Found a packet of contraceptive pills in my 17y/o bag

[curlychick16]

Not completely surprised but was hoping for some advise how to approach the subject. I shouldn't have been looking !!

Add a pack of condoms and see if she ask's you where they came from!

Why do you need to broach the subject? She's 17 and being responsible. I know it's hard, but it's her business, and stay out of her bag!

She us being sensible and is over the age of consent. Why were you looking in her bag. Don't ask her it isn't your business although I appreciate it is a shock when DC grow up and do grown up things.

No, you shouldn't have been looking. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but your daughter has sorted her contraception out without feeling the need to consult you- why is there any need for you to broach the subject with her? She's 17, she has chosen to do this without you.

what is there to broach? seems like you have done a good job on the contraception front. i agree with ronshar. toss her a pack of dukeys just to cover the STI and of things and leave her to it.

mary why would OP do that when she knows her DD is on the pill. what is tehre to open up about?

Don't approach the subjct at all. It's none of your business.

but maryz, there is no conversation to be had? what can the OP's daughter possibly have to tell her mum other than "i am on the pill" which OP already knows?

Congratulations on raising a sensible and mature daughter??

she doesn't need to know that her mum knows. but i take your point. i wouldn't feel the need to let my DD know that i knew in this scenario but if it was to do with finding cigarettes in a 13 year olds room i would just tell them i was snooping and take the flack. i think at 17, unless you are worried about something, you have no need to be snooping though.

I don't really think there is any discussion to have. However, I know this is the kind of thing my mum would want to talk to me about. If you usually discuss these things with her, why don't you have a general chat with her about whether she has a boyfriend, and the usual cringy conversation about condoms and STDs that any daughter will probably hate...

She's 17, leave her some privacy.

Good on your daughter being responsible.

Keep out of her stuff.

eh ?

why do you need to "broach it" ?

You can have a general conversation about boyfriends, taking care within relationships etc etc but tbh, I would be glad to find contraceptives in a 17yo's bag

Don't mention it.

My mum snooped and found my contraceptive pills when I was 17, and I really wish she'd just kept her mouth shut about it. She was cross, and confused, and involving herself in something that was really none of her business.

As it happens, I'd been prescribed them to help control very heavy periods (I hadn't had sex with anyone at that point), and the only reason I hadn't told her was because I knew she wouldn't believe me. It's quite sad really, looking back.

Thats the thing we talk really openly and I am always informed about boyfriends etc....so am actually feeling a bit hurt that she didnt feel able to discuss it with me :( But I totally take your point about not snooping.

ps....cos I am new to this what is OP and DD have been trying to work it out ???

actually I think it's worth having a conversation about safe sex - protection against STIs, relationships etc as pills just for pregnancy. This conversation should have been had a long time ago - I hope this find has galvanised you to act. And stop snooping OP!

OP - original post/poster
DD - daughter (dear daughter)

OP = original poster (the person who started teh thread)

DD is darling daughter, just short for daughter.

oops, not darling, dear.

OP...original post or original poter 9that is you on this thread)

DD-darling (or dear) daughter

there is a list of acronyms somewhere

Aww don't feel hurt. She is growing up and maybe not needing to discuss every decison she makes with you ?

Just have a general chat and see if she raises the subject herself. and remind her she can talk to you about anything.

being an adult means there are things you may not wish to discuss with your mother, though