Another 'is it too white?' one

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Is it too white?

Looks great on (imo), feels very comfortable. The bride isn't wearing a) white or b) a dress. It's a central London venue, lots of creative / arty types.

What does the hive mind reckon?

But look at the dress.
How could anyone possibly say they were wearing it to ‘compete’ with the bride.

It doesn’t even look white- looks cream and there’s big massive flowers all over it!

How come it's ok for male wedding guests to wear navy suits? Surely that's competing with the groom?

The dress is fine.

I'm sorry but imo it's the opposite. Worrying at this level about upstaging the bride is encouraging the narcissistic culture and the absurd bridezilla tendencies. I will wear something that I feel is appropriate, not a white long dress with a veil, but the most important thing for me on that day is not the bride, is that I feel comfortable and look good and that will be my priority. Just because someone else is getting married I don't stop being the most important person for me. All within reasonable and sensible rules of etiquette, not these i sane ones.

And if anyone ever asked me to check a dress they're thinking to wear to my wedding I would think they've lost their mind!!

Not too white, not remotely bridal. It’s fine.

It looks like something a creative/arty bride might wear. So yes, it’s too white and bridal in style.

I wouldn’t.

YAWN.

I love it OP. I think you should wear it.

Ffs - how is it making it about you to wear a dress you like that isn’t bridal looking and has flowers all over it?

Can’t remember a single wedding I’ve ever been to were anyone was talking about what people wore other than the bride.

If you read enough of these threads, you’d see people seem to think it’s more than just one colour, I’ve seen posters say you shouldn’t wear black, green or red!

People on here are full-on loony about the white thing and have invented lots of "extra" rules to boot. But tbh posting on the S&B board means discounting about 50-60% of the responses you receive at any given time anyway.

I’ve just taken another look. If the bride was wearing the most weddingest of white dresses it would still be fine.

It’s not too white but it is hideous

So why are you even asking?

I think it is too white, sorry OP. It’s a long dramatic mostly white dress, so - no.

If the bride has any hippy-chick leanings, then it could easily be a wedding dress.

I think it's beautiful. Not too white at all. The entire shoulder is green. Go for it.

Because if the bride is wearing a green suit, you want to avoid completely something that looks a bit bridal, so you don’t look like the bride in pictures or to guests. Honestly OP can buy the dress and wear it to something else! I always err on the side of caution for these things.

No it’s fine.

I think it’s fine. It’s really lovely. Very stylish. I think not wearing white / cream / ivory applies when it’s a plain dress and a bit well, bridal looking. The fact it’s got massive bloody green and orange flowers on makes it fine.

Someone posted a cream dress with huge black polka dots on it asking the same question. So many posters berated the OP, saying ‘If you have to ask it’s a no.’ But I think people are being far too critical.

Who is going to weddings where they can only identify the bride by what she's wearing?!

Looks fine to me. The only dresses you should avoid are those that resemble the bridal party so typically white or cream satin/lace/tulle dresses and full length dresses in the bridesmaids colour. Dresses that have bold flowers taking up at least 1/4 of the dress even if the background is white / cream are fine as they obviously aren’t the bride. When the bride isn’t wearing white or a dress the normal “rules” don’t apply anyway

I wouldn't buy it but I think it's super cool and probably fine for a wedding.

This totally.

If the bride is wearing a green suit, she is presumably well aware that a guest might wear a similar outfit purely by accident, so why would she give a shit? Unless of course she had sent out a full schematic of her outfit in advance, but IME brides who go unconventional on dress could not possibly give the single tiniest shit about whether someone accidentally wore something similar. Playing some kind of "but the bride COULD be an arty bride who might wear a dress like that!!!!" guessing game is so obviously ludicrous I can't believe people are doing it. Plus OP has stated clearly that the bride isn't wearing a dress at all.

No way is it too white! It’s covered in massive flowers! It wouldn’t occur to me that there’s a possibility you’re the bride!

There certainly do seem to be quite a lot of these people posting on S&B. I must be moving in the wrong circles!

It’s not about not being able to identify the bride. You don’t wear anything resembling a long, white gown so that the bride is unique and stands out in a sea of colour on her wedding day.

It’s the most basic wedding etiquette and so easy to adhere to I wonder why people have such a problem doing so, There are so many other colours. Just choose one and then you don’t have to ask this question.