At 57 , is Botox or filler worth considering for an average face

[Mydogisacat]

l’m 57 and considering Botox and possibly a filler. I mentioned it to my very glamorous SIL and she said it’s a waste of money if you’re not an attractive person to begin with. 😱 Is she right? I thought I was average but she put me right. Are cosmetic enchantments only worth it for someone who is beautiful to start start . She also said the clinic will not be used to seeing women who look like me art my age and I will be disappointed by the lack of improvement.
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It’s been a brutal few years for me , my DS (18) was diagnosed with cancer in 2024 ( now in remission) . I just wanted a refresh , is it a waste of time / money.

I'd breezily tell her about a "friend" who was a size 16 but had now lost loads of weight and was thinking of running her own slimming class. Then follow it up with I wondered if you'd be interested in attending.

People definitely use aesthetic treatments at your age and older. It will definitely freshen you up. She sounds like a bitch

Botox creates dissonance for me, regardless of how well it's done. A middle-aged person typically has some wrinkles, so it feels odd when they don't. It's one of the worst lies women have been sold.

If it’s well done it won’t remove all wrinkles so you don’t get done weird plastic looking frozen face.

it just softens them.

I’m glad your son is in remission.
Im older than you and had fillers last year for my ds wedding. I am slim too and my face has definitely suffered a bit because of that. I’m presentable but very ordinary.
The fillers I had definitely made me look better, less tired and I felt better.
Don’t know if I would do them again - I liked how they looked but feel that I still look “old” and you can’t massively change that. It cost a lot and I would rather go on holiday for that money.
I was told a few years that Botox wouldn’t help. A good practitioner should be honest with you about things. There are other treatments too that can improve ageing skin- I probably just don’t care enough to look into it further.

I agree. The hands, neck and chest area give it away at this age, it looks odd imo, and just makes you look like someone approaching 60 who's had Botox.

Your SIL is a tool though OP.

Your sister in law is insecure and doesn’t want you to look younger. She is a cow.
Ignore her, get yourself along to a reputable aesthetic clinician and have a chat. See what they recommend. You can soon look fresher and feel better about yourself. If it’s not for you, that’s fine, but don’t let anyone judge you.

Sounds like SIL is jealous of you.

Botox and fillers can always make a difference, but how much of a difference, we can't know without seeing your face. There are lots of other things that can improve skin tone and texture which help with overall appearance, such as skin boosters, polynucleotides, PRP, exosomes. Go and have a consultation and go from there.

Source: I work in this field.

Haven't read the full thread - has anyone suggested surgically removing SIL from your life?

More seriously I suspect a non-invasive make over would have more impact (assuming you don't already have an amazing wardrobe & regular blow drys). A personal shopper session & refresh of your hair & makeup would cost the same but be much safer & reversible.

Oh my goodness…..now, take this kindly because I mean it well….. you need a personality transplant more than any Botox to stand up for yourself….. your sister-in-law sounds horrific…. She fully intends to hurt…..lash right back. She’s jealous you and your kind, co operative personality reveal her to be the cruel sadist she is. I’m assuming that will sever the relationship so you won’t need to bother with doing that. I am outraged on your behalf, was nobody there to speak up to this deeply unpleasant woman? Especially after what you have suffered with your DS and I am delighted to hear he is in remission. Long may that continue. You deserve a bit of a lift so look for a good Clinic…… ask around and then go and speak to them. I actually advise against fillers because I think these can migrate with the time and can cause heaviness around the lower jaw in later life. But there are so very many treatments about….. ask about Profilo, Sculptra and Botox. Look at this as a treat to yourself and also for your DS who will benefit from seeing his mum looking less worried about him. Good luck and big hug to give you the backbone. I’m seething that she could do this to anyone let alone someone who has been through a lot recently…. I wish I’d been there! She’d be toast ….

Fucking hell @Mydogisacat your dog may be a cat but your SiL is a twat.
It might be difficult, but I’d seriously considering chucking her in the bin.
I’m glad to hear your son is doing well.
I can’t offer any insights into Botox or filler, but I’d definitely say it would be worth going to a reputable practitioner for a consultation.

God what a bitch! I’ve just had Botox for my crows feet and filler in my lip because I’ve always been so self conscious about it. Do it op! And phase out your SIL she is NOT a good person! Great news about your son

Just consciously go NC. She's not worth it. She's jealous you are slim and have a bright academic dc. I'm mid 50s and have made a big effort the last few years to wear make up - not much, but mascara, blusher and lipstick religiously and do my hair every day. It makes a huge difference. I'd think about whether that might be worth exploring first.

You’re assuming everyone ages evenly. Some people have unusually deep brow furrows or. Angry 11s or very deep crows feet.

Botox softens these so they look natural and not prematurely lined. It doesn’t look odd because they now look more consistent with their age rather than more lined than is typical.

They less you see of her the better for you, she’s seems a jealous person and is hurtful in her comments which jealous people genuinely are.

id say do it, just tell them you want to look fresh
natural and nothing that woukd stand out

A moxi laser be great for your skin , then perhaps Botox/fillers in the right place just to enhance features

go for it, and stay away from her

Your SIL sounds unnecessarily harsh honestly. Botox or filler isn’t about becoming a different person or suddenly looking “beautiful” for many people it’s simply about looking a bit more refreshed and feeling better in themselves. After everything you’ve been through with your son’s illness, wanting to do something for yourself is completely understandable. A good practitioner will work with all ages and face types, not just glamorous influencers. If you’re curious, maybe start small and see how you feel subtle treatments can make a lovely difference without looking overdone.

SIL sounds an absolute bitch. I’d keep away from her as much as you can, she’s no friend to you.

i started having a few things done in my mid 50s. The professionals I’ve used have been lovely and I’m v v pleased with the outcome (Botox, a tiny bit of filler, some skin removal surgery post weight loss). I don’t know what you’ll think of the results but I’ve never met a beauty professional who seemed disappointed in their client. I’m an ordinary looking woman doing things that make ME feel good. It’s hardly like they’re in the beauty Olympics and you’re letting someone down by not looking instantly 29 years younger or whatever.

i think your SIL needs a MN head tilt and ‘did you mean to be so rude?’!

You have been through so much & been there for your child through a very traumatic event of their life & yours. This friend is not a friend at all. This is cruel thing to say. I most certainly agree with others to detach your friendship with her completely if she made you cry to that level. Now regarding cosmetic enhancements, I have never had anything done & I am 45. I have things I hate about my face which knocks my confidence. Unfortunately, I am not brave enough to seek cosmetic enhancements. If you wish to have it, then you bloody go for it. Your doing it for you & you only. Regardless of what you look like, we are all unique. Sadly, we live in a society where people are expected to be good looking. What is attractiveness in general! It’s what is inside your heart, it’s how your personality shines & how you are humble and kind. Anyone with those qualities are the most attractive people on earth. You could be look like Cindy Crawford but what good is it being pretty when your personality is ugly. You can enhance someone’s character through Botox and fillers. So stuck 2 fingers up at that friend & you go for what is right for you.

You can’t enhance a character through any sort of Botox !

Ditch the Bitch!!

What a cunt.

You could have some great fun with her though. Bingo card at the ready!

Your sil is jealous of you. You clearly look a lot better than she is indicating, and she is not wanting you to get tweaks as you will looo even better still.

go for it. I’d take her words as meaning she’s really worried about just how great you will look.