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Is this dress appropriate for a black tie August wedding in the UK?

94 replies

mixandmatch · 06/06/2026 15:18

I’ve just tried this on and it fits brilliantly. But is it black tie appropriate?

One thing I should clarify is that I am 5 ft 4, so this dress is almost to my ankles, it is not ‘midi’ in any sense. It is also very heavy and structured which it makes it feel smarter than the picture looks.

anyway, let me know thoughts! Plus is it nice? Please be very honest!

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PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 17:55

DappledThings · 07/06/2026 17:45

Lucky all round indeed!

Nobody needs guidance. Everyone knows the usual expectations for standard wedding guest attire. I didn't give anyone any guidance. It was totally unnecessary.

Most men can manage that and most women understand it too.

It used to be a thing, when I started work, for law firms to have black tie annual dinners. It rarely happens now because the penny has dropped that many men, maybe the majority, don't own dinner suits, dress shirts, dress shoes and cufflinks as standard. I'd guess that in my social circle probably all the men own black tie but that's because there's a regular need for it.

I'm not sure that all women understand black tie either.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 07/06/2026 18:56

My DD works in law. Many of her friends fo black tie. It’s normal for them. We have had loads of balls over the years, and most of our friends have black tie attire readily available. It’s just fun to do in a former stately home built for a Duke. No one will think it odd.

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:39

It’s dinner jacket, not dinner suit, as we’re being pedantic @PhaedraTwo

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:41

And black tie is a perfectly standard dress code

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:45

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:39

It’s dinner jacket, not dinner suit, as we’re being pedantic @PhaedraTwo

Er no, dinner suit is as correct as dinner jacket. A dinner jacket could be the jacket that comes as part of a dinner suit with black trousers with the satin strip or a standalone velvet jacket or white jacket.

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:47

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:41

And black tie is a perfectly standard dress code

As evening wear. It's completely bonkers in the early afternoon.

DappledThings · 07/06/2026 19:48

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:41

And black tie is a perfectly standard dress code

For American weddings maybe that tend to be later in the day. Very try-hard for a standard UK early afternoon ceremony.

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:48

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:45

Er no, dinner suit is as correct as dinner jacket. A dinner jacket could be the jacket that comes as part of a dinner suit with black trousers with the satin strip or a standalone velvet jacket or white jacket.

Nope very much not de rigeuer to say dinner suit

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:50

DappledThings · 07/06/2026 19:48

For American weddings maybe that tend to be later in the day. Very try-hard for a standard UK early afternoon ceremony.

I think the men would look like waiting staff.

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:56

It’s incorrect

Is this dress appropriate for a black tie August wedding in the UK?
PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:59

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:56

It’s incorrect

And according to the dictionary it's de rigueur, not what you said. If you're going be pedantic then best stick to your own rules.

Ophir · 07/06/2026 20:00

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 19:59

And according to the dictionary it's de rigueur, not what you said. If you're going be pedantic then best stick to your own rules.

My phone kept changing it 🙈

DappledThings · 07/06/2026 20:04

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:56

It’s incorrect

Debrett's also says black tie is for evenings specifically so if the opinion of that publication matters then it's definitely wrong for a wedding.

I don't personally care what Debrett's says, I just think it looks very silly and I wouldn't want to make my guests look silly. Especially if it required additional expense.

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 20:06

Ophir · 07/06/2026 19:56

It’s incorrect

And yet all the genuine Saville Row type suit makers list dinner jacket as a standalone jacket and a dinner suit as the complete suit.

I guess they don't know what is "de rigeuer" either.

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 20:08

DappledThings · 07/06/2026 20:04

Debrett's also says black tie is for evenings specifically so if the opinion of that publication matters then it's definitely wrong for a wedding.

I don't personally care what Debrett's says, I just think it looks very silly and I wouldn't want to make my guests look silly. Especially if it required additional expense.

Oh I agree black tie is evening dress.

wherearethesnacks · 07/06/2026 20:10

I like it but think it looks like a day dress rather than black tie.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 07/06/2026 20:13

The dress the op posted can be worn in the evening though.

Ophir · 07/06/2026 20:17

PhaedraTwo · 07/06/2026 20:06

And yet all the genuine Saville Row type suit makers list dinner jacket as a standalone jacket and a dinner suit as the complete suit.

I guess they don't know what is "de rigeuer" either.

