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Is this suitable funeral attire?

53 replies

EtiquetteUncertainty · 10/10/2025 13:06

Title says it all! I thought this might be okay, but now I'm not sure.

Is this suitable funeral attire?
OP posts:
MyDeftDuck · 10/10/2025 17:24

Perfectly fine. Wear dark tights and a black/grey jacket…….if you have neither then a pashmina swagged around your shoulders looks equally as respectable.

Puzzledtoday · 10/10/2025 17:24

Yes, with tights or boots and leggings if cold.

EgregiouslyOverdressed · 10/10/2025 17:26

Yes.

PrincessofWells · 10/10/2025 17:34

It very much depends upon how formal the funeral is. I always black suit it because I can't go wrong then.

Flossflower · 10/10/2025 18:06

Your dress looks exactly like the majority of dresses at the last funeral I went to.
As the dress is showing your knees, I would wear black tights.

EtiquetteUncertainty · 10/10/2025 18:07

Thanks all, I wore the dress with dark tights, shoes, and coat (it was today and I was questioning myself at the last minute).

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TheDenimPoet · 10/10/2025 18:09

Yes with black/dark tights, as I wouldn't really want to be showing that much leg (but I do overthink these things).

AxolotlEars · 10/10/2025 21:57

I hope noone wears black to my funeral!

SouthernNights59 · 11/10/2025 01:30

AxolotlEars · 10/10/2025 21:57

I hope noone wears black to my funeral!

I'm not in the UK and hardly anyone wears black to funerals here. I find it really odd that people still do there.

OhDear111 · 11/10/2025 01:50

It’s pretty common not to. I tend to wear navy. People often ask mourners to wear something bright and not wear black. It’s only on MN where black is the norm - and thick black tights!! Just not necessary and, honestly, no one looks or cares whether it’s black or other dark colours. It’s a case of being attired as the family of the deceased wish. Black shows no respect if they ask for red as the deceased support Manchester United!

BuildbyNumbere · 12/10/2025 18:44

Yes

Gibstub · 12/10/2025 18:56

Yes.

Owly11 · 12/10/2025 19:16

Maybe wear a black jacket or cardigan with it if you have one. But yes that looks appropriate.

oldFoolMe · 12/10/2025 19:17

I honestly couldn't have cared less what you wore to my dads funeral - i couldn't tell you what anyone was wearing that day. Id just be glad you came. I think most people feel the same.

vincettenoir · 12/10/2025 19:21

Yes. Sorry for your loss.

Rosscameasdoody · 12/10/2025 19:27

Yes. Black or dark grey shoes and coat or jacket, and you’re fine.

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 19:33

TBH it depends on whose funeral it is and their wishes.
I've known funerals where the deceased banned black and wanted everyone to wear bright clothes.

I really don't think people care much about the 'right clothes' nowadays.

Vaguelyclassical · 12/10/2025 19:33

SouthernNights59 · 11/10/2025 01:30

I'm not in the UK and hardly anyone wears black to funerals here. I find it really odd that people still do there.

How is it odd? Symbolizes mourning in most Western cultures!
Or if you think I'm being too moralizing, let's get shallow . . . some of us look better and more put together & elegant in black for a formal occasion than in bright colours!

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 19:34

Oh, just seen it was 2 days ago.

OneFootAfterTheOther · 12/10/2025 19:35

Absolutely fine I would go with dark tights though

GirlonaCloud · 12/10/2025 19:35

Vaguelyclassical · 12/10/2025 19:33

How is it odd? Symbolizes mourning in most Western cultures!
Or if you think I'm being too moralizing, let's get shallow . . . some of us look better and more put together & elegant in black for a formal occasion than in bright colours!

It has become more relaxed.
Someone in my family has made it very clear they want their funeral to be a celebration of their life, not a time to mourn and want everyone to wear bright clothes.

SpigTheFish · 12/10/2025 19:48

As long as its not high church then yes, if worn with tights and black shoes plus a black coat but I've seen all sorts of outfits at funerals over the years, (including a pink blue and cream shell suit ten years ago) so protocol seems to have gone out of the window.

Christwosheds · 12/10/2025 19:58

Friendlygingercat · 10/10/2025 16:53

Dark shoes and jacket will be fine with that dress. Its probably too cold now for just a dress.

No one wears head to foot black nowadays unless its a pope or head of state. It also depends on the degree of kinship. Close family will probably wear darker clothes but any neutral colour is considered suitable for most funerals. I wore purple for my fathers funeral. If you were less close to the deceased than an ordinary daytime outfit (not sports clothes) would be acceptable. All this assumes that attendees are not asked to wear some particular bright colour or conform to a dress dress code.

All of the funerals I’ve been to, have had the majority of people still in black. Charcoal or navy at a push. Sometimes just a dark coloured coat when people have come straight from work.
Unless it was one where the family have asked for a specific colour code obviously.
OP I think that dress is ok as it’s monochrome (but it’s a possibly bit overly floral maybe). I would definitely put a dark coat on and black tights and shoes.

whereisthatcathidingnow · 12/10/2025 20:13

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Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 12/10/2025 20:17

Yes for sure, I don't think you need solid black. I would wear with a black coat or blazer and black sensible shoes, up to you if you want to do tights or not. Also just double check any invites/announcements as a couple recently had some requests for bright colours or a specific colour - I think it's unusual but worth a double check!