Are rainbow sequins too on the nose for a gay wedding?

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I am definitely overthinking this far too much but I also don't want to judge this situation totally wrong and offend anyone.

I could also simply ask the Grooms but they're busy and I'd prefer not to bother them if I can avoid to.

So MN style and beauty please help?

My nephew (husbands side of the family, we've been married 20 years but only really see the nephew once a year and at births, deaths and marriages etc)
gets married in November in the late afternoon / early evening. It's at a glitzy venue in Essex.

I've been looking for something to wear and have found a dress very similar to the this.

https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/product/api/getzoomimages?productid=113604&modelid=0#3

I'm very much a formal dress, fascinator, matching shoes and handbag type person when it comes to a wedding, but to me that isn't what's called for here.

So I'm in a quandary because I would never consider something like this in any other scenario but I feel like the rules are slightly different here.

Not just because I'm expecting it to be a fabulously camp event but also because it's winter, night time and in a very blingy sparkly venue (I'm also conscious of not looking too christmassy, hence rainbow rather than typical red, gold, silver etc).

So do rainbow sequins hit the mark or is it just too obvious and I need to rethink the whole idea?

Love it

I wouldn't even see this as rainbow - just sparkly. I love it! Wish I was brave enough to wear something like this. Very glam.

The dress is lovely! And I wouldn't think of rainbows if I saw it.. it would look nice at any wedding!

I agree it is multi coloured rather than rainbow and would be a fun party dress for a winter evening do.

You'd have hated me, I'd probably have gone full Addams Family. I adore goth style but am not one and know nothing about it! 😂

What's the venue OP? I live in Essex

This was my thought entirely. Why would a formal dress and fascinator not be "called for" because they are gay?
The dress looks like a work Christmas party outfit to me.

Definitely Christmas party, not formal wedding. you need to find out what the vibe is if you won’t ask them ask someone close to them

I was half-expecting a Pride flag. That's just a multicoloured sequin dress and it's absolutely fine.

I think it's more the case that a fascinator and matching dress - shoes - bag are usually formal daywear, and this wedding will call for formal evening wear.

It’s a gorgeous dress and would be suitable for any winter wedding gay or not, go for it, tempted myself!

Unless Essex has completely changed character in the last ten years, it's reasonable to suppose guests will be shinier than is, perhaps, usual elsewhere (the only equally shiny place I've lived is Teesside, but that was much longer ago!) As it's an Essex venue described as glitzy, sequins are very appropriate.

It's a charming, dress, OP. Go for it 🙂

I love that dress. Go and enjoy yourself.

Reminds me of this comedy sketch:

(though I’m guessing the OP has a reasonable idea of the vibe of the event as it’s a bit of a leap to just assume a gay wedding would be “fabulously camp”)

Wear what you feel comfortable in, but also - ask your nephew? I was at my best friends mum's funeral recently and I didn't ask so went all black (but was also somewhat restricted by a green cast on my left wrist - I had a handbag that matched exactly, so I didn't feel too sombre). I wish I'd asked my friend what the "dress code" was, it wasn't formal at all, and if it hadn't been for the cast, I would have looked way too sombre. Everyone else was wearing cheerful clothes, flowery dresses, cheery ties etc. Everyone was comfortable. That's the main thing, I think. Be present, be comfy - enjoy! (As this is a wedding, not a funeral - but it applies both ways). Ask! Hope you all have a lovely time :)

Love it!

re: have to be catholic to get the reference.

or read or watched the Da Vinci code

you have taken me to bygone years

Thank you all for your replies, it's all very much appreciated and sounds like I've made a good choice.

Just to clarify I was never altering what I wore because they are a gay couple, it was simply because it is a late afternoon/ early evening ceremony in Essex in a very sparkly venue near Christmas time.

I was concerned that people would think I was making a statement about the unity of two men by wearing rainbow but as the majority have pointed out that this is just a black dress with multicoloured sequins rather than a bejeweled pride flag I'm quite happy that that majority of people wouldn't think such a thing.

exactly what I was about to put

(btw, I LOLd at Opus Gay)

Beautiful dress. I was thinking proper rainbow dress too 🤣. Have a fabulous time 🤍❤️💙💜🖤💚💛🧡

Perfect dress!

So you’re not going in your usual formal because they are gay and are questioning the gay stereotypes of a gay wedding. It’s about what type of wedding they are having surely. I wouldn’t wear the suggested dress looks more like for an evening do or a party not wedding attire at all. Unless they have opted for a different dress code.

That dress is lovely. I live in a very gay friendly area and most of the weddings have had a dress code or theme so just double check if they didn't have one that dress is lush :)

After the positive feedback from the majority I had enough courage to ask the grooms.

Their responses have confirmed I was spot on with my choice - whoop whoop.

Omg.. love that dress. It's beautiful. X

And

Dress is amazing

Now time to decide on shoes and bag ☺️

Fabulous! Delighted you got it. It's an amazing dress, enjoy the wedding!