DD is 16, she has just started sixth form. She lives with DH, me and 2 other Sisters.
She does not get any EMA money which has really annoyed her, she is also cross with us about it!
She refuses to look for part time work as she has to study (fair enough) and she wants a social life too!
The chore that she does at home consists of emptying the clean dishwasher Monday - Friday. She feels that she does not need to do anything else, her words were she is not our slave!
I have become very firm in the last few weeks and have refused to give her any money apart from school trip yesterday. We will still pay for her phone as its on contract and the mobile hairdresser comes once a month.
She feels that she is so hard done by, she borrows the other 2DDs clothes, this I wouldn't mind if she cared for them but she doesnt and has ruined many of DD2 things. She does have nice clothes, but because she is so careless and her room is a pigsty (thats another thread!!!) Her things very rarely go to wash, so she looks for other peoples things to wear instead!
If you saw DD out in the town she looks immaculate, hair just so etc...
She is loved dearly but she is so down on us as a family as our living room furniture is old etc...
Although DD is not entitled to EMA, we cant get through to her that we are not rich! We made a bad choice in property a few yrs ago and managed to get negative equity, we had to move etc.. so our mortgage and out goings is huge on this place, and although we have sat her down and told her, she still holds it against us.
I have quite openly said that if she starts to do more around the house then we would find some pocket money for her. She will only half attempt a job and I will not pay. Also it will only last for a week or two then she forgets or starts to get mouthy and complains bitterly that the other 2DDs are doing nothing. The jobs I ask her to do are - hoovering through out downstairs
- cook an occasional meal
- help to change the beds
- polish the living room
- the airing cupboard
- small amount of all the DDs ironing (non of mine or DHs)
- cut the lawn
- washing/hanging it out etc..
I would never expect her to do all these jobs in one week, but a two - three a week would be fab!
Sorry to go on, have no idea where to take this any further, on one hand she can be absolutely gorgeous, but then on the otherhand I want her to stand up and take a little bit of responsibility for her life and her consequences.