I have now read the whole thread and had to resist buying the recommended books 🤦♀️
It’s been an eye-opening experience for me so far. I used to smoke many years ago and I feel exactly the same as when I tried to quit smoking (many times before I finally succeeded). I have physical symptoms - I’m restless, sad and grumpy, feeling like I have lost my best friend. I don’t know what is worse - the shopping ban or the realisation how much of an addiction this is.
Having said that I broke the ban and got something from my wishlist today, a scarf. I have a sizeable collection of scarves which are all loved, taken care of and in regular use.
I am very good at letting things go, I sell enough every month on Vestiaire Collective and Vinted to supplement my maternity pay. Interestingly, selling gives me a similar thrill to buying so I rather like it, including dealing with all the time wasters.
My wardrobe is very well organised, I use the Stylebook app and I dutifully record everything I wear (since 2023). I also have enough space, so in theory I could keep on buying. It’s just the enormous sense of guilt, and the feeling that I am working, earning and living to “curate” my clothes (wtf does this even mean). I also feel guilty when I am not buying anything - 99% of my purchases are from small businesses and made in Europe so it feels like a moral duty to support the local manufacturing.
I have an analogue bag - a 1000 pieces jigsaw puzzle and several knitting projects to finish. I still find it difficult to focus on anything, I constantly think about things on my wishlist.