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Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.

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Puffykins · 26/04/2026 11:57

I wrote a book, and I'm having a book launch, and I've realised I have nothing suitable to wear. It's an evening event - a stand-up drinks party sort of thing - and I'd like something elegant, but that once on, I don't have to think about.

I'm 5' 4' and a size 10 ish but I don't have lovely slim arms or legs, though they are toned. I do have a neat bust and waist and a flat stomach - but with curves rather than straight up and down. I'm mid-40s, and prone to sudden moments of being so hot I can't breathe, which is exacerbated by anxiety - which this event is likely to provoke (what if everyone hates the book, etc.)

My wardrobe is full of very beautiful dresses by Erdem/ Diane von F - but they're all from my 20s and, now, look a bit Princess of Wales around the time of her engagement. They also all require heels - which I've got - but having not worn them in about 15 years I don't think I can stand up in any of them for 2 hours.

I think I want something long (my ankles are very not good) and fitted around the top half of my body, long sleeved, and navy or black in a natural material. My budget could go up to £300-ish. The town I live in only has an H&M and an M&S. If anyone has any ideas as to where I could go online (I tried googling and everything it came up with looked nylon - or I couldn't wear a bra with it because it was backless - or it has a massive slit up one side.) I am in London between now and then for work, so could also look there.

The alternative could be a really lovely and quite dressy black top? (Not too hot!) I've got a long line in silk maxi skirts I could pair it with.

Oh - whatever it is also needs to photograph well without my having to think about angles.

Also - I haven't changed how I do my make-up since my 20s! Which is the best make-up bar to go to for a refresher?

And THANK YOU!

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Ilovemsrachel · Yesterday 07:55

Congratulations on your book!! Loads of suggestions here, but just to add I wouldn’t worry about dressing up. It’s true that book launches are casual a lot of the time but even when they are, generally the author does wear something striking/special. It’s a huge achievement and worthy of celebration!

Seriestwo · Yesterday 09:19

Im
dying to know what your book is.

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 10:34

ScoutOfTheSoftHeartsClub · Yesterday 06:04

@EleanorMc67 - what is happening? Once again we agree! 😂 Jeez - a cardigan, for your own book launch??

@Puffykins, it’s true you can wear whatever you like but I’d want to feel a little dressed up, too. To me the main thing to address might be the sudden moments of being so hot I can’t breathe - because (I remember) this will absolutely limit what you feel confident in wearing.

Have you ever looked at

https://kindredofireland.com/

Everything (apart from a few tweed things) is fashioned from linen - and all the pieces are wondrously luxe and easy to wear. You couldn’t fail to look ‘dressed’. But not necessarily in a dress. Maybe a voluminous t shirt to go with your black skirt? Or a cunningly cut shirt?

(And, for the inevitable boring comments on linen’s propensity to crumple - you’ll be standing and chatting with a glass of champagne in your hand, not ferrying a dozen small children on an easyJet flight … )

I know! (Have we disagreed vehemently before ...?)

If I had managed the amazing achievement of getting my book published, I'd be dressing up to the max no matter what anyone else was wearing! And the OP was quite sure that she wanted to dress up - & knew the details of her own launch! Lots of PP seemed to think she'd never been at a book event before ...

And frankly, I'd wear that Joseph dress to a book launch in a public toilet block, if I'd written the thing ...

I did laugh at the very vivid picture that popped into my head of a woman with a brood of small children blocking the aisle on a Ryanair flight - wearing one of the more out there Kindred dresses (maybe this one?!) ...

(Is she hovering above the ground?!)

Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 10:41

newornotnew · Yesterday 05:11

Anyone can wear anything they want of course, I was responding to the desire to wear something she didn't have to think about!

She can, yes - but it's perfectly possible to get dressed up & not give what you're wearing a second thought?

She also prefaced that with the desire to look "elegant". Much as I LOVE my cardigans (& own & wear & like my few pairs of unfussy smart trainers), I don't think that cardigans, trainers & elegance are very compatible ...

Plasticdreams · Yesterday 10:56

@Puffykins fair point regarding the Reiss dress but it does have viscose in it which is breathable. Perhaps a look at Gerald Darel?

