No idea! Husband has had a 10 year addiction

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He has been taking 1200 mgs of codeine a day!! I only found it as we have a courtesy car and I found them in the glove compartment by accident.
He is so sorry and promised never again. He is going cold turkey with advice from the Dr and is a complete mess. I will support him through this but I am not sure I can forgive him. I feel like it is 10 years wasted and been a complete lie.
I don't even know where to start. I am supposed to start a new job on the 13th but that won't be happening.

Any advice anyone? I feel broken. He has been getting them from a dodgy guy who he met outside a pharmacy. On the outside he has a good job etc and it is such a shock. There have been no signs!! Where and how do I start to process this?

Please don’t let this cause you to lose your new job if you’re looking forward to it. This might sound overly simplistic but you knowing doesn’t change the reality of the situation. He is just as addicted now as he was when you didn’t know and will be functioning the same if he comes off the pills in the right way. He won’t need you at home with him.

As an aside does he have any adhd traits - before being diagnosed as I was chancing highs to help me concentrate and focus - mainly from sugar and caffeine but I think codeine might have the same effect

Chasing highs not chancing them!

"I am supposed to start a new job on the 13th but that won't be happening."

WTF why not?
Start the job.

Why can't you start a new job on 13th? You need a job!