Options for managing patchy pubic hair changes approaching fifty

[Bikinilineat49]

Hoping for some advice on pubic hair removal and as per user name 49 not shy of 50.

I have never managed to " beach ready" as in kids want to go swimming now but went with a neat tidy and quick shave approach.

In the last year however I am dealing with a whole new world where I am now bald in places, grey but still previous hair type, and grey but a very coarse straight pubic hair and am very unhappy with it's appearance.

I have a low pain threshold and only ever waxed once and wouldn't do it again as the pain and irritation didn't justify the hair free appearance. What are my options, I don't think I've read anything discussing patchy and inconsistent public hair in ladies and it is effecting my confidence.

Why does it matter what it looks like? Who the hell is ever actually looking at it. This is something I just don’t get.
The only things you can sensibly do to change it is to shape it in some way- trimming etc. and dying it. You can’t replace the baldy bits. And frankly I can’t understand why you’d want to bother. It’s under your clothes 90% of the time.

Weird first post. Noone sees it who cares

🤔

My experience of waxing is that the pain really varies depending on the waxer. Ask around? I also take paracetamol and ibuprofen beforehand. I use a facial exfoliatior in between.

Alternatively, what about IPL? I’ve got a Phillips Lumea which is great on other areas.

Home laser

I changed name I think that was obvious.

I care.

This is style and beauty so was looking for advice in that capacity.

Having been always fairly confident in my appearance regardless of size, age this is denting my confidence.

A merkin?

If you don’t like it then waxing to maybe just have a landing strip might work. I think you need the right waxer as I went to someone for 2 years and dreaded it, then booked an emergency appointment (well not emergency but last minute swimming ) with a new clinic and was out in 15 minutes and it was so much better

Just Veet the whole lot off!

Thank you for the more considerate replies.
I maybe need to try again with the waxing and yes a smaller area rather than my forever had "triangle" might make me less self conscious of the variety of coverage if that makes sense.

Maybe my expectations are just unrealistic having been fairly (very) low maintenance until now. Removal is easy with veet for sure but I have I think quite sensitive skin and the itching on regrowth just in groin is unbearable but perhaps it needs to be redone regularly so there isn't an itch?

Sorry you’ve had some shitty replies OP.

No advice, but I understand. Ageing can have unexpected side effects that can knock our confidence. I hope you find a solution you’re happy with.

Just get it waxed off.

*affecting

Living up to your username.
Yes affecting.
Having read lots of threads since pregnant with my first in 2014, contributed hopefully constructively to some, I don't think I will be venturing to ask for advice again.

I'm early 30s and 3 pregnancies stretched the skin down there so it's now very patchy and bald in patches. I'm planning to laser the whole thing off. I dont know if that's an option for you op? You mentioned grey so I'm not sure if it's needs to be dark hair for it to work? Maybe someone with more knowledge will come along.

I've had this issue since my thirties, my main bald bit is bang in the middle. It bothers me too OP.
I trim the whole lot off with a mini electric shaver, dry. So it's not down to the skin but it's very close. No irritation, no pain and looks fine.

Thank you for your reply.
Can you recommend a mini shaver, my partner of 25 years who is not as some pointed out remotely bothered suggested going with not hair removal but a no.1 like a haircut if it made a difference to me.

I have quite a few stretch marks from pregnancies which go through my pubic hair so its very patchy and sparse, i just shave, although i recently (last couple months) discovered that mens razors are so much smoother then womens! And the regrowth is not as itchy or irritating, Im guessing due to the fact that it mostly gets used on the face 🤔 dunno if im being thick not realising this before 😂.

Yup, the one I have at the moment is very similar to this Boots body trimmer. I like the slim shape, it works great at lots of different angles.

I shave all mine off with my own beard trimmer. I dont tolerate grey pubes.

Mine vanished like snow in summer when I was only a few years older than you. I took it on the chin!!!

Well that made me smile.
My chin and moustache is a whole other thread but I am dealing with those

Are you genuinely going about your day (clothed presumably ) anxious about your pubic hair? Worrying what people will think, or something else?

The possibility is that even if you resolve this to whatever standard you've built up in your mind, something will replace it. And those sort of rotating compulsive anxieties are a common feature of menopause unfortunately.

No thankfully I guess my life is full and busy with work kids elderly parents it doesn't fill my day.Yes I am mindful of the menopause and for me at least my resilience has declined I was always and still appear to most a fuck it if you don't like it kind of person...but this was style and beauty and was looking for what others had done to tackle something I haven't discussed with others and has never come in conversation. I am almost fully grey on my head and I am ok with that, I had a parent who went grey in their 20s so expected it, have other friends who lost hair in pregnancy and it never fully recovered it but a baldy pubic area has never come up for discussion.

I’m now 62, taking hormone blockers for breast cancer and it’s virtually disappeared. I can’t say I miss it but I stopped waxing my bikini line some years ago. Never shaved because I hated the stubble. Being naturally blonde it was never a major maintenance issue.

I no longer have to shave under my arms and my legs have the odd wispy hair here and there.

Fortunately I still have a thick mop of curly greying blonde hair on my head. And so far only the odd rogue chin hair.

When I stop taking the hormone blockers later this year it will be interesting to see whether any growth returns. I’m hoping my head hair improves in condition. The hormone blockers are like an extreme form of post menopause so they block testosterone as well as female hormones, which probably accounts for the lack of facial hair. If the other side effects were not so debilitating I’d have probably stayed on them.