She is 19 and has ADHD and borderline personality disorder, both only recently diagnosed. She struggled so much to come to terms with the diagnosis, particularly the BPD. She has a long history of self harm, suicide attempts and addictive behaviours. She had been doing so well, she’s holding down a good job, working full time but has always found relationships and friendships difficult and doesn’t have many people in her life.
She recently started seeing a much older man who is a drug dealer and abuser with a long criminal record. He started providing her with cocaine and alcohol and she’s been using both heavily. I have been doing my best to support her and get her away from him. Today I came home and the house smelt weird, like she’d been smoking cigarettes but a stronger burning smell. I went and snooped in her room and found lots of crack paraphernalia. She is asleep and doesn’t know I have found it. I need to talk to her when she wakes up but I’m so scared of what to say and how she’ll react. She is extremely volatile and often verbally abusive. I have spoken to the Frank helpline and will follow their advice but I just know it won’t go down well. I desperately want to help her, she is so lovely and beautiful and worth so much more than this. I just don’t know where to start.
I would really appreciate any advice.