stand on their own two feet,at last,albeit the youngest.

[Cohomological]

Moving out at 18 is not "growing up too fast".
I felt at 20 and feel that I took too long to do so. Sitting in my parents home teaching myself algebraic topology was fun, but I needed to be out there, living my own life!

[joanofarchitrave]

It's perfectly possible to pay less than £100 a week to rent a double room in a shared house.