Funeral outfit needed

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My sister-in-law (husband's sister) died recently and her funeral is coming up. I have a black wool jacket and need a dress and shoes to go with it. Looking for something like a dark purple or dark green plain dress with 3/4 or long sleeves and low comfortable heels. I'm 65, size 14, 5 ft 3 and have horrible buniony feet. I don't suit a wrap style and obviously don't want a low neckline. Budget up to £100 for each. Any ideas? I can get to Bluewater easily.

I'm sorry for your loss
These may not suit you at all, but some ideas:

https://www.marksandspencer.com/ponte-jersey-button-detail-a-line-midi-dress/p/clp23044997#intid=pid_pg1pip48g4r8c2%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://www.marksandspencer.com/georgette-textured-shirred-midi-tea-dress/p/clp23022910?color=GREEN#intid=pid_pg2pip48g4r1c1%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://www.marksandspencer.com/velvet-v-neck-waisted-dress/p/clp23047882#intid=pid_pg2pip48g4r3c4%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://www.marksandspencer.com/round-neck-midi-tea-dress/p/clp23039317#intid=pid_pg2pip48g4r8c3%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://www.marksandspencer.com/round-neck-midi-tea-dress/p/clp23039317#intid=pid_pg2pip48g4r8c3%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://www.marksandspencer.com/velvet-collared-midi-tea-dress/p/clp23045465?color=GREEN#intid=pid_pg2pip48g4r11c1%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only
https://tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/product/tuc147688268
https://tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/product/tuc143304183
https://www.monsoon.co.uk/penny-pleated-midi-dress-green-10080350140.html

Thanks @7238SM . I like the first one and the green velvet ones (I also like the red one but think it's a bit informal for a funeral). Any thoughts on shoes?

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If you find high street store things you like online then order them to collect in store (to ensure you get your size and they don't stock everything in store that they sell online), then you can try them on in the store and return while you're there.

I recetly went to a funeral with a dark green dress from whistle and somechelsea boots in black and that felt very appropriate

For shoes, are you wide fit due to the bunions? Can you wear heels or do you want flats? Possibly a black wedge? The links are all black shoes, so I'm not sure why the pic is showing a pinky one?

These 1st pair are rather pricey though https://www.marksandspencer.com/suede-slip-on-wedge-espadrilles/p/hbp23005967?
color=BLACK#intid=pidpg1pip15g4r4c1%7CprodflagOnline%20Only
https://www.clarks.com/en-gb/krystine-may/26179956-p
https://www.clarks.com/en-gb/loreleigh-rae/26177355-p
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su631888/am0186
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su477528/h28971
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su507099/am0174

Why are people still promoting Debenhams?

Hope the thread yields something suitable, OP.

I'm sorry for your loss.

This is my funeral dress. I have it it navy which is very dark.
www.theprettydresscompany.com/sale-c16/the-pretty-dress-company-hepburn-swing-dress-p282#attribute%5B1%5D=63

@Stuckstuckstuckfuck - that's a lovely dress!
I've also got a funeral to go to in March, my f-i-l.
I also have wide feet and can't wear heels so not sure what shoes would go with it, hmm.

@Stuckstuckstuckfuck That is a lovely dress, but the OP asked to spend UP to £100.

People stress far too much over funeral outfits and end up spending money over things they may never wear again. If you already have a black jacket no need to buy a new dress. Wear it over any neutral coloured outfit that isnt in a bright shade or loud pattern. Small patterns or colours like grey, dark brown, dark green, burgundy dark blue or purple are acceptable. The idea is to be respectful and not to draw attention. Any ordinary outfit that is suitable for business and not brightly coloured or "look at me" is considered adequate. Its not a fashion parade and no one will notice what you wore unless the outfit was bizarre.

True. Problem is I am retired, live in jeans and boots and got rid of all my work-style wear a long time ago. I'm certainly not looking to start any trends.

