Last night my DD, 15, announced that we were to collect her from a party at 11.
We had previously told her she could go to the party, but needed to arrange lifts too and from, as we frequently end up playing taxi to everyone elses kids, and we felt she needs to take responsibility.
She said she had arranged a lift there, but we had to collect her and her friend back.
Of course its very easy to be the parents that take them at 7:30, not so much when you have to collect them at 11. We declined, she threw a wobbler, but arranged something.
ALso, DH was away all last week, and is away all next week, so I wanted a night in with him with a couple of glasses of wine - i didnt want to have to stay sober to go and get her at 11, (as if Im driving, I dont drink.)
She wrote on facebook that we were staying in to get drunk while making her walk home 35+ mins. Broadcast to all her friends, many of whom are my friends and relatives. Only her grandparents and parents restricted from this post. We saw it at around 9:30/ 10ish
She claimed she had a lift home and would be leaving the party at 11. By 11:30, no sign, so DH went to fetch her.
As a point of order, we have an alcohol meter at home, and both of us were under the legal driving limit. SO hardly a drunken night in.
So now all her friends and many of my friends think Im a negligent drunk. WHile I know my friends will ask me what the story is, her friends will just accept her version of events. Im so embarrassed and humiliated.
If this wasnt bad enough, last week we finally decided to pursue our dream of becoming foster parents, and sent the forms off on Friday.
I feel very strongly that she must accept the consequences of her actions. I dont know what to say to her or what I will do now.
Thismorning she left the house with a backpack at 7:15 and went running off. I have no idea where she is, and have text her to say she must be home by 10am. Ive had no response.
She writes a GCSE tomorrow morning.
WHat do I do?