I have got NOTHING to wear!!! please come hold my hand while I whimper...

[hereidrawtheline]

I am losing weight (thank god) I put on loads after having DS mainly due to some migraine med I was on that had weight gain as a side effect I am now off it and on another one which has weight LOSS as a side effect, result!! Anyway I am by no means slim again but I am too small for my grey tweed size 20 skirt, and jeans, they do literally fall off of me without any hesitation. But I am still too big for my pre-pregnancy size 12/14/16 skirts & trousers. I have one pair of jeans that fit me and some comfy trousers (track suit bottoms) and that is it. And 1 or 2 tops but none of them very smart at all.

Today I am going (in an hour!) to The Tiger Who Came to Tea, at our local civic theatre with DS, DH, and DS's honourary Grandad. I have spent a whole bloody hour trying clothes on and I just look like shit. I have finally settled on something I have managed to cobble together but I am so depressed!!! I just look so blah. And I used to be such a glamour puss. I can go clothes shopping tomorrow but I havent got loads of money to spend on myself and its been so long since I have gone shopping I dont even know where to go. I DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO GO! What to buy??? I dont want to spend a fortune as hopefully I will keep losing weight and settle back down somewhere nearer a 14.

Help!!!!!

primark/peacocks for instant fashion type stuff

ebay for second hand stuff whatever floats your boat - fat face/white stuff 16s are very generous.

new look for cheap jeans, tops and shoes.

Do you have a nice cardi to wear with your jeans and a top?

I 100%, wholeheartedly feel your pain.

I have lost enough weight that my maternity clothes look clown-like on me, but am nowhere near being back to a pre-preg size 12 .

I have a few pairs of stretchy black yoga pants and one pair of stretchy jeans that I rotate with various black sack-like tops. It is so depressing when you have somewhere nice to go .

My honest opinion is that it isn't worth buying much until you have settled at a weight that you are vaguely OK about. Until then, I would buy one or two cheap outfits that can be mixed and matched with different accessories. A pair of jeans and a pair of slightly dressier trousers? Or a p[air of jeans and a wrap dress? Dress up/down with different shoes/jewellery/scarves etc?

I am clutching at straws here. I personally don't even want to think about shopping for clothes until I have lost another stone at least....

I have a long cardi which is pinching my upper arms slightly as I got it in days gone by but its not too bad. Am wearing a cami under my top and although you cant see it the cami is riding up underneath and really winding me up!

I bought a fab dress from Zara for £25. It is quite floaty chiffony fabric but it is lined so not see through. The good thing about it is that it is a bit of a tent so you can wear it whatever size you are and put a belt with it if you want to. It looks good with skinny jeans or tights.

I'm loath to buy anything at the moment because I need to lose weight. Don't want to have lots of clothes that won't fit me.

My fear is I will never lose weight and will end up wearing shit clothes the rest of my life!

cardi,cami and jeans will do you for today and then you can shop for:
a longer top that doesnt ride up [or 2 or 3].
Pair of jeans
cardi that doesnt cut your arms
nice floaty top
nice tunic or wrap dress

sigh... thank you.

I love tunic tops. I realised ages ago I hate tops that just go to my waist. They need to skim my hips or lower to flatter me! Otherwise my hourglass looks more like Mr. Box.

Am also feeling crappola because have had migraine 3 days running though not excrutiatingly bad and have parked DS in front of tv while I have MN and tried on clothes all morning. Which he hates! And now I have to really get him ready and then clean the degus cage but I just want to look online at clothes!!!

are you near a debenhms? their red herring range is cheap and cheerful and washes reasonably well
you could get a good couple of jeans or trousers and some nice tops and a new jacket for nto too many pennies

treat yourslef to a couple fo really nice tops though - dontjust buy practical t shirts - it will cheer you up

monsoon has great tunic tops

dont buy a cardi
buy instead a fitted blazer or jacket or a spring mac. new look and next have loads
you will feel smarter
get a nice brooch for the lapel

Buy a cardi- I love cardis
They cover a multitued of sins and can be dressed up with brooches too.

waht kind of cardi do you buy? i alway feel a right frump in a cardi
i must be buyingthe wrong sort

must dash on my way out to feed rabbits and then off to the theatre!! will probably be thinking of clothes the whole time!

dress me while I am gone!

ta me hearties

Ok thin tightish cardi for wearing over cami or tight top-do up under bust and let the rest hang straight down to cover up bumps.
Black sensible cardi for wearing over everything. Buttons all the way up and hangs straight to cover aforementioned lumps-can be machine washed and need to be because it gets covered in snot, sticky fingers and food [nothing exciting just DDs]
Thick cardi for wearing as a jacket in spring/autumn. I have a black 'horizontal' one from M&S
Thickish ruffle cardi-waterfall at front type, fastened with a nice brooch.

thin tightish cardi reminds me of a 50's starlet - sounds cool! or a bit nigella...

Thats it- Nigella!

go to debenhams 25% sale tomorrow if you can. i bought dark denim kick flare jeans (stretch) from principles at debenhams yesterday. they are lovely, come high up enough to cover up the muffin top and a lovely dark colour. they were £45, in sale at £24.

Do they do big sizes like 18 at debenhams? The last time I shopped there I was a 14! And flymeto what is a horizontal cardi?

I like looking glam... I am simple though I wear a lot of grey. I do love my grey!

The jeans I am wearing today are 18 and they feel massive on me, very saggy even though they were just washed & dried yesterday, and droopy, but when I tried on the 16's in my cupboard they were too small!

The cardigan I have which I call horizontal is knitted horizontally. So it is like a shawl but shaped at the front with a shawl collar, no buttons, it has sleeves and has knitted in stripes horizontally.
I had trouble finding one after I saw it on somebody at playgroup and got mine eventually second hand.
I can't find one to show you. But I mean a thick type you can wear as a jacket.

have fun!

they defo do 16s - and principles are generous with sizing - i got into 12s......iam definitely NOT a 12!!!! red herring do do 18s and have loads of styles, but my muffin top hung over all their designs!!

I am leaning towards peacocks - have never been to their stores before but looking on their website today it looks pretty cheap and cheerful. But am open to persuasion!

hi hidtl!
i have a couple of suggestions for you, although i feel i am at a slight advantage as i know what you look like. Although, now i think about it, as you know what a scruffbag i am, you are unlikely to take my suggestions seriously!! anyway, what do you think of this one? or this? purple? [http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/berkertex-brown-dress-size-18_W0QQitemZ110359100023QQcmdZViewItemQQptZWomen_s Clothing?hash=item110359100023&trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=72:1685|66:2|65:12|39:1|240:1318 dont dismiss this either]]

see you soon xx

oh bugger i cant get it to work

ooh, pooter, i love the stripey one, please shop for me in future!

Hereidrawtheline - please tell me what migraine med you were on before, and what you're on now? [muntered-up migraine sufferer emoticon]