Help me find a wedding outfit for my 12 yo DD

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We are off to a wedding in April and my DD needs to find an outfit to wear. Really struggling to find something to suit her from the usual places.

She's very slim - no curves - and wears age 11-12 clothes, or maybe XXS from the adult range.

We are way past flouncy dresses and pink (occasion wear was much easier when she was a lot younger and happy wearing a frilly dress of the type you can find anywhere!) but struggling to find something she likes. She's very casual (baggy jeans and hoodies).

There are a few older girls at the wedding so she wants to look 'grown up' - any ideas of where to look?

She likes blue, and would prefer to cover her arms if possible.

Where’s the laughing emoji when we need it?!

Just a warning on Shein, we've bought similar for miss 16 and they are extremely short 😳 even with shorts underneath and she's not supertall

I would suggest new look. They have a 9-15 range

What about river island

https://www.riverisland.com/p/girls-black-stripe-polo-dress-441585⁰

Something like this, maybe key her pick a block heal sandal to go with it?

Thanks all. The green New Look one and the red Hollister one are so far the only two that she's approved. Thank you for all the suggestions. It really is such a tricky age to be, especially when she's already feeling quite critical of her own body.

Have looked for 'trousers and a nice top' but she can only really wear drawstring trousers or ones with adjustable waistbands so don't think that's an option.

This is pretty and not babyish https://www.asos.com/prd/208461211?acquisitionsource=pasteboard]]

Or this https://www.asos.com/prd/209890167?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

or this https://www.asos.com/prd/209378886?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

I liked the red Hollister one as well.

What about a jumpsuit? Grown up but still age appropriate… https://www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.1318491001.html

https://www.next.co.uk/search?w=jumpsuit&p=3#1281.125

or trousers and a matching waistcoat shape top https://www.next.co.uk/style/su812823/w93168

might be something she wears again too - rather than a frilly dress

https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/trousers/light-blue-wide-leg-pleated-trousers/p/946545445?extcam=UK_PPC_PMax_Generics_Priority__Google_MT__DV_m_CID_18190956454&ppccam=PLA_NW_x_AGID__LOC_1006864_DM__TID_&ppcfeed=FIID__PRID_9465682&_cclid=Google_EAIaIQobChMI0Y_U44PzkgMVRpmDBx1FdRZHEAQYEyABEgKF8vD_BwE&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=18195782285&gbraid=0AAAAAD2UatNpbTpR1sZsCg13I1_lsUCzD&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0Y_U44PzkgMVRpmDBx1FdRZHEAQYEyABEgKF8vD_BwE

My daughter really like the lipsy girl range in next, whenever we are looking for an outfit she's straight to the lipsy dresses/jumpsuits.

Good shout. Lots of nice age-appropriate but stylish dresses on there.

@Appleberrybloom I suggested RI pages ago! They have loads of elastic waisted trousers. Also plenty of suitable dresses for slim DDs. Sometimes dc have to be told they cannot have everything their own way.

Did she?

What's her Tanner stage? At 12, I had been menstruating for three years, in bras for two years, and was in C cups. Some of my peers were yet to bud properly. We'd have needed completely different dress cuts because of that.

The Yumi tulle skirt is nice imo and the different colours allow for the look to be ‘girly’ or not as preferred.

monsoon generally has nice things too

OP said no curves.

Sorry have not RTFT. My daughter is 12 almost 13 and is tiny. She has a couple of lovely Hollister dresses we bought for holidays last year and will wear one to a wedding later this year. Size XXS which you can only get online not in the stores. Lovely cotton broderie or floral mini dresses. Worn with Birkenstocks or ballet pumps depending how formal the wedding is. If she needs to cover arms a light cardie from somewhere like Zara or Uniqlo. Good luck!

This DD likes track pants and a hoodie. I doubt the broderie or floral dresses will be of interest.

I do find it a bit wierd that 12 year olds are so set in their ways. My DDs liked being smart for lunches out and events. Not pink girly but looking appropriate for the event. When did dc get to dictate what they wear when they should perhaps be told that the event demands something else? It’s good manners to set your preferences aside and please others once in a blue moon. It’s respect for the occasion and those inviting her.

It’s also possible to find a compromise, surely? I disagree with the suggestion that at 12 years old, she shouldn’t be involved in the process of choosing something. It’s fine for OP to say that she can’t have the overtly ‘sexy’ stuff, but it wouldn’t be fine to just force her into a pink party frock even if she hated it.

Do you feel better now for saying that, why do you even feel you needed to come on here and give your opinion of your 6 year old daughter. No disrespect to your daughter but hopefully this mum won’t be taking in what a 6 year old thinks.

To me this looks perfect.

The OP said 'no curves'. A bust would be a curve.

The OP said her daughter has 'no curves'.

Have you misread the thread? The OP's DD isn't proposing to wear track pants and a hoodie or anything else that's casual.

She has actually expressed a preference for a dress that is both wedding-appropriate and suitably grown-up for a 12-year-old (as opposed to a little girl).'What the event demands' is literally exactly what she is looking for. She's not asking for anything inappropriate or disrespectful.

I really like this. There are others and their adult sizes start at 4.
https://www.chichiclothing.com/collections/wedding-shop/products/girls-satin-bodice-tulle-midi-dress-in-blue