Is a sequin dress appropriate for a wedding guest?

[ellimae]

Its midi in dark rust for an autumn wedding - simple shape, sleeveless and midi length.

Its a glam wedding of a young cool party couple - I am 48 and petite.

If so how would you style it - jacket / shoes - colour and material? It will be indoors - ceremony and reception in same venue.

Assuming a UK day wedding (apologies if I’ve missed this) I think it’s too partyish. You could wear the top with something quieter, eg a chiffon pleated skirt and a posh cardi or jacket, and swap skirts for the evening reception. I wouldn’t wear the whole ensemble to the ceremony, although it is a stunning colour.

It’s so weird how every longish S&B thread unfolds like this! OP; initial comments expressing strong opinions; suggestions of more suitable alternatives; OP clarification; more focused suggestions; OP recalibration; … 50 million subsequent, earnest responses entirely based on the first post …

I wouldn't be brave enough to wear it myself but I love it! I also like the suggestions of toning it down slightly with a shirt / cashmere.

I've always liked outfits that contrast glam and simple so I think a t-shirt would work well with the skirt too, or the top with worn denim for a different occasion.

The phrase "tits and twat" is horrible by the way.

I was imagining a darker tone (less orange) and simple shift style, shorter dress,

It could work if you shorten the skirt to calf length. The top is fine if you wear a blazer over that you could later remove.

Velvet could be a good choice, I would probably choice black and for shoes but possibly a beaded bag in similar burnt orange colour.

This has to be the quote of the year, perfect description.

So was the dress and being able to see her knickers. Sometimes a horrible phrase is merited to describe something horrible. Or at least I think it is …

is getting on for being “tits and twat”, but of course that’s just my view.

How?

It is crew neck and floor length - the only flesh revealed would my arms and my head?

Because it is not designed for the occasion you are wearing it for, you are a slightly older woman showing midriff (not in fact but assumption that you were at the time I made the comment) and it’s brightly coloured and sequinned. Both can be viewed as exhibitionist - which I would avoid at a wedding.

Bit as I’ve said - you do you. It’s a fab outfit and I’m sure you’ll look stunning,

OP, I’m in the almost 70 bracket and looking at the link on Fenwick site I think it looks fab, crew neck, no midriff and long skirt is perfect for a wedding. A good jacket for the ceremony and photos and then you will be ready to party and stay cool in the evening.

I’m 66 and think, providing you have the figure for it, & can find a suitable blazer or jacket to go with it, you will look fabulous

No, not appropriate.It's a clubbing outfit.

When and where were you last in a club?

I haven't been to one for years but dont recall lots of crew neck floor length dresses.

This was not kind however I applaud your facility for being able to conjure up a very precise image in the reader's eye.

As a foreigner I am obviously not qualified to opine though I will anyway - it is not my style and would not suit me but I think that it could look fabulous at a wedding. I always thought the “not upstaging the bride” thing was in not wearing white, not that you had to wear the most boring “smart” clothes you own.

I also think the leopard print coat a PP linked upthread would look amazing with the ensemble.

But the OP has explained several times that her midriff will be covered.

Edit to add: sorry, I've just re-read your post and you did acknowledge that.

Thanks - here is an old retro photo of Doris Day in an orange sequin dress with and orange sequin lined coat....

https://uk.pinterest.com/pin/1965-doris-day-wearing-orange-sequined-dress-and-coat-dorismaryannvonkappelhoff--504332858269878348/

But it seems being 'brightly coloured and sequinned' are now considered 'exhibitionist' enough to upstage a bride and not appropriate?

What a nasty unpleasant post not surprised from you though. Who gives a shiny shite what you and your Daughters think, horrible snobby attitude. Wind your neck in.

Agreed. I can tell that this poster, her daughters and her friends are not just ugly in personality but also lacking in any cultural experience as they have clearly never been invited to an Asian wedding.

Demographic? You mean age? Older people like nice stuff too you know!

So, I'm sorry - this is the first mention that I've spotted that this is a culturally Asian wedding. I have no idea then.

But if the cultural milieu is your reason for dismissing some posters, might have been helpful to include that detail in your OP. It's natural for people to default to their cultural norm. If you'd said "Asian wedding" I probably wouldn't have posted, because while I know the cultural norms and expectations are different, I don't know what they are.

Enjoy the wedding and enjoy whatever you decide to wear; that's all that really matters that you feel good in what you are wearing.

OP- I am also confused, are you now saying this is for an Asian wedding???
Massive drip feed if that is the case! 🙄

Quite.

Information that would have been pertinent in the opening post.

Perhaps you should have mentioned that fact at some point @ellimae . It would have been helpful!

It's still not rust, which could be lovely. And half price usually means didn't sell at full price for some totally unknown reason...