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Who is buying the really expensive handbags and £600 trainers??

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Newmeagain · 25/03/2026 13:28

I really like clothes and have always splurged on the occasional “investment” item - e.g. nice boots, a jacket from ME&EM that I loved, etc.

But even though I am on a high salary I can’t imagine spending £2000 on a handbag or £600 on fashion trainers that will only last a few months.

I work with lots of women in a professional environment, all earning between £150k/£200k - many don’t have children - and I don’t see any designer items. Mostly mix of standard high street brands plus a bit of Sezane and similar.

So - if you are spending £££, are you earning over £500k or have a partner who does?

OP posts:
PropitiousJump · 26/03/2026 12:36

I have some nice things from charity shops - I've occasionally found things that would retail for the £150+ bracket for less than a fiver. They are few and far between but I spend a lot of my free time mooching around charity shops! I don't have the money to buy anything like that new. If I treat myself to anything, it's jewellery, because I feel it lasts better than clothing. I'm considering buying jewellery with some of my work bonus, but don't really want to spend more than about 1/3 of it (it's not a large bonus, the taxman's slice saw to that🙁)

KmcK87 · 26/03/2026 12:42

A family member of mine in his 40s still living with his parents and earning just above minimum wage, spends every spare penny on designer clothes. So he’s walking about in 2k jackets with absolutely nothing else to show for his wage. The worst thing is that he genuinely thinks this makes him better than everyone else.

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 13:33

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 09:41

Luxury goods are about signaling wealth and the perceived status that wealth gives the wearer. Not everyone in this world attaches status to highly visible signals that can be bought by anyone with the cash.

Don't you mean obvious or clearly branded luxury goods? If I buy a black dress from The Row or a beige cashmere sweater from Loro Piana, others might think it's a nice enough item, but no one but me is going to know it's a luxury good. If I buy a leather jacket from Rick Owens or a blouse from Phoebe Philo someone very clued up on fashion might recognise it, but the majority of people will attach no status whatsoever to it.

Welia · 26/03/2026 13:42

Crushed23 · 26/03/2026 12:19

I love Margaret Howell. About a third of my clothes are from there. The mark-up in the US is obscene so I always stock up when I’m in London. Ditto Sezane in Paris. Where are you finding second hand Margaret Howell, out of interest?

It's fairly available in London consignment stores like Storm in a Teacup etc. Dalston, Islington, places like that, for about £75 - £120.

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 13:44

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 13:33

Don't you mean obvious or clearly branded luxury goods? If I buy a black dress from The Row or a beige cashmere sweater from Loro Piana, others might think it's a nice enough item, but no one but me is going to know it's a luxury good. If I buy a leather jacket from Rick Owens or a blouse from Phoebe Philo someone very clued up on fashion might recognise it, but the majority of people will attach no status whatsoever to it.

Strong disagree! The whole "quiet luxury" trend is all about people recognizing less obvious but still eminently status signaling items.

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 13:47

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 13:44

Strong disagree! The whole "quiet luxury" trend is all about people recognizing less obvious but still eminently status signaling items.

That's a bit ridiculous. The average person on the street is not going to distinguish one black sweater from another.

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 13:49

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 13:47

That's a bit ridiculous. The average person on the street is not going to distinguish one black sweater from another.

The average person on the street isn't going to distinguish the trainers in the OP from high street trainers.

Calliopespa · 26/03/2026 15:10

IsItSummerSoon · 25/03/2026 13:47

Bought a Mulberry handbag maybe 15 years ago when I earned far less than now and a few of my friends bought similar designer items around that time. But your post made me realise none of us make purchases like that now even though we earn more.

I think you grow up and it just doesn't seem fun to throw that away on something fashionable.

I have to admit from time to time I would buy a bag or pair of (decent, classic, chosen to last, not seasonal trainers) for at least several hundred, but some of the "distinctive" stuff with a very short life baffles me. I also spend on coats - probably one a season. But again, something I can wear and wear.

Calliopespa · 26/03/2026 15:12

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 13:44

Strong disagree! The whole "quiet luxury" trend is all about people recognizing less obvious but still eminently status signaling items.

I think quality is generally visible. But the label need not be.

I do buy cashmere etc, but as much as anything because I don't buy for one season then move on, so I can justify it, and also because I enjoy the quality. Don't really care if anyone thinks it's Primark tbh ... but I still think they probably can see it isn't.

Calliopespa · 26/03/2026 15:18

Calliopespa · 26/03/2026 15:10

I think you grow up and it just doesn't seem fun to throw that away on something fashionable.

I have to admit from time to time I would buy a bag or pair of (decent, classic, chosen to last, not seasonal trainers) for at least several hundred, but some of the "distinctive" stuff with a very short life baffles me. I also spend on coats - probably one a season. But again, something I can wear and wear.

