I'm going to a party on Saturday and I am going to be the oldest, fattest and ugliest

[lilibet]

I'm not exagerating either!

Dh is 10 years younger than me, his mates are all around the same age, all their wives/ girlfriends are younger than them.

I feel so uncomfortable if we are in a big group, I'm fine if we go out with just one other couple but when it's the whole lot of them I feel like I'm their mother. Doesn't help that my dd is 19 and therefore only a few years younger than some of them.

No matter what I wear I never feel right, I feel totally out of place, I hate that I feel like this. I am a confident person in most situations but not in this one. Tomorrow night I am running a quiz night for about 70 people and I know that if anyone who was there could read this, they would think it was a wind up.

I get worked up and upset and feel so sorry for dh who ends up offering not to go.

Someone please metaphorically slap me!

You should go with pride and with a smug grin that you are so hot you have a toyboy 10 years younger than you

Here is that slap you were after

should have done preview

here you go

Oi you
I do feel your pain - DP's youngest brother, who's early 30s, clearly thinks I am so very very ancient at 45 that surely I shouldn't be bothered about how I look in photos.

Can you pick an outfit you - and your lovely DH - know makes you look utterly fab, even if it's not the toplessbacklesspantlessness of some of the younger laydeeez?
xxx

invite me and then you won't be, head up, you are a beauitful woman, repeat and believe.

Thank you!

Because I don't fit in. Imagine a bunch of thin women in their twenties, with money to spend on clothes and into that group put a 45 year old mother of three, size 14/16 with a wardrobe that either consists of 'office clothes' or 'standing on a football pitch on a Sunday morning in the mud' clothes.

I stick out like a sore thumb.

A few years back after one of their number had just had a baby, she came to one of the parties. Oh the laughing about the size of her backside when she left the room was deafening. I told them all they were being horrid, told them to wait until they were in the same position, and then laugh.

Said mother now has a micro backside and mine is larger than hers ever was (sad)

they sound lovely

I thik it's a mob mentatlity, get any one of them on their own and they can be really nice.

Get the mob together with some alcohol..........

Oh darling, do you have to go? If TUTB wants to, why don't you stay in with a good book and a bottle and some ice-cream?

I would glory in not fitting in with that lot, by the sound of them...

Your dh picked you because he loves you.

The other women/girls are not important

and you've been there done that - you were a shallow 20 something once (as was I)

I honestly think that by the sound of them it's worth not going, really.

I don't have to go, but I think it's something I need to get over.

And eventually there will be things that I do have to go to and by not facing up to this now I am only postponing the invetible

you sound a squillion times better company than these whippersnappers..

gawd I would HATE to think I fitted in with such a bunch of twats, and I am in my 20s!

MI ans Lillibet are whippersnappers to me and I have a younger dh

I'm ancient to btw, older than lillibet and MI and have a dh 7 yrs younger

D'you remember the advice someone gave you when you were about to see your horrible ex in court, to have wild sex just before (not in the courtroom, obviously, though, as you'd get arrested) and look a bit rumpled and glowing. I suggest that tactic on Saturday.

(DP is two years younger than me, and could easily pass for a decade less.)