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Is this too casual for a black tie wedding?

36 replies

CatCatting · 25/05/2026 06:43

Wedding is black tie, at noon but in a relaxed venue. Heels are not recommended.
Too casual? Too black? Despite that I really like it

Is this too casual for a black tie wedding?
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WimbleOfWombledon · 25/05/2026 06:51

I think it’s too casual, looks like a beach/ holiday dress.

ZebraPyjamas · 25/05/2026 06:54

Agreed, far too casual

Pendapala · 25/05/2026 06:58

I’m afraid so. It’s a nice dress but not suitable for that occasion.

TheFatCatSatOnTheMat · 25/05/2026 07:00

The style is way too casual and the colour is way too black…

Squirrelsnut · 25/05/2026 07:01

A lovely dress but not quite right.

FeministThrowingAPrincessParty · 25/05/2026 07:03

Way too casual. It’s a holiday dress, not black tie.

TheyGrewUp · 25/05/2026 07:05

I.wouldn't wear black but otherwise think it fine.

PurBal · 25/05/2026 07:07

Black tie at noon?! 🤨 The definition of black tie is after dusk/6pm. Do they mean morning dress/lounge suits? Wearing a dinner jacket at noon is a whole load of wrong and gives me the ick. Wear whatever you want, I think the dress is fine. If the person writing the invitation has put an objectively incorrect dress code on the invitation I doubt they will care or enforce it.

user593 · 25/05/2026 07:16

Too casual.

Greensinkingrings · 25/05/2026 07:19

I agree with PP that the dress code is wrong. It should be either lounge suits or morning suits at that time of day according to tradition. However most people are discarding the old rules (never mixing silver and gold jewellery comes to mind) and few people would have a wedding where everyone is expected to change for the evening so let's ignore that.

On your actual question I am afraid although pretty that dress is too casual. Debett's, paraphrased, says:

Key Guidelines for Black Tie:
Dress Length: Floor-length gowns are traditional, but modern black tie allows for shorter cocktail dresses.
Alternatives: Elegant evening trousers or palazzo pants are acceptable, but they should be well-tailored.
Fabrics: Look for luxurious materials like silk, velvet, or crepe.
Accessories: Fine or costume jewelry is appropriate (avoid tiaras).
Outerwear: An elegant evening coat or wrap is ideal.

Hopefully that helps.

Empress13 · 25/05/2026 07:20

Looks like a beach dress far too casual. I think black is ok but you need something a little more formal looking. Also factor in the weather especially if it’s now maybe factor in a cooler colour

PistachioDates · 25/05/2026 07:21

Yeah sorry it's too casual

bananaapplepears · 25/05/2026 07:21

Definitely not black tie.

Sparkletastic · 25/05/2026 07:22

Yes

PrimeSeason · 25/05/2026 07:22

Far too casual and I would avoid black for a wedding

CatCatting · 25/05/2026 07:25

Darn it. I thought it was too casual but I was hoping someone would say its OK but it's a pretty universal no. I have something dressier I can wear instead

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Divebar2021 · 25/05/2026 07:30

Black tie wedding at noon? . The demands on wedding guests nowadays. 🙄. It’s not enough that guests are expected to pay for a
present and often accommodation but also
stump up for a gown now. Sorry OP not a huge help to you I know.

railcardfan · 25/05/2026 07:31

PurBal · 25/05/2026 07:07

Black tie at noon?! 🤨 The definition of black tie is after dusk/6pm. Do they mean morning dress/lounge suits? Wearing a dinner jacket at noon is a whole load of wrong and gives me the ick. Wear whatever you want, I think the dress is fine. If the person writing the invitation has put an objectively incorrect dress code on the invitation I doubt they will care or enforce it.

Lots of weddings have black tie now. It's become quite fashionable. I think it was an American style and then people here have copied it.

pilates · 25/05/2026 07:33

Sorry, yes

chickenlettuceunderbacon · 25/05/2026 07:34

The dress has great potential to be made black-tie appropriate. I also have been to many weddings where black is entirely appropriate, and besides, this dress is black and white.

Am going to go against the grain here and say if you want to wear it, wear it. But, you must style your hair into an updo, apply v. good make-up, and accessorise it with some really good jewellery.

Also, I would adjust the sleeves so they sit lower, making it an off-the-shoulder dress.

PhaedraTwo · 25/05/2026 07:43

PurBal · 25/05/2026 07:07

Black tie at noon?! 🤨 The definition of black tie is after dusk/6pm. Do they mean morning dress/lounge suits? Wearing a dinner jacket at noon is a whole load of wrong and gives me the ick. Wear whatever you want, I think the dress is fine. If the person writing the invitation has put an objectively incorrect dress code on the invitation I doubt they will care or enforce it.

I agree. Black tie at noon is absurd. That dress is fine. Wear pointy, black, preferably patent kitten heels.

Chocolattcoffeecup · 25/05/2026 07:46

It doesn't need to be black OP if that's why you chose it?

It is too casual. Black tie rather formal so this is far too casual. It looks like something you'd wear on holiday or on a beach.

CatCatting · 25/05/2026 08:08

Black tie is pretty usual among my family /social group.

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PhaedraTwo · 25/05/2026 08:18

but in a relaxed venue.
What sort of venue?

I have plenty of black tie dresses but I'd feel ridiculous getting into one at noon, particularly in a casual venue. My husband really enjoys black tie events but I'm sure he'd feel the same - is this a mistake?

Groobey · 25/05/2026 08:48

Way too casual for black tie I’m afraid.

Lovely dress but the ruched top and the fabric make it a summer dress.

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