do you find people treat you differntly depending onhow you are dressed etc?

[lovelysongbird]

i do.

yes

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yes, if I wear my black bomber jacket I get watched by store detectives every time.

I don't know because I always dress the same. They definately treat me differently if I'm pushing a buggy though.

yes.

I really don't think I do.

How do people teat you differently, LL?

oh yes.

in fact, if I am going cothes shopping I dress 'up' occasionally to see if I get different service.

I do!

get far better treatment if I am in a dress/smart trousers than if I am in my jeans.

funnily enough tho, I always thought heels would make the differnce, but I haven't found so since I can only wear flats. Definately(sp?) seems to be the clothing.

yes - I find it irritating really. When I was a goth I got treated quite rudely a lot of the time which I thought was unfair because I was raised to be polite and it annoyed me that my choice of style would make people think they could be ruder to me than they might be to someone else.

I guess it would be like me assuming a Fat person was lazy or slow, or a blonde person was stupid and superficial.

I would guess that reasonable people would never do anything particularly mean to me because of what I wore. I'm not a Goth anymore but stories like this:

www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/apr/28/ukcrime

and

www.metro.co.uk/news/article.html?in_article_id=243614&in_page_id=34

do highlight how stupid other people can be when making judgements on the way other people look and acting upon them

Yes of course

I've always heard that if you are well dressed when you fly, the chances of an upgrade are significantly better.

Yes, and also get treated much better in shops when I'm wearing make up. Was a Goth when younger and used to get some seriously filthy looks in shops- despite/because of the make up!!

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'course. that's why we don't all wear a uniform.

There was an article in the Manchester Evening news once, where they sent the same woman and child into snooty shops like Kendals dressed in 'ordinary' clothes and posh designer gear. When she was in the posh stuff the assistants were all over her but when she was in the 'ordinary' gear she was ignored and looked down on.

Possibly, yes. But how about another question - do the clothes you're wearing make you feel different, and act differenly? I think I have more self confidence if I feel I look good (which doesn't necessarily equate to being smart). So I probably act more confident too.

There was a study I saw once (can't remember if it was from the UK or US) where they looked at how long medical staff would try to resuscitate patients - they worked harder on those in suits and gave up sooner on those in scruffy clothes. I'm certainly treated differently now, although whether that's because I'm obviously a SAHM (and therefore have no brain ) or whether it's because I don't have the time/energy/money/motivation to dress as well, I don't know.
I certainly dress up for my antenatal appointments though!

I did some cleaning when I was at university (as in a job not just my room!) and as soon as I put on the white overalls people either ignored me or talked down to me. They were pretty shocked when I started to speak!

Yes, I can choose to be visible or not (depending on what I choose to wear, obviously not through magic trick)

Me and DH had a Pretty Woman moment once.
Called into a posh new housing development on our way home from a cycle ride; all mucky and sweaty. The ladies looked at us most askance when we asked to view the showhome (Dh built houses for a living at the time so was bit of industrial espionage). Went back to check something couple of days later on our way home from work; both in suits. They fell over themselves to help us. Managed to resist quoting "You work on commision, do you? BIG mistake!"

oh yes!
An especially if I have my walking stick with me!

Same theme- different angle.

I always dressed DD1 in dungarees or trousers. On the rare occasions she wore a dress as a baby/ toddler it was blue. She never wore pink and was more often in blue or red.

DD2 (21 years age gap) only wears pink. She mainly wears dresses and any shorts/ trousers she has are those with embroidery, or pink.

Everyone tells DD2 how pretty she is. I get "isn't she lovely/ cute/ pretty/ beautiful". Of course I think she is- she's my DD. But being truthful, yes she's a nice looking baby but I wouldn't say she was pretty or beautiful.

Looking at the photos of DD1 at DD2's age and they are identical but for eye colour and DD1 had thicker hair.

Nobody outside the family ever said DD1 was pretty/ cute/ beautiful Just goes to show that people are looking at/ influenced by the outfit, not the face.