Mixed gender sleepovers, ok and a big NO?????

[MaryRose]

So here's the dilemma, DD12 (nearly 13) wants to go to the movies then sleepover at best friend's for birthday next week....so far so good...but then I find out that amongst others a couple of boys will be going to the movie and sleeping over too. Now don't get me wrong, I do trust DD 100%, she's a top student who's won academic awards this year,applies herself at school and swims and does other sports to a high level, apart from the usual teenage hassles I have no bother with her BUT it just doesn't feel quite right to allow this, what do others think? And if I say no how can I do it without all hell breaking loose???!! ;-)

[MaryRose]

Blimey is this thread still running?! We'be long ago moved on to the next set of crises (fall outs with friends, sexting, just being a plain old Moody teen) I suppose I should take that ad a comfort that all these phases do pass!!!

[XHZELLO]

actually, my Lil sis is about to have one of these, I didn't think much of it. it's just three of them. her a friend and another friend wich is a boy (he always hangs w/ girls!!!) so for me, not a biggie. 'ave a good one!

[Ohyesiam]

I think if be more cooperative at 12/13 than at 15/16. Of want to talk to the host patents about boundaries, and what the set up would be, and if I liked their attitude, I could be persuaded.
My anxious side worked that

[Ohyesiam]

Oops, my anxious side worries that with porn on tap, even very young boys will have skewed ideas about what to expect of girls. I try not to make fear based decisions though.

[M0stlyBowlingHedgehog]

Another zombie thread from the mists of pre-history. The 13 year old in the OP will be 17 now.

What is it with bumping all the zombie threads these days? How the fuck do people find them?

[3catsandcounting]

Probably because they've got a current problem with a 12 year-old and are trawling through Mumsnet typing in keywords ("12 year-old" - "Sleepovers")
It makes little difference if the thread is current or not, when you're searching for advice on an age-old issue.

[LucyLocketLostIt]

Definitely say no. She's only 12. She's still a child and is vulnerable.

[Mrgrowlyface]

It's fine! My son has LOADS of mixed sleepovers nothing ever happened, however it really does apply to the child

[Nb65988]

Where exactly is the sex taking place is the parents not supervising y should trust her but dont be naive and think cause someone is into there education but she's 12 most people would find kids having sex at that age disturbing