Does this dress exist MN? Another wedding guest one.

[DressDespair]

I need a dress for my DS’s wedding and it seems impossible to find. I’ve seen what MN can come up with so I’m hoping it can work its magic for me.

I’m late 50’s, 5.3, BIG boobs (36H) and weigh about 143 pounds. I’d like short or three-quarter sleeves and a hemline below my knees.

The problem is that most dresses for big breasts are wrap dresses. I don’t where the myth comes from that wrap dresses are good for the big of boob - they certainly don’t flatter me. They just accentuate my breasts. And the current fashion for big, almost puffed sleeves does the same.

So what I’ve been hunting for is a midi dresses with simple sleeves and a dropped waist, or at least a lowish waist. I can’t wear dresses with each breast defined - don’t know what you call that shape but it doesn’t work on me. I love vivid colours - pinks, purples, greens. Patterned or floral or plain.

Am I looking for a unicorn? Would be very grateful for any steers. The wedding is semi-formal- a Sunday lunch.

TIA

Sadly I don’t think the NC Starlight will work for OP as she’s said she doesn’t like the style when ‘each breast is defined’ and the Starlight does have that under-bust seam and central buttons which defines each breast if they sit in exactly the right place - but agree they’re lovely dresses!

Fair enough, but a little definition is the most flattering look on me, and I'm nearly the same size as OP.

A central line of buttons down a dress or dress bodice for example; perfect. Same goes for an empire line. Works better on me than a cinched-in waist anyway.

Also, conventional wisdom says you mustn't go for anything draws attention to your chest - frills, wide collars, flamboyant necklines, puff sleeves, print. Well it's quite the opposite for me. Those things act like camouflage, breaking up the outline.

Personal style comes into it of course. If you're a minimalist who prefers clean lines and plain colours, that's tricky! But you can offset flounce with dark or neutral colours for example.

Thing is, it's not about denying you've got big boobs, but finding that sweet spot between the in-yer-face definition of a wrap dress and equally unflattering tenting or monoboob that occurs when there isn't any definition at all.

@MixedFeelingsNoFeelings ooh now you’re making me think of the dress I bought recently which has wide pointy or flouncy shoulders, a boat neck (I’m 34F so I should be scared of boat necks but they work nicely on me) and makes my boobs and waist look much smaller. Very true what you say.

Also, conventional wisdom says you mustn't go for anything draws attention to your chest - frills, wide collars, flamboyant necklines, puff sleeves, print. Well it's quite the opposite for me. Those things act like camouflage, breaking up the outline.

The Mint Velvet dress linked upthread (Cream Cotton Blend Drop Waist Maxi Dress – Mint Velvet) has nothing to distract from a large bosom.

The 'bombshell' dresses (Dresses – Katya Wildman) are better. Sleeveless tend to accentuate a large bosom.

Hi, yes, I agree with all the previous posters - defined breasts don’t work for me and yet, in general, the more tight fitting a garment is then the more flattering it is on me. I also like button-downs or anything figure hugging.

I take the point too about strong features that draw away from the breasts. But my worst look is the current fashion for puffed sleeves. Whhhhyyyyy???? They make me look and feel like a large bridesmaid forced to wear a much younger girl’s dress - all resentful arms and boobs 😆!

That Wright London orange/pink thing is so clearly a dodgy photoshopped image. Why are people still linking to these scam sites?

Thinking perhaps they are being paid to do so.

Especially as AI has selected a wrap dress 🙄.

Scam website. Here's their UK head office. They have 2/5 on Trustpilot reviews: https://uk.trustpilot.com/review/jessicabybee.com

ETA: Sorry for mass duplication, but I'm leaving my post here anyway!

These are probably all too casual but designed for busts:-

https://www.pourmoi.co.uk/clothing/dresses/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=brand&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23791593831&gbraid=0AAAAAB15JuzXInzgw7jBOkFOmAmUetTAm&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIisb8oeGSlQMViKVQBh2JhCvKEAAYASAAEgKj1PD_BwE

Bravissimo used to do dresses but stopped doing clothing and unsure if dresses were smart enough for weddings, maybe look on eBay/vinted.

