Ds, 17, has been brought home drunk by his friends - any tips to get him safely through the night?

[likemotherlikeson]

He's just sleeping at the moment. Apparently he has been sick a couple of times. I feel surprisingly ignorant of what to do. His female friends are being very concerned and solicitous.

He'll be pathetic and sore headed tomorrow, but that should be the worst of it. Glad he's had some water and kept it down. Maybe in an hour or so if he's perked up a bit give him a slice of toast and marmite. Berocca works wonders the following day too. Or make him suffer. I do sometimes - depends on DD1's level of stupidity .

DD17 did this once when she was 16.

She threw up a few times and I got her to drink water but she threw most of it up.

I "slept" on the floor by the side of her bed (was awake all night - checking on her frequently) to make sure she didn't vomit and choke on it.

She had a very early start the next day for a 4 hour coach trip to visit a friend. Mostly very hungover but perhaps just still a little bit drunk, she was sick into a carrier bag (twice) on the coach and it was the most hideous experience of her life.

She hasn't wanted to get drunk again and now only ever has a couple of drinks to be sociable/ get slightly tiddly.

Hope your DS is ok OP... he's not the first and he won't be the last.

Thanks, I hope it will be a lesson to him. [stern look]

They were the most exemplary group of friends to do it with, bless them.

Really impressed by his mates. Keep them.

don't forget to tell him he was saying how much he loved you and you were the best mummy in the world.
Hoover in the morning and possibly re- arrange your kitchen pans and check to see if all the doors slam shut in your home.

Schtum - DD17? I guess you must have had lots of experience of teenagers then - lol .

Agree his mates are cracking.

On the quality of his mates, it shows the benefit of sending him to the small local primary school round the corner, rather than anything more academic. They have known each other since age 3, have all played in each other's houses, and us parents are friends too.

Anyway he has woken up without so much as a headache!

Apparently his drunkenness was due to a cider drinking competition with the Very Pretty Girl (benefits of a strict upbringing, eh?) Plus the subequent mixing of rum and vodka.

I stayed up watching him breathe until 2am, at which point he got up, explained to me that he had to find a shirt to wear, went to the loo, spent ages doing up his jeans flies and very exactly doing up his belt, then I pushed him back onto his bed and went to bed myself.

And, as I say, this morning he is free of all adverse effects except for the godalmighty flea in his ear.

Thank you for all your help. I was shocked that I knew so little about how to deal with the drunk.

Glad to hear he's ok this morning.

NOT glad to hear he's not suffering. Keep that flea buzzing I say!

I'd love to tell you it won't happen again, but experience with my own teens suggests that it will might be a possibility

I know. At least dd is learning fast. She was all agog last night. When she saw I was seriously going to sit in ds' room with a book - all night if necessary - she said "You're very loyal, aren't you?" Aw.

Hello, likemotherlikeson, I loged on to Mumsnet for the very first time (originally thought it was just for mums with babies and toddlers!) after similar episode with my son to see if anyone has advice about this teenage stage.
Same thing happened to us the other day, son (16) got paralytically drunk for the first time at a "friends" house, we were called to get him in in the middle of the night (it had already been agreed, with some misgivings, that he was staying over). Apparently he had been very, very ill for hours but they hadn't tried to contact us earlier. The phone call made it sound like he was going to die any minute, it was terrifying, they had called an ambulance earlier but didn't tell us this either.

Anyway, to cut a long story short we got him home and then sat up with him all night (like the other parents on this thread), and apart from a squiffy tummy he wasn't too bad the next day.
I guess this won't be the last time but anyone managed to get through to their teen that this really isn't a good idea?

dontwotzme - My DS18 does get very affectionate when he's sloshed...comes and drapes himself over me and tells me how much he loves me and how wonderful I am. The other night he went out in town for a friends 18th and left a note on the landing saying how much he loved us and that we were the best family in the world...he doesn't remember writing it. LOL

Needless to say it isn't a frequent or overly concerning occurrence, in fact it's rather sweet :-) (not the drunkeness but the fact that he gets all lovey dovey)

Hi there, Stepaway. Welcome to MN. I could not get through such nights without it. MN and NHS Direct - how did kids survive before them?

Ds has not done it again, so I think he knows it was a bit stupid. We recently left him home alone for a few days and gave him a lecture about the evils of drink before leaving. He was cross. I hope it was some kind of lesson.

He didn't do the loveydovey stuff though; but we did find out he weighs an absolute ton if you have to get him upstairs without being able to walk.