Snark snark for my typo 🤷🏼‍♀️

you were the one coming on correcting me smugly 🤷🏼‍♀️

Not my fault you don’t know how it works

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 07/06/2026 20:20

@Ophir You won’t get anywhere! Ive been told it’s rude to have a dress code and black tie isn’t on for the afternoon! Loads of smart weddings do it now. Generally DJ is the accepted term but some men need the trousers too. So you buy as a suit. Many men like matching fabrics. However if you went velvet or jacquard DJ, then any suitable black trousers work for that look. You can have a Nerhu collar or standard, or single or double breasted.

No one thinks black tie is silly for a wedding in opulent surroundings. Dressing down would look silly and when the lights are on at 4 pm is lovely to look dressed up for cocktails and canapés.

HeatherCross · 07/06/2026 20:26

Black tie does not mean that in the UK..it's a very broad remit. Probably ask the bride is best!

tarheelbaby · 07/06/2026 20:47

Black tie/dinner jacket/tuxedo is meant to be for the evening, so I'd expect more luxury/bling. I'd be looking for sparkly/beaded/swishy or luxe in some other way (e.g. lots of lace or clearly silk and lots of jewellery and blingy shoes/bag/wrap). Accessories will be metallic, colour matched or black if the dress is dark coloured. Strictly speaking, shoes will be fabric or metallic.

Kindly, I agree with PPs that your potential dress is giving 'elderly sofa' and is not sufficiently bling/evening for black tie/dinner jacket/tuxedo.

Short dresses should be super blingy like this:
https://www.freemans.com/products/adrianna-papell-beaded-floral-short-dress/_/A-96R701_10?PFM_rsn=browse&PFM_ref=true&PFM_psp=own&PFM_pge=3&PFM_lpn=7

Only £26!!
https://www.freemans.com/products/kaleidoscope-champagne-sequin-knot-detail-dress/_/A-46X039_10?PFM_rsn=productdisplay&PFM_pge=likedbyothers&atREC=true

Blingy dresses mean that you can pare back the accessories; depending on your dress, they could all be basic black.

What about:
https://www.freemans.com/products/adrianna-papell-studio-bead-mesh-flutter-dress//A-53K234_10?PFM_rsn=browse&PFM_ref=false&PFM_psp=own&PFM_pge=1&PFM_lpn=6
(note her metallic accessories)
or https://www.freemans.com/products/anaya-with-love-cloud-blue-short-sleeve-v-neck-ruffle-maxi-dress//A-61E314_10?PFM_rsn=productdisplay&PFM_pge=likedbyothers&atREC=true

It's less expensive too ...

PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 08:43

Ophir · 07/06/2026 20:17

Snark snark for my typo 🤷🏼‍♀️

you were the one coming on correcting me smugly 🤷🏼‍♀️

Not my fault you don’t know how it works

Your authority Debretts is clear that black tie is evening wear.

BLACK TIE
Black tie dress code, which is less formal than white tie, is the most frequently encountered formal evening wear, worn for dinners (both public and private), parties and balls, as well as some Season events such as Glyndebourne. It may also be described as 'dinner jackets', 'DJs', 'dress for dinner' or, in America, as 'tuxedos'. A host may also say 'we are going to change for dinner', which will traditionally indicate black tie. It should be described as a dinner jacket, not a dinner suit.
Black Tie: Men

  • A black wool (barathea) or ultrafine herringbone dinner jacket, single-breasted or double-breasted with no vents, silk peaked lapels (or a shawl collar) and covered buttons. White dinner jackets were traditionally worn in hot climates but not usually in Britain, even in the summer.
  • Trousers are black with a natural taper, and a single row of braid down each outside leg.
  • A white evening shirt, with a marcella collar, bib and double cuffs, with a turn-down collar (not a wing-collar), worn with cufflinks and studs. A plain silk shirt with buttons may be worn but any kind of ruffles or frills should be avoided. Alternatively, a fly-fronted shirt, where the buttons are concealed, is acceptable. Adults should avoid novelty shirts and ties.
ToastSafeFromMothsAndDogs · Yesterday 11:59

Of course a dinner jacket is evening wear. You wear it at dinner. Not in the early afternoon.

But given that the wedding guests have been asked to dress for dinner in the early afternoon, I think this dress is good, if it suits the OP. With the right accessories it could balance daytime wedding with dinner outfit rather nicely.

For women there’s a wide range of styles under ‘black tie’, according to the type of event. Makes it much more nuanced and complicated for us than for men. Sometimes people put more info like ‘glamorous black tie, long gowns’, which I think is helpful, if they are after a particular vibe.

Magicalgqueen · Yesterday 17:09

If I was invited to a black tie wedding it would save me loads of money because I would decline.

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