I’m 28FF and now a size 14 but when I was 9 stone (I’m 5ft5) (size 10-12) my occasion dresses were all Coast, various styles. When I was 10 stone and in 40s, occasion wear then I wore were Sass and Bide, vintage or DVF (Diane von furstenberg). They were either halter neck or sort of higher but shoulder neck (but fitted round the bust area, which was important for larger boobs). Or an Issey Miyake pleats please midi black dress. If you do have a good vintage shop that sells evening wear it’s well worth a look, I found 60s and 70s dresses with a certain cut worked really well on me as an hourglass/curvy figure. You may want a brighter colour or lighter colour top half to balance out top half and minimise it and equal out the bottom half if you see what I mean.

But my worst look is the current fashion for puffed sleeves. They add width, which I don't need. Regular sleeves are fine. I don't like sleeveless or tiny sleeves, and try to avoid ones that end at my bustline.

I like a collar, not a high round neck or boat neck and not a V-neck.

I like a vertical row of buttons

Would this kind of shape work https://www.karenmillen.com/product/karen-millen-modal-drop-waist-midi-dress_bkk29366?colour=cobalt&size=8&utm_source=AWIN&utm_medium=affiliates&utm_term=176013&utm_campaign=unknown&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=176013&awc=123576_1781879286_d10cb5040f22ac4ba305b3700f844dc9

https://www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-dropped-waist-short-sleeve-midi-dress-khaki/p114800900?size=10&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organicshopping&srsltid=AfmBOopbOMXrtZ85ThvJzb3mZGa40O6EkZt5FLWpH0HvV787eStJpjRT7zs

Or could that kind of no waist/bias cut, Ghost dress shape work https://www.ghost.co.uk/kiara-crepe-round-neck-midi-dress-berry-d11g008-l57

is this what you mean by button down
https://www.ghost.co.uk/jemima-crepe-floral-belted-midi-dress-d10g043-z79

Ghost do quite a few in this shape.

would a tea dress shape work?

Me too! I hate feeling like I have my baps out and don’t find it comfortable or flattering.

I am a similar shape and find Stine Goya dresses really flattering. Loads on Vinted too https://uk.stinegoya.com/products/3-4-volume-sleeves-midi-dress-dress-umber-windflower?variant=49347345121623&currency=GBP&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22166940684&gbraid=0AAAAAogLjee5gkEFo37CDh2ARe7O5JEDq

I'm in a similar situation as you and just bought this dress for a wedding in August. It is surprisingly comfortable and I think, flattering! It's from ' Girl in Mind' on line.

Ro and Zo Green Dress

Hobbs Wisley Purple Dress

Mint Velvet pink dress Wear something to cover your shoulders like a shrug or bolero?

Jaeger orange dropped waist dress

Love and Roses Red Lace Dropped Waist

DressJigsaw tiger orchid cap sleeved dress

Rixo dropped waist midi skirt - wear with a suitable top that works for you

Love and Roses pink floral dropped waist dress

Anthropologie Floral Dress

Thank you for your warnings @PhaedraTwo

Unfortunately I read them only after I had very stupidly ordered the JessicabyBee dress suggested further up the thread.

i am always so careful online, but was in a rush to go out, thought I had found an answer to a burning Wedding guest dress dilemma, and acted without checking Trustpilot.

Lesson learned, I have clearly been well and truly scammed and have resolved that I will no longer risk buying anything online unless the company is already known to me.

Have spent the last two days kicking myself and feeling utterly incredulous at my gullibility.

If you’re ok with black: https://www.revolve.com/mobile/all-the-ways-karoline-maxi-dress-in-white/dp/AAYR-WD200/?d=Womens&srcType=dp_coloroption&sizeSelected=true