DD swore at me.

[funnyperson]

What would others do?

DD (age 17) got a B in one of her mock exams and I said 'oh dear' so she swore at me and put the phone down. Now I realise I should have said 'its only a mock' or similar and in this instance her reaction is understandable, but even so I'm a bit fed up with the swearing which is getting to be a habit. She de-friended me from facebook after I asked her to delete a swear word from her wall.

I am not prepared to tolerate swearing in my presence really so I would like to know how other parents of older teens deal with this.

What I propose to do is let her know I think it unacceptable and ask for an apology when she next speaks to me. And I shan't ring her back. Is this very overbearing?

Good point Mad, blame the wine and the rather dodgy keyboard! Only went to Oxford and read English!!!!!

The 'Oh dear' to a B in a mock is acceptable with a high achieving child. This would be their reaction as well and if you had congratulated her she would have thought you had flipped. But swearing at a parent is not acceptable and she should apologise. Unfortunately both my teens swear, but then so do I! However, there is a difference between using swear words in conversation and swearing at a person. She phoned back and apologised and all's well in the funnyperson household - end of.

My children have never sworn at me, though I know they swear when with their friends. I've never heard them; I just know, because they are normal teenagers.

I don't think you were supportive at all and for that, I think you should apologise to her. I think she would feel very stressed at the thought of phoning you with that result.

Just out of interest, did you ever get anything below an A in school/college?

Actually, OP, the more I think about this, the more I think you should have phoned her with an apology, not mentioning her language at all.

I'd have wanted to swear at you too to be frank! What's with the 'Oh dear'?

I think you should phone and explain that you said the wrong thing and you;re sorry about that. Then there's a chance she might apologise to you.

You need to work at a relationship, not carry on with the same old Mum Rules that must be obeyed at all times regardless of the situation.

ah, I see she apologised to you very quickly. What a lovely girl.