Another 'is it too white?' one

[Cososom]

Is it too white?

Looks great on (imo), feels very comfortable. The bride isn't wearing a) white or b) a dress. It's a central London venue, lots of creative / arty types.

What does the hive mind reckon?

Beautiful dress.
I love it and absolutely perfect for a wedding 👌🏻

but my god this ‘anything that may compete with the bride’ what a load of nonsense.

This whole "if you have to ask, it's too white" thing is a classic Purity Spiral.

If you aren't dressed like Sarah McCool, you're fine.

I think it's is lovely and would suit the vibe you described very well.

I was also going to say 'if you have to ask if it's too white then it probably is.'

But it isn't. And it's fabulous. Buy it. I can't believe the price. It looks really expensive.

Yes it’s beautiful and appropriate.

If the bride is not wearing a dress or white, then no. For traditional wedding where bride wears white, ok.

You are going to wear it, so why bother asking.

Not true. I think it's a fab dress and am pretty sure it would be fine, but sonetimes my judgement about these things is off! If the consensus had been no, I would've definitely thought again. Sometimes a second/third/hundredth opinion is helpful.

Because she wanted to know what people thought, and the majority have said its fine, so of course she's going to wear it rather than go with the couple of people who've said she shouldn't?!

It looks more cream/natural than white and the floral design is gorgeous - it looks amazing on all the reviewers who’ve posted, too, so I think for an arty London wedding it’s stunning and perfect. If you are friends with the bride, you might just want to check first but I’m almost tempted to buy this dress myself it’s so lovely.

It's not white!! And what does it mean competing with the bride, it's not a bridal dress in any shape or form! Or do we all need to wear ugly flowery phase 8 dresses so that we look unattractive??

Why not???? What does one wear when the bride is wearing a traditional dress? a potato sack so.not to upstage?

*when bbride is not wearing a traditional dress

Just ask the bride.

i’m personally of the “if you have to ask, it’s too white” camp, but not everyone will be

I wouldn’t wear this to a wedding personally. A large portion of the dress is white. If I might risk upsetting someone on their wedding day, i wouldn’t think it was worth it, whether or not I could get away with it, it just doesn’t seem worth the risk to me

It’s not always about competing though. It’s just polite. It’s customary that the bride wears white so guests just don’t. Pretty simple really.
This case is different, op knows the bride isn’t wearing white but does everyone else? I still wouldn’t wear something white or partially white to a wedding.

It's fine!

I think it’s great! And not too white. If in doubt, ask the bride?

This. One of the main reasons for not wearing white is you might upset a bride on her wedding day. You might not but you shouldn’t really bother a bride ahead of a wedding by asking with queries about what YOU will wear! So just don’t risk it. There are plenty of other dresses and the day isn’t about you and what you are wearing.

Don’t ask the bride! They will be busy organising a wedding and can’t be fielding queries about individual guests outfits. Imagine if all the guests did it!!?! Plus they might feel uncomfortable and say yes when they would prefer that you didn’t wear it. Easier, politer and kinder to just wear something else if you are not sure.

A white dress and an ugly dress aren’t the only two options. There are PLENTY of lovely dresses that aren’t white. Why are people so difficult about this? It’s really very simple and easy. I do think this is a symptom of how narcissistic (I mean that in the generally sense, not personality disorder sense) people have become these days - someone else’s wedding day is not about you, and it’s really not a big ask to not wear one colour.

Your totally fine
Looks nothing like a wedding dress

Gosh, it's the first time I've ever been called a narcissist on an S&B thread. Wild.

No don't wear it to a wedding. It IS too white.

If a guest contacted me before my wedding to check what they were wearing I'd have thought they were insane but maybe that's just me. I was the least Bridezilla-y bride you can imagine, I loathe making a fuss about anything. I couldn't honestly tell you what any of my guests wore. As long as they didn't turn up in a veil clutching a bunch of flowers, I couldn't give a shit!
The dress linked isn't remotely bridal so totally fine by me BUT I'm aware some people are obsessed about being the centre of the frigging universe on their wedding day and in their photos. Tbh, if you spend your wedding day freaking out about what your guests are wearing, I'd feel a bit sorry for you.