My boyfriend lives with his mother who is an active crack user. She recently started using Fentanyl again as well. I cannot stand her. She doesn't give a fuck about how it's affecting my boyfriend and how depressed and suicidal it has made him. She continues to use every day and pathologically lie about her sobriety and where money is going and shows my boyfriend no respect.
I've told him he should cut her out of his life, ignore her existence in the house and just detach emotionally from her. But he says he can't do that. I've told him to stop helping her with things. She's like an overgrown child who asks him to help her with even simple mundane tasks all average adults do. He says he's tried that in the past and it won't help. I'm at a loss here. She's ruined the last two months for him and it's infuriating. I cannot stand this woman. She's used since he was in the womb, been sober a few times but always gone back.
She talks about going to detox and back into a rehab program but the detox is a multi-month waiting list at this point. He's afraid she will end up dead before she can get help.
What advice would be recommended in this situation? I know there's no "fixing" it but I want my boyfriend quality of life to be safe.