do you mind if your dh tells you you've put weight on?

[brimfull]

I always ask my dh to and he refuses

bloody scaredy cat

My DH isn't that brave or that stupid.

he's probably kind rather than scared

yes - though he's also the first to compliment me on losing weight when I want to too..

Yep he tells me, it makes me want to eat a huge cake in front of him

I know he is truly lovely and openly admits to preferring curvy size 16 birds..he is slim , which always surprises people when they meet him after knowing me (strange)

apple-yes I am a rebel at heart as well

My DH is annoyingly slender too - even more annoyingly both our boys take after him....

I wish he would. I've put on weight recently, to the extent that I'm having to go shopping this weekend for some new trousers. If he said he thought I was looking a bit wobbly instead of telling me how gorgeous he thinks I look I'd be horrified, and more inclined to do something about it.

Depends how he says it...

For example, I have put weight on recently and when I ask DP about it he confirms but in a nice way which is fine. And if he denied it, I would take no notice as it would be clear he was deluded/lying.

However, when I reach for yet another biscuit and he looks (you know what I mean. No comment but very definitely A Look) then it's really flipping irritating. Even though I am well aware that if I don't want to put on weight, I should leave the biscuits alone, I don't want to be reminded of that fact when I am very much about to enjoy a maryland cookie (currently on half price at the local shop. Eat twice as many!)

yes maisie I think it would help me in the long battle of keeping my weight stable

It annoys me more if he doesn't notice when I have lost some. He would never say I have put weight on but he does tell the truth if I say I look fat.

My Dh doesn't mean to tell me, but he always makes an unfortunate comment or joke that I then take "all the wrong way" eg. I was moaning about the half stone I'd put on at Christmas and how I wanted to lose it and he sid, all innocent "Oh, is it only half a stone?"

plimsolls -I know that 'look'
it makes me want to eat more nut he won't admit to the 'look' and hence I rebel

The only way to tell a woman that she has put on weight is to grab her bum and go 'phwwoooor!" or alternatively the traditional breast grasp and making a noise like 'bbbbbbbdddddbdbdbdbbbd' into the cleavage will do.

If I ask, he'll say. He's very honest and sometimes it annoys me a bit but I bite my tongue because I do value having someone who will tell me the truth!

On the plus side, when he says I look good, I know he really means it

nemo-dh does that all the time given a chance -now I know!!

my dh told me at the park today that i need to lose weight off my bum. its true but hes so blunt about it!

how could it be a good thing? i would be horrified. i have a mirror, after all. i also refrain from those - i'm feeling fat sort of comments. better to keep it to yourself and do something about it.

I think it has to be said in the right way.......but, personally, I appreciate my DP telling me stuff like this completely honestly.

ggirl

If I got skinny I know dh would start buying me pizza, cake and digestives... That makes him sound like a feeder but I don't mean it that way!

DH says he would 'if it was bad'. I don't know what is 'bad' but I assume, since he doesn't notice minor changes such as a completely new haircut or new outfit, that it would have to be enough to really change my shape.

I don't know if I'd want him to tell me, though. Probably, I suppose- staying fairly slim is quite important to me.

DH tells me, and as he is relatively tactful, I don't mind (would rather know so I can do something about it).

I fret about my weight constantly sometimes and, because I know DP would confirm if it was noticeable, I can also trust him when he says it is not noticeable. Which is good, for me.

Taken with my earlier post, I don't make any sense. Hmm. Addled brain.

First post refers to right now, second post refers to various points in the past and was attempting to answer the question about how it could be a good thing, i.e. sometimes when you look in the mirror and think you look noticeably bigger, it is nice to be reassured by someone who you know tells the truth.

Oh yes I get "the look"
Or if I have lost a couple of pounds he'll say "well you were looking a bit porky"
Now I am 6 feet tall, 11 and a half stone and size 14.
If he looked like the topless man in Abercrombie and Fitch I wouldn't mind, but sadly he looks more like Mr Bean.