Thanks for all the helpful suggestions, especially the shoes. I love the skater dress but it is a bit pricy. Will follow up all the links.

I agree with Friendlygingercat..I won't make the mistake of buying a wedding outfit again, either,which was worn once,I will hire..I think most people have black trousers,shoes, boots,plain simple shirt.

Yes and for some people that is a strict budget and for others it has some leeway. I thought it was close enough to £100 with the new customer discount to be worth mentioning just in case.

In my case, it's a lot but it is beautifully made and because it doesnt scream funeral it does for any formal occasion eg job interviews (I appreciate the OP is retired).

Sorry for your loss.

I have been to 5 funerals in the past 2 years, including both of my parents and my fil. I agree with the previous poster who said not to worry too much about what you wear - I also don't think you need necessarily wear anything plain. I have worn Seasalt or White Stuff jersey midi dresses - dark background with a small pattern or flowers for all of them with a coat and long black flat boots, and have never felt that I was undressed. I don't know how to post a link but you can often get new ones (previous season) on eBay. I am late 50s.

I usually wear black/navy trousers and a dark coat or jacket. For my brother’s celebration of life I wore a bright blue jacket and cream top with dark trousers as it wasn’t to be a morbid affair. Wear whatever you feel would be appropriate to your relationship with your SIL.

https://www.nobodyschild.com/products/turquoise-green-balloon-sleeve-blair-midi-dress-d255361grn?variant=54756696457601&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Nobodys_Child-UK-PMax-All-DT%2BTA-SE-ePmax-Tier+4&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20969365384&gbraid=0AAAAADQCJIXBRxDfoe3p0EfnbWUn9fo8f&gclid=Cj0KCQiA18DMBhDeARIsABtYwT1FfVsG9T6oMjBH_14YngjKeS4Od7IrcgmVb4Z1tk4MwvfhGdX9_3UaAnl5EALw_wcB

is this any good?

When my darling Mother died I can honestly say that I didn’t notice what anyone else wore at the funeral .

Pavers have an easyfit range of boots and shoes that may work for your feet.

https://www.pavers.co.uk/products/easyfit-extra-wide-buckled-ankle-boots-winnipeg-328-290-black

https://www.pavers.co.uk/products/easyfit-extra-wide-fit-leather-boots-laycie-328-475-black

This.

It was my mam's funeral on Thursday and I genuinely couldn't tell you what anyone was wearing apart from my cousin who was in a pale blue coat (her baby threw up on her black one on the way out) and apologised to me multiple times because of it which is really the only reason I remember it!

What matters is supporting her, not what you're wearing.

Grey dress. Looks great with a black jacket. Or wear grey trousers and grey blouse. Navy trouser suit is my go to for funerals. This can be made more jolly with choice of blouse under. I’m pretty casual these days but would always have more clothes for various occasions such as funerals or going out. Trousers are great as no one can see your shoes!

Black trousers and plain top. That’s all that’s needed. Something respectful that doesn’t stand out. Stuff that can be used other times.

I cleared out all of my wardrobe last year. The only smarter thing i kept was a black trouser suit.

Viviaia shoes are the most comfortable shoes I have ever had. I was very sceptical at first but I love them. lots of different styles.

I find this dress from Boden very versatile. I wore the short sleeved version to a celebration of life and it's now one of my work outfits:

https://www.boden.com/products/women-amelie-long-sleeve-dress-navy-d1066nmy

https://www.gaborshoes.co.uk/womens-c1/shoes-c2

I’m the same ..have a funeral soon ,a very close relative ( I don’t want to say any more than that 😭)
I am rummaging in my wardrobe and borrowing a daughter’s skirt .
I am also similar height to you .
I did look at John Lewis website because I’m not up to shopping right now.
They had Phase Eight “ Candice “ dresses which in the regular length would sit at the knee for a smaller person .
Also they’re not fitted so no concerns about the poor fit a smaller figure can have with a regular fitting dress ( eg waistline in the wrong place etc )
They had black , navy and are very wearable