Is it kinda pathetic or unfashionable for me, 33f, to want to dress in clothes women that are around 25 are yearing?

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I feel good in the clothes I wear and I think they're cute and pretty fashionable, but I just realized that one of the artists I listen to, and also like the fashion of, is 26 :)

It doesn't bother me but I can see how it can come in the wrong way to some people I guess.

I'm 52, I've just slapped on a patch and am drinking lion's mane coffee to try and stave off the brain fog 😁...but I will still be wearing my DMs, my Damson Madder skirt and my New Look top to work today. I shop where I want and wear what I like.

Most 40 somethings and 20 somethings dress the same nowadays so I think you are overthinking this.

Who cares about 'unfashionable'? Fashion is made-up nonsense.

Although ime (I'm a university lecturer and have 20-something kids so I spend a lot of time with that age group) many 25ish year olds dress like residents of a Florida retirement community. Baggy sweats and trainers many be comfy but that's pretty much all they have going for them in the style stakes.

You’re still very young and youthful, you can wear anything you want.

I dress a little older than my age because I like a heritage style with wool skirts and cashmere jumpers and a nice handbag but who cares. I wouldn’t judge you or even think about it.

Im in my 50s, it wouldnt occur to me to wonder if I wear the same style clothing of someone 30 years younger, clothes are clothes, they either suit you or dont

I wear a range of stuff like someone said above, from high end unique items from boutiques abroad to Bon Marche, Peacocks and supermarket clothes and everything in between

25 and 33 are like... seconds apart. You're basically the same age. Just wear whatever you want, who cares what people think anyway.

OP, would you think it would be “dressing too old” for an 18 year old to dress like the same artist? The gap is similar.

Early 30s are a tricky age, you often suddenly have the realisation you are a grown up, and with our society pushing many “adult” signifiers to early 30s from 20s of previous generations (getting married, having DCs, buying property etc) suddenly makes being in your early 30s feel the point you are no longer “young”.

Bur clothing - is it appropriate for your lifestyle/job? Does it flatter your body shape? Do you feel comfortable and have you avoid colours that drain people with your skin tone? Then go for it.

So you want to wear a style you think belongs to someone eight years younger than you.

Wait until you’re older and look at old photographs, and realise you’ve had some favourite items of clothing for much longer than that!

Urgh.

I think you’re a little too rigid in applying ‘fashion rules’ 😂

I’m 57 and I’m about to put on my puffball skirt. OK, it’s not up round my arse anymore, and I’m wearing it with 60 denier tights but there’s no reason you can’t wear anything g you please. Clothes are for fun, pleasure, and self expression. They’re there to be enjoyed, not endured, and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

Is it just me who really wants to know who the artist is?

I am mid 40s and often wear the same styles as my niece 25, my mum, 75, has some of the same clothes as me. I shop at places like Uniqlo, Sezane, Mango, Damson Madder

I don't know why the "I wear what I want and I don't care how I look" people come to the style board! Even giving off an I don't care vibe is a conscious decision that influences how you're perceived.

Having said that early 30s is not that different from mid 20s. I would just try to adapt the style a little depending on context, because you may be further ahead professionally or want to look more polished at work, probably have more to spend on nice pieces on average than a younger person. I'm late 30s and I'd feel silly wearing some of the trends right now, partly because I wore them as a teenager in the early 00s.

Even giving off an I don't care vibe is a conscious decision that influences how you're perceived

If it’s a conscious style decision, the people who say they wear what they want and don’t care what others think belong on the Style and Beauty board as much as anyone else, no?

Perspective is everything. From the POV of a 65-year-old, what a 33-year-old wears must be very similar to what 25-year-old wears.

Love this

We’re only here once OP, it really doesn’t matter what we wear as long as it makes us happy.

Say what!!! I'm 75 my oldest DD used to "borrow" my clothes when she was a teenager,my 15 year old dgd stayed last week "borrowed" my grey joggers!

Fair point 😁 but not sure why we need to see it stated over and over again in every thread

Sometimes the questions are just so ridiculous it's worth chiming in. Someone who thinks it's normal to think she isn't "allowed" to wear clothes similar to someone less than a decade younger than her is preposterous. Far more ridiculous than the "what boots kook good with this skirt stuff"

Almost as ridiculous as the "what do people in London wear?" one recently.

I guess it depends what 25 year olds you're wearing the same clothes as.

If you're doing the school run in booty shorts and a bra top then yes you might be getting judged.

But you're only a year older than Ariana Grande so that definitely qualifies you as young.

I'm sure you look great! Is there a huge difference between 25 and 33? I don't think so.

I'm 41 now and I have found I've felt that I need to dress a bit more grown up recently. I know people will say it doesn't matter, but for me it does. I was beginning to feel a bit weird in younger clothes.

I've never been one for showing a lot of skin, so it's not that. That doesn't look good on anyone of any age in my personal opinion.

I went through a phase after having dc in my early 30s, of wearing what I THOUGHT i should be wearing. It was very boring.
I'm in my 40s now and wear exactly what I love. I'm currently back in what I wore as a teen- tight flares and band t shirts. But with better makeup. I like to wear a style, rather than what's in fashion. And I've come full circle- i didn't care what people thought of me, then I did, now I don't.

Today, I will be going out in my painting clothes though. But that's out of need.

I am 35, and I have not succumbed to either M&S or Zara.
I dont want to be seen as a lovely but entirely sexless human being (sorry M&S fans, im sure there are some gems but not on my body type) or a beige 'cool girl' aesthetic (sorry Zara, black, brown, khaki, beige, white all look lovely on others but with my colouring make me look dead)
Always wear things that bring you joy and make you feel good, regardless of what anyone else thinks!