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What do I wear now Im a proper grown up goth?

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GothMummy · 28/09/2009 22:18

Im so sure I cant be the only one with this style dilemna? Im in my early 30s, with one son, who is nearly 4. The day my son was born I went from being a person who could not leave the house without full goth makeup and who wore corsets and new rock boots to do the supermarket shop to someone who pulls on jeans bought in Tesco and hardly has time to wear eyeliner

For the first 2 years, I used demand nursing and sleep deprivation as the reason for my crappy look. But now I have no excuse!

I clearly cant dress like I used to anymore (unsuitable for playgrounds and keeping up with an energetic 4 year old) but Im sick of looking "blah" and crap and wearing supermarket clothes that I hate.

Are there any websites for inspiration? Shops? Catalogues? I want to dress like the responsible mother that I am (I also work in Education so need a smart look!) but be true to myself, not look in the mirror and cry!

OP posts:
BobtheWoodmouse · 28/09/2009 22:21

Allsaints?

It's not cheap though but the sales are good. It might bridge the gap between goth and responsible mother

Original poster
GothMummy · 28/09/2009 22:28

Thanks for that! I have never even heard of AllSaints, having been in a style Vacuum for some time. The clothes look lovely on a quick glance (love the hunting jacket!)

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tulpe · 28/09/2009 22:48

Dorothy Perkins now do a range influenced by All Saints called Saints of Soul (I think......will look) for a fraction of the price.

Yep, here it is

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GothMummy · 28/09/2009 23:23

Thanks Tulpe! You lot are fantastic. I knew Mumsnet would help me out!

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opinionatedmother · 30/09/2009 20:30

@goth mummy - sympathetic to your cause!

i found nice proper velvet skirts (you know, silk velvet ones) in knee length with e.g tight wrap top in complementary dark shade with flats or low heels (victorian lace ups?) together with 3/4 length black coat ...

how about desigual?

for striking colours (though costly)

mummee09v · 01/10/2009 07:27

give up the goth look!!!!! you are over 30 now and a mum!!! IMO looks bad on 18 year olds, even worse on fully grown adults!!!!

sorry!!

BTW this is coming from someone who is WELL into her rock music (not goth tho lol) but as i am now sadly heading for 30 and a mum of 2 i no longer "dress rock". used to in my teens and early 20's but just don't think its appropriate for my age!!!

ps-maybe keep some goth outfits just for nights out / gigs etc??

frakkinpannikin · 01/10/2009 12:57

Er why give it up? Admittedly the full on look is impractical but the OP recognises that!

opinionatedmother sounds spot on with her advice. Alternatively try underbust corsets with a shirt and smart trousers, lace style blouses, interesting tights and long cobwebby skirts.

Good luck.

opinionatedmother · 02/10/2009 13:32

having thought about it, my current work attire of black trousers crisp white shirt and bright purple v-neck could readily be Gothed up with boots with shiny buckles, some subtle jewellery and black dyed hair. Especially if you are more of a chunky Goth, than a girly romantic goth. Also readily affordable - eg £15 BOOTCUT BLACK TRews from

i think it's sad that i too slob about in ASDA jeans (too slummy even for Tescos!)

though if you are in Education, it's wise to make it clear that You Are The Man through your smart appearance.

janeite · 02/10/2009 16:40

Am a teacher with vague Goth residual.

Pencil skirts with a fish tail-ish flouncy bit serve me well, or longish close fitting pencil skirts like the 80s Japanese hobble skirts.

Purple accessories worn with black wide legged trousers and top.

Lacy tights with pencil or full skirts.

NancyBotwin · 02/10/2009 16:44

You might like this coat on a thread earlier this week

here

agingoth · 02/10/2009 16:49

'give up the goth look!!!!! you are over 30 now and a mum!!!'

nooooo!!

goth still lives. I wear a lot of black and purple still.

I also do velvet when I can (including brown and green velvet, v nice)

I dye my hair black on occasion and sometimes a nice purple (not neon purple tho have been tempted).

There is some great retro 50s stuff out there too, lovely for instance to wear black/white polka dot dress with cardi and red lipstick.

PersonalClown · 02/10/2009 16:55

Wear whatever you like!!
Says the 30 year old mum that is wearing these!!

tulpe · 02/10/2009 16:58

ah, now 50's chic is my forte I love, love, love 50's clothes and have spent many a happy afternoon trawling around vintage stores. Also love the 40's but my heart lies with the 50's.

Try Vivien of Holloway for some 50's gorgeousness

agingoth · 02/10/2009 17:00

there is also quite a good website called collectif.co.uk, I just bought a nice 50s dress and a purple leopard print cardi!

agingoth · 02/10/2009 17:01

personalclown- I like

thesockmonsterofdoom · 02/10/2009 17:05

Well I like to think I am a goth who has frown up a bit, I tend to wear skinny black jeans and goth tops, or 50's style stuff for going out. every one still calls me a goth so I must pull it off.
Blue banana are great for the more lesiurely goth stuff.

PersonalClown · 02/10/2009 17:11

I find Attitude has some great stuff and such a variety but again pricey.

frakkinpannikin · 02/10/2009 22:20

omigosh tulpe I love that site...

ensures it's bookmarked for future reference

pispirispis · 03/10/2009 16:13

Wow agingoth what a great site! Cool hoodies for a fiver. I'm skint and need some hoodies for the winter so will definitely be ordering some.

purepurple · 03/10/2009 16:23

I am a fully grown woman of 42 who has released the inner goth, that was hidden for sooo many years.
Now, I have reverted and most of my clothes are (once again) black, red or purple. i had a bit of an affair with navy blue in my 30's but now i wear black again.
I tend to pick out the gothy type clothes from the high street. New Look are surprisingly goth-inspired in the winter collections.
I am wearing a new look top today which is like a corseted governess's top with a pin stripe high waisted pencil skirt which i bought for a fiver from a high street shop.
I have on my lace up victorian boots which were from TK Maxx.
I have several long skirts that came from New Look and corset tops too.
You would be surprised at what you can find out there without spending a fortune on so called 'goth' speciality shops.

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad · 03/10/2009 16:23

Goth is dead. Steam punk is where is at!

pispirispis · 03/10/2009 16:25

Yay my hoodies are ordered. I'll be getting more stuff off that site...

pispirispis · 03/10/2009 16:27

BTW I'm nearly 32 and am showing no signs of changing the way I look (brightly dyed hair, tattoos, big boots). Don't care what anyone else thinks...

MortBlackCatResident · 03/10/2009 16:38

I too wear the goth look (with a bit of boho in there too). Apart from anything else i think it's really flattering and can be comfy (running round after dCs) too.

Grow up
Grow old
That's what i say.

purepurple · 03/10/2009 16:48

I have no intention of ever growing up.
God forbid
It does make dressing up for halloween a a whole lot easier.
I get lots of compliments on my 'costume' every year. I work in a children's nursery. I love dressing up, but halloween is the only time i get to wear my normal clothes to work.