To add to this last post, I was going to say sometimes I see people - usually in their 20's - wearing lots of designer kit and I actually feel a bit ill for them. Clearly it's what they want to be spending it on so it is none of my business at the end of the day, but you do kind of wince and wonder about the state of their house deposit. I particularly see these types in Harvey Nichols actually! Usually clad head to foot in stuff that is not going to outlive the season because they are determined to be distinctive.

girlmeetsboy · 26/03/2026 15:31

I have several designer bags, Mulberry, Gucci's, Prada and a couple of LV they are all classic and have will last ages. I also have a few pairs of designer trainers, McQueens, D&G, Hugos and the Gucci Bees that you see everywhere as well as a pair of Guccis I have for 10 years.

I'm a bit of a label whore but I work hard and do my own nail, box dye my hair and have it cut once every 6 months if that so don't spend on things over people do that add up over the year.

Goldbar31 · 26/03/2026 15:52

I have a v good bag collection but I buy from resellers.
One nice pair of shoes (because I trash them).
My clothes are mostly high st natural fibres, as you will mostly find me covered in baby sick/snot/ 💩
Once a year, at bonus time, I treat myself to an item (like a Max Mara coat) and I expect to have said item for years and years.

Cosimarocks · 26/03/2026 16:38

I think it depends on what it is. I would/ do spend money on some really decent (well made, last a lifetime if looked after) things. Some bags, coats, shoes. Often they will be by fashion houses or by makers with pedigree. But I view them as a bit of an investment because they will last. I also have some wonderful things from grandparents and parents and such and other wonderful second hand finds - a glorious 1980s Gucci jacket for example. And I hope one day my children and grandchildren might potter down the Kings Road in something of mine.

And I think buying something that lasts is a very worthwhile thing. Better for the environment, made by trained professionals being paid a proper wage, rather than some child labourer somewhere, and it often ends up saving money in the long run: pair of shoes that last several decades and cost £800 or ones that barely make a season and cost £60 or something.

A few years ago Stella McCartney talked rather well on it on Desert Island Discs.

Of course buying sustainably and to last is sadly only a luxury those with some expendable income can afford. (What I find awful is those who can afford to buy better (at least avoiding cheap child labour, environmentally destructive fashion) and don’t.)

There’s a rather famous quote by the wonderful Terry Pratchett on the subject:
“The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.

“Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.

But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.

This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.”

That said a lot of high end fashion places also make absolute shite that will barely last the season and are bought by (usually young people) with more money than sense! Personally, I would happily spend a lots on a coat or bag or shoes, but not anything like £800 on a pair of trainers that will die a death rather quickly.

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 16:40

Ceramiq · 26/03/2026 13:49

The average person on the street isn't going to distinguish the trainers in the OP from high street trainers.

Right, but my point was in response to this

Luxury goods are about signaling wealth and the perceived status that wealth gives the wearer. Not everyone in this world attaches status to highly visible signals that can be bought by anyone with the cash.

If the average person on the street can't distinguish, the signals aren't highly visible and there's no perceived status involved.

YouHaveAnArse · 26/03/2026 16:44

I dunno, I wouldn't spend £500 on a pair of trainers (I balk enough at the price of Nikes these days) but just spent £500 on a camera lens that, to someone who'd rather buy trainers, does effectively the same job as a phone.

GoldenCupsatHarvestTime · 26/03/2026 17:02

My friend and her family. God knows why, they’re all on about £35k a year. But apparently they just love bags. I can’t really understand it but it’s their money.

YouHaveAnArse · 26/03/2026 17:18

The lens I really want is £2k - waiting for it to hit the second-hand market (my recent purchase is second-hand). It is, thankfully, not possible to get too fat for a lens.

FlorenceBlack · 26/03/2026 18:56

At least most of the luxury brands mentioned in this thread actually do make nice handbags. Balenciaga £800+ hoodies that look like they’ve been worn to plaster walls on the other hand…

Mariooooocart · 26/03/2026 19:53

I have a lot of designer bags, jewellery, sunglasses and shoes. I love vintage designer as well as new so I do often get it cheaper then retail. I don’t particularly like modern designer clothing but I do own a few vintage pieces.

We are comfortable but not rich and definitely don’t earn 500k. However neither of us drink or smoke and we don’t have children. Fashion is my main interest and I would class it as a hobby as I love the feeling of organising my dressing room. It’s not a flashy or a status thing as I imagine most people now a days see a designer bag and presume it’s fake, as the copies are so good. I just can’t explain the feeling of adding a new bag or pair of shoes to my collection. If I save for anything then I save for a new vintage bag. If someone buys me a gift they know what to get me or to contribute towards.

