Funeral outfit needed

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My sister-in-law (husband's sister) died recently and her funeral is coming up. I have a black wool jacket and need a dress and shoes to go with it. Looking for something like a dark purple or dark green plain dress with 3/4 or long sleeves and low comfortable heels. I'm 65, size 14, 5 ft 3 and have horrible buniony feet. I don't suit a wrap style and obviously don't want a low neckline. Budget up to £100 for each. Any ideas? I can get to Bluewater easily.

I have several funeral outfits, unfortunately.
A black dress which I rarely wear. Marks and Spencers - it can also be dressed up to go out for a nice meal. I don't wear it much because often the family of the deceased won't be dressed up.
Black velvet blazer - also M&S. This goes everywhere. It's been to several funerals, theatre, nights out, shopping.
Several pairs of black trousers. I like ones with stretch from Hobbs, which are a cross between trousers and smart jeans. I also have some navy NYDJ jeans which are smart.
Blouses in dark colours from M & S or Hobbs. These can be worn for an evening out too.
Skirt. Calf length black polka dot skirt. It's over 15 years old. Jersey material. It has been to graduation ceremonies, christenings and many other occasions. I have bright jackets and tops to go with it.
Jumpers in merino or cashmere, dark colours. Can be worn for everyday or going out.
Shoes. Black loafers or low heeled boots. Marks, Clarks and Next do wide fitting. I've got some from Dune which are generous. They came from an outlet centre. I usually have black court shoes but I can't find any at the moment. I suppose nude shoes would be acceptable. Loafers will give plenty of wear afterwards.
For the last 2 funerals I wore a brown hooded jacket/raincoat, also from Marks. It rained heavily at both funerals. Don't forget an umbrella.
The two funeral outfits I remember most are a chap in two halves of different suits, red shirt, no tie, smoking throughout.
And, a different funeral, a woman who resembled Grizabella from Cats - complete with moth eaten fur coat.

All the funerals I’ve been to since retiring I have worn a funeral outfit of a pair of wide leg black trousers saved from working days, with comfy black suede lace up shoes (I also have a bunion). I think with trousers the focus is less on footwear and feet. My top half is a dark coloured top with a tshirt underneath if cold weather, and a black jacket either a thin summer or a winter one with fur lined hood also depending on the season. Unfortunately when you get to a certain age, funerals become something you have to almost plan for. I never wear dresses due to the footwear issue. The only thing bought solely for funerals is the black winter jacket though I have saved clothes I wouldn’t otherwise wear thinking funerals.

Look at the Nobody’s Child website. They have some black dresses in their sale for about £50.

I am sorry for your loss. John Lewis has a size 14 petite dark purple Hobbs Leonora dress in stock which I think would work. It is on sale for £99 but if you have a John Lewis loyalty card (free) there is currently £10 off an £80 spend on clothes and shoes. What size shoes do you need?

I'd be tempted to wear boots with your dress. Don't forget gloves and a scarf. I attend a lot of funerals and during the winter, I always wear a hat as well. I know its ridiculously formal, but its also warm. I tend to know what churches are particularly cold and if thermals are required. But then, I really feel the cold.

The problem, for me, of buying an outfit specifically for a funeral is the connection to that sad event. I have black trousers suitable for funerals or other dressy/formal events. A plain blouse or jumper can be worn with jeans at other times. If you buy a 'funeral dress' you might not feel comfortable wearing it to a Christmas party.

I bought this in black for my FIL’s funeral tomorrow, but there are other colours. The quality of the fabric is beautiful.
https://www.finerylondon.com/products/carla-black-ponte-jersey-midi-dress?_pos=25&_fid=f0fc078d3&_ss=c&variant=48589756105036

And these shoes
https://www.matalan.co.uk/womens-footwear-shoes/black-court-point-heels/16492471.html

That’s gorgeous, i love that.

Why not? The shops no longer exist but they have some lovely clothes on their website.

sorry for your loss, i hope the funeral goes well. do you have a pair of boots that are presentable enough for the occasion? i was just thinking that it would save buying a new pair, especially if you have bunions as you will know the ones you have don't aggravate them. this dress is lovely and could be dressed up or down in the future, i would definitely do purple rather than green but i'm biased because purple is my favourite colour.

I have a dark grey jacket that is my 'serious events' including funerals jacket. That way you always have a suitable top layer. To go with I have some options: inexpensive black jersey dresses that I wear with other things at other times. I might also wear the jacket with black wide legged trousers and either a white or black t shirt. Navy, purple, grey or dark green under a grey jacket are all fine too.

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su684417/f92949

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/petite-kai-dress-10010700693.html

https://www.roman.co.uk/contrast-sleeve-knitted-shift-dress-14637631

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/petite-gwen-dress-10001940351.html

https://www.debenhams.com/product/hobbs-london-lori-dress_p-bddf34d2-1f4d-4faf-bb30-f15592ca68e0

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/petite-shakira-teal-floral-midaxi-dress-222393402.html

https://www.wallis.co.uk/product/wallis-petite-chiffon-button-detail-midi-dress_byy16323

https://www.johnlewis.com/jolie-moi-three-quarter-sleeve-midi-dress-navy/p113509524

https://www.next.om/en/style/su530925/av3107

https://www.debenhams.com/product/wallis-petite-pleat-insert-v-neck-midaxi-dress_byy15900

https://www.debenhams.com/product/wallis-petite-floral-jacquard-button-midi-dress_byy14322

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/trishna-twist-dress-20497419412.html

https://www.roman.co.uk/a-line-pocket-detail-swing-dress-14125331

@Delphiniumandlupins. I find putting something matching with navy, grey or black trousers always works for funerals and I already own all of these. I’d never ever wear grey and navy (or purple?) but a plain coordinated knit or plain blouse with a similar coloured jacket or coat over is just right. I would not buy a special dress either. I tend to approach funerals as a navy or grey day! Not so many wear all black these days but I could if I knew it was a very formal event. Keep it simple and don’t mix up colours.