Help me find handbag for funeral

[Maria1982]

I am going to funeral of a close relative in a fortnight. My usual handbags are the wrong colour.
can you help me find something, I guess black? Stylish. Big enough to fit a couple of nappies and wet nappies (so I don’t need to carry a nappy bag as well) as well as my usual bits and pieces. preferably something with a shoulder strap, not just clutch.
budget up to £150 ish but open to cheaper!
tia

That should read wet wipes rather than wet nappies , but yeah ..

I'm sorry for your loss, but I really don't think anyone will notice or care what kind of bag you have.

Sadly, I have been to several funerals over recent years and I know that the bereaved care far more about being supported by their friends and familes than what handbags and clothes people are wearing.

Sorry, this wasn't very helpful. Also, if you have a baby with you people aren't going to judge your bag.

What on earth?? I know no one will care, but I was taught that it shows respect to dress appropriately. I’m not going to turn up with a red handbag!
what an unhelpful post …

John Lewis have a few options of varying sizes.

www.johnlewis.com/browse/women/handbags-bags-purses/shoulder/black/_/N-fjgZ1z0roilZ1z141fu?chunk=2

This might work: www.johnlewis.com/dune-deliberate-woven-shoulder-bag/black/p111538350

Dressing appropriately really doesn’t extend to handbags. Nobody will care or notice if you do turn up with a red one or a polka dot one.

If you really want a black one the easiest thing to do would be to pop to your nearest big supermarket who will have a few to choose from

No one will notice. Just bring a nappy bag and throw your phone/purse/lipstick into that. Sorry for your loss. Do you have to bring the baby to the funeral? If option not to, might be better. Funerals boring for babies and can be disruptive to service if baby crying as babies do!

Thank you

Gosh. Did you mean to be so rude?

I was genuinely trying to be helpful.

Is it a very religious funeral?

I have been to several funerals over recent years where a lot of people were either not wearing black or even wore jeans. I didn't even notice what handbags people had.

Whatever you choose - make sure that it’s something you’d like to use afterwards.

This looks practical?

I'd go to TK Maxx, they always have a selection of black totes. You'll get use out of it, I'm sure.

I can’t imagine buying a new handbag just for a funeral. Seems a whopping waste of money, especially as most funerals are very casual without formal wear.

Unless it’s something you plan to get lots of use from after the event, I’d buy something cheap from a supermarket.

Can you ask a code friend if they have anything you can borrow ?

I have quite a few bags and have leant to friends for weddings and functions to save them buying as a one off - I have meant to work colleagues as well

If I knew you and you asked I would say yes without question

(I don't have very expensive bags - just Coach, Osprey and Radley types)

Please accept my condolences. I too have just had to buy a black handbag to attend the funeral of a close relative.
Try the Paul Costelloe website - Outlet section. They have lots of different styles and sizes of bag and a fair few black or dark blue ones to choose from. Excellent quality leather and good savings.

Unless you want a black handbag and feel you will use it a lot in the future then just use whatever handbag or nappy bag you usually do.

if you do want anew bag with that kind of budget I’d look at somewhere like TK Max or if you have any local leather shops or market handbag stalls.

Id also suggest trying shoe shops but often they are small bags.

I’d be tempted to get a black le pliage if it needs to double as a nappy bag. I think it’d pass unnoticed even if not super dressy and at least it’ll be useful in future, assuming it won’t be blighted by association which has happened to me with certain items used for funerals

TKMaxx - they often have a hundred black bags to choose from.

I would just take any black or dark coloured tote bag I think
i I don’t own a handbag though so I’m probably the wrong person to be giving advice 😬

Op you might think this post unhelpful but it’s spot on. Nobody will notice or even care about the colour of your bag. Yup, even a red one.

Great idea on the pliage

Well yes, if OP actually wants a black Pliage and will use it again. I don't think I've ever noticed anyone's bag at a funeral.

If OP doesn't own a black bag then whatever handbag or nappy bag she usually uses will do.

I went to a funeral and someone had a skull bag. Now that was noticed. It was horrific.

Just take your normal nappy bag. I know you’re upset OP but @RampantIvywas just trying to help.