I love Galliano Dior.

loveawineloveacrisp · 26/03/2026 19:59

I don't buy beautiful bags to 'signal my wealth'. I wouldn't really consider myself wealthy, although I can afford them. I buy them because they're beautiful and they make me happy when I carry them.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 26/03/2026 20:03

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 16:40

Right, but my point was in response to this

Luxury goods are about signaling wealth and the perceived status that wealth gives the wearer. Not everyone in this world attaches status to highly visible signals that can be bought by anyone with the cash.

If the average person on the street can't distinguish, the signals aren't highly visible and there's no perceived status involved.

2 things - firstly, while you often can’t tell the brand or know exactly how much something cost, often “in the flesh” (not online photos), it’s obvious when some clothing is very good quality. Fabrics, cuts, things fitting perfectly etc. it will signal wealth, even if you don’t recognise the brand. I might not know where that wool coat is from, but the fabric looks heavy and very good quality, it’s clearly been tailored to you perfectly (particularly if the person wearing it isn’t model proportions), I’m going to assume you spent a lot of money on it/ are rich.

Secondly, many people who are buying luxury goods to signal wealth aren’t interested in signalling to everyone- but those who know, will recognise items. Watches are a big one for this, I really don’t know one mens sliver metal watch from another, but I have worked with men who can tell brand and rough price of a watch from a very quick glance. And oh boy do those sorts of men judge.

Hmcs · 26/03/2026 20:11

Newmeagain · 25/03/2026 13:28

I really like clothes and have always splurged on the occasional “investment” item - e.g. nice boots, a jacket from ME&EM that I loved, etc.

But even though I am on a high salary I can’t imagine spending £2000 on a handbag or £600 on fashion trainers that will only last a few months.

I work with lots of women in a professional environment, all earning between £150k/£200k - many don’t have children - and I don’t see any designer items. Mostly mix of standard high street brands plus a bit of Sezane and similar.

So - if you are spending £££, are you earning over £500k or have a partner who does?

i have 2 mulberrys, a Chloe, and 2 marc Jacob’s bag from my husband that were birthday or Christmas presents

not high earners like you mention
or in debt
we were just in a position of having more “spare money” over the few years they were bought

I also bought myself a Gucci bag during Covid
half was money I got for my birthday the other half was just money I hadn’t spent because I couldn’t leave the house but I was still working from home.

now we earn more than back then but probably wouldn’t consider buying another expensive bag now.

3 were ones that’ i really wanted for a while
one of those was my dream bag for 10+ years

I have 2 that have hardly been used
which I am considering selling but I just can’t bring myself to part with them

WittyFawn · 26/03/2026 21:14

I have a pair of laboutin ankle boots cost £1000 and 2 pairs of their shoes and 2 pairs of jimmy choo’s. I also have a Stella McCartney handbag. That’s as much I would pay, wouldn’t pay £5k for a bag for example. I don’t really wear or use any of them very much but loath to sell them as won’t get anything like that I paid

Love2Fly · 26/03/2026 21:39

I'm 58, kids grown up, no mortgage/debt and a good household income. Yes I'll spend £3k on a designer bag and yes I have a penchant for jimmy Choo and Loubs I'd say I splurge once a year, usually a birthday or Christmas treat. This year it was a YSL bag and LV sandals, husband bought the bag I bought the sandals. Strangely I'm very frugal in other areas. Most of my wardrobe comes from M&S or Zara, I'd never spend on designer clothing.

use92438567 · 26/03/2026 21:55

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 26/03/2026 20:03

2 things - firstly, while you often can’t tell the brand or know exactly how much something cost, often “in the flesh” (not online photos), it’s obvious when some clothing is very good quality. Fabrics, cuts, things fitting perfectly etc. it will signal wealth, even if you don’t recognise the brand. I might not know where that wool coat is from, but the fabric looks heavy and very good quality, it’s clearly been tailored to you perfectly (particularly if the person wearing it isn’t model proportions), I’m going to assume you spent a lot of money on it/ are rich.

Secondly, many people who are buying luxury goods to signal wealth aren’t interested in signalling to everyone- but those who know, will recognise items. Watches are a big one for this, I really don’t know one mens sliver metal watch from another, but I have worked with men who can tell brand and rough price of a watch from a very quick glance. And oh boy do those sorts of men judge.

I agree that you can tell, but in the cases of items that are very good quality but not obviously branded, the buyer might well be purchasing them precisely for the quality rather than about signalling wealth and the perceived status that wealth gives the wearer, which is what I was responding to.

If I'm going to buy a jumper, I'd rather spend on something that's going to last for 5 or 10 years, assuming moths don't get it, than something that's going to pill and stretch within six months.

Yes, I agree about watches (although those men tend to call them timepieces). I know quite a few people who buy them specifically because they're exempt from capital gains taxes, even if sold at a profit.