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 10:58

Puffykins · Yesterday 07:13

Thank you @Plasticdreams- I like that too but I fear I’d melt wearing it on a May evening in Mayfair. But I love how fitted it is. @ScoutOfTheSoftHeartsClubthose tops are beautiful - and for a different occasion I’d love them. I think I need to keep my silhouette sleek though - at home I usually wear Toast sacks, which I love, but I know that photographed from the wrong angle I end up looking enormous as the volume looks like me not the top. But I’m thrilled to have discovered them, so thank you!
And @EleanorMc67the silk skirts are multi coloured (quite vibrant), a very slight A-Line, and can be worn either on the waist or on my hips. The Me & Em top that you posted would be perfect with them, and that is totally my style, too.

Glad you spotted something! I love that Victoriana look in a blouse. Would love to see some pics of or links to your silk maxi skirts now ... ??!!

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 11:20

Puffykins · Yesterday 07:13

Thank you @Plasticdreams- I like that too but I fear I’d melt wearing it on a May evening in Mayfair. But I love how fitted it is. @ScoutOfTheSoftHeartsClubthose tops are beautiful - and for a different occasion I’d love them. I think I need to keep my silhouette sleek though - at home I usually wear Toast sacks, which I love, but I know that photographed from the wrong angle I end up looking enormous as the volume looks like me not the top. But I’m thrilled to have discovered them, so thank you!
And @EleanorMc67the silk skirts are multi coloured (quite vibrant), a very slight A-Line, and can be worn either on the waist or on my hips. The Me & Em top that you posted would be perfect with them, and that is totally my style, too.

Reiss does a lot in silk too. Some long-sleeved, like these. If you have a multicoloured skirt with pink & green in it, it might work with the floral one, depending on the pattern?

https://www.reiss.com/style/su996511/v47833
https://www.reiss.com/style/sv046382/y46827

Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 11:25

Seriestwo · Yesterday 09:19

Im
dying to know what your book is.

Me too!

EleanorMc67 · Yesterday 11:30

As a complete & total aside, & nothing whatsoever to do with the OP's request, when I was looking for silk pieces on Reiss this dress popped up & it's amazing!! Silk/linen, & sort of Laura Ashley/Droopy & Brown meets Mugler power shoulders. And so well reduced ... someone who is a size 12 please buy it!

https://www.reiss.com/style/su290651/b69043

Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
Help! I need a chic dress for an event that's all about me.
luckylavender · Yesterday 16:51

newornotnew · Yesterday 05:11

Anyone can wear anything they want of course, I was responding to the desire to wear something she didn't have to think about!

She also said she wanted to look elegant

NancyBellaDonna · Yesterday 17:44

Have you seen the dresses on Toast? If you are in London you could pop into one of their shops and have look.

EatingSleeping · Yesterday 23:55

OP it feels your clothes are covered but you mentioned make up too. I find bobbi brown great for a make up refresh. They tend to focus on looking like you but better (almost soft focus) and I've never met a bad sales person at their counters.

I've also had a make up lesson at a trinny london pop up and the make up was as fool proof as it's possible to be.

Have the most fabulous time and let us know what you pick

DeposedPresident · Today 15:17

I have absolutely nothing of use to add as I am a sartorial mess.

But I wanted to say ;- 'CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!'

EleanorMc67 · Today 15:22

EatingSleeping · Yesterday 23:55

OP it feels your clothes are covered but you mentioned make up too. I find bobbi brown great for a make up refresh. They tend to focus on looking like you but better (almost soft focus) and I've never met a bad sales person at their counters.

I've also had a make up lesson at a trinny london pop up and the make up was as fool proof as it's possible to be.

Have the most fabulous time and let us know what you pick

I'd agree about Bobbi Brown being good.

newornotnew · Today 16:47

luckylavender · Yesterday 16:51

She also said she wanted to look elegant

Some of the dresses posted are a long, long way from elegant.

Some of the dresses suggested really are massive, complete with ham hock sleeves, which has potential to look bizarre in any photos taken. But everyone has a different approach to clothes, and that's fine.

newornotnew · Today 16:49

Puffykins · Yesterday 06:11

Thank you all so much for all your suggestions! I’ll go through them all, but I immediately love that Me & Em top, which will look great with one of my existing skirts. In response to book launches not being that dressy - thanks, I know that most of them aren’t. However, due to the nature of what my book is about, and the industry I work in, and the location which is not Daunts, this one will be dressier than usual.

Thank you again!

Congratulations again and enjoy your success!

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