Are rainbow sequins too on the nose for a gay wedding?

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I am definitely overthinking this far too much but I also don't want to judge this situation totally wrong and offend anyone.

I could also simply ask the Grooms but they're busy and I'd prefer not to bother them if I can avoid to.

So MN style and beauty please help?

My nephew (husbands side of the family, we've been married 20 years but only really see the nephew once a year and at births, deaths and marriages etc)
gets married in November in the late afternoon / early evening. It's at a glitzy venue in Essex.

I've been looking for something to wear and have found a dress very similar to the this.

https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/product/api/getzoomimages?productid=113604&modelid=0#3

I'm very much a formal dress, fascinator, matching shoes and handbag type person when it comes to a wedding, but to me that isn't what's called for here.

So I'm in a quandary because I would never consider something like this in any other scenario but I feel like the rules are slightly different here.

Not just because I'm expecting it to be a fabulously camp event but also because it's winter, night time and in a very blingy sparkly venue (I'm also conscious of not looking too christmassy, hence rainbow rather than typical red, gold, silver etc).

So do rainbow sequins hit the mark or is it just too obvious and I need to rethink the whole idea?

It looks perfect to me for a winter do. Lovely and sparkly

Looks great - I was expecting great stripes of red, orange, yellow etc like a sequined pride flag! This seems perfect for the event you describe.

That dress is perfect, have a great time.

It looks lovely, definitely think you're over thinking it x

Well, surely it depends on whether the two men getting married are having a 'fabulously camp' wedding because that's the kind of thing they enjoy?

I have gay friends who had a drag act called Opus Gay as their wedding band (you possibly have to be Catholic to get the reference), and I also have gay friends whose wedding was a very formal, traditional affair with a lot of good tailoring and a string quartet.

Your dress would have looked wonderful at the first one, but a bit out of place at the second. You will be best placed to know whether this is the case here, by asking family if you can't ask your nephew himself.

I love the dress but am slightly bemused that you seem to be changing your usual wedding style because you think something different is required for a gay wedding.
There are some very glitzy venues where the dress would be too casual and others where it would be just right.
I think you need to ask the grooms or a close relative for a steer.

it's .a lovely dress

That doesn't say rainbow to me- it's just multicoloured sequins.

Agreed. You're overthrowing, it's like the style equivalent of 'don't mention the war'

I could also simply ask the Grooms but they're busy and I'd prefer not to bother them if I can avoid to.

No-one's too busy to answer a short text.

Plus the wedding's not for 2 months, and I take it they have to do other things like go to work between now and then and other normal stuff?

The dress is nice and if they're getting married in the late afternoon/early evening, then it's suitable.

But I've yet to attend a gay wedding where any guest changed their normal wedding style just because the couple were same sex, unless specifically asked to.

I agree with this. I like the dress but I'd wear it to a straight wedding if that's what the venue and vibe demanded. Just because they're gay doesn't mean you change your style. You wear something that befits the occasion and the style of the wedding not their sexuality.

If it's purely an evening wedding ceremony I think a lot of people will be wearing cocktail style dresses rather than the smart day wear that you would wear to an afternoon ceremony.

Given this, this would fit the likely dress code that most guest will apply, but personally i think it could be a bit smarter. This to me is more Christmas party than posh cocktail party.

If I was at a wedding I wouldn’t think that what a rainbow dress. It’s just a sparkly Christmas dress.

I thought you meant a rainbow coloured dress with sequins, which I think would be too much! That dress is fine and no one would think it was too "on the nose" at all.

I agree with other posters that gay weddings don't automatically have a different dress code (the only one I've been to was stylish and understated) but I don't think that's what the OP means at all - she thinks the venue and style will be quite glitzy and wants to dress appropriately without going OTT.

Actual rainbow dress no, that one is gorgeous 😍

My first thoughts are how uncomfortable it will be to sit down in and how are you going to wash it?

Haha same!

The dress isnt 'camp' at all OP, it looks lovely.

What's the dress code? I've been to two gay couples ceremonies and have not been asked to change my style, I would find that odd. I also had a Goth wedding and would have found it weird if non Goth friends and family had dressed up Goth, making a pantomime of it. The dress is fine for a Christmas party kind of vibe but only you know if it's right for your friends wedding.

It is a lovely sequinned dress it isnt "rainbowy" as you think, dark with a bit of sparkly is perfect for a winter wedding imo.

I wouldn’t go rainbow unless I knew the couple well enough to know it was OK. Which you obviously don’t.

Perfect choice

I’ve been to a few gay weddings here in Scotland. Bloody great fun, same as most weddings I’m sure. That dress looks fab - go for it.

I was surprised when I saw the dress as I would never have thought "rainbow." It's a black dress with embellishments. You're definitely overthinking, nobody could take offence to this.

This would make for an interesting AIBU. AIBU to assume a gay wedding means glitter and sparkles and the gays don’t dress for weddings like the other folks.

That dress is a nice dress. I am pretty sure they want their guests to feel comfortable and just concentrate on celebrating their big day with them!

Exactly this. Not all gay weddings are camp. The last one I attended was very formal. You really need to be sure and the only way to be sure is to ask someone who definitely knows.