Appropriate for a funeral?

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I have a funeral next week. I've recently lost weight so my usual (extensive black wardrobe) doesn't fit.

I've been looking online and have seen a pair of wide legged faux leather trousers which I really like. However, I'm unsure whether they are appropriate for a funeral due to the fabric. I would wear them with a fitted black roll neck jumper or a black blouse of some description.

My thoughts are that they are something I would wear again as opposed to buying a pair of normal wide legged black trousers which I wouldn't wear again.

What would you think of someone wearing these?

www.karenmillen.com/faux-leather-high-waisted-wide-leg-trousers/BKK13721-1.html?color=105

We're all different. I associate dressing up with fun events, not sad ones. There is also the fact that often people have to travel long distances to get to the funeral, and it might be in poor weather and/or using public transport. Warmth and comfort are going to be important then. No reason why people shouldn't manage to combine that with being stylish, but equally no reason why they should feel any pressure to do so.

They are fine, but not particularly chic. The material looks awful. Unless it’s a funeral for an ex-eastenders cast member - then I take it back, they’re perfect!

I wouldn't think twice if I saw someone in them at a funeral with a generic black top. Check if they're noisy though, squeaky or rustling trousers would be inappropriate.

That’s a lovely idea and I suggest that you include it in your will and make your next of kin aware of your wishes. But since it’s not your funeral the Op is attending, it’s not relevant to her question.

Well, to be fair, none of us actually know the wishes of the deceased in this particular case do we?

You don't want to be squeaking or rustling in a funeral...

I think that's fine. As long as you are either immediate family, or you know the immediate family think the same.

Not ideal to turn up with a "why be boring!" attitude and outfit if it's a very formal sombre funeral.

Which is why I'm not sure OP can get a particularly useful answer here.

I would argue that 'formal and sombre' doesn't need to mean dull and boring.

It could go either way, no one noticing/thinking they were cool or people noticing and thinking you looked a state/attention seeking. I'd probably not notice what anyone was wearing as long as it was black, but personally, I'd err on the side of caution. My family is v conservative and would take exception to p/leather at a funeral.
I'd buy a non leather looking pair of trousers and keep the tag on if not wearing again.

Thanks for all the replies, good and bad!

@BleachedJumper wonder no more, I am the type of person who would have no further use for wide black trousers other than saving them for more funerals! I'm
moving my wardrobe away from black, baggy coverup clothes so they wouldn't be for me.

I shall keep looking for something that doesn't look cheap (which is a matter of opinion and is often how you wear something as opposed to the item itself) that isn't black trousers and doesn't break the bank for something I am unlikely to wear again. Oh and definitely something that isn't squeaky and doesn't look like I'm attending Pat Butchers funeral 😂

Thanks again all, I'm off to have a browse!

'Why be dull?
Because funerals aren't about me. Well my ówn funeral will be and, never fear, I will leave strict instructions to dress the hell up or else. But otherwise, unless the family has requested it or unless it's someone who I know for certain would have appreciated it, I keep it sober and yes dull and above all, forgettable.

So a 'no' from me.

I actually wouldn't go for black because I own very few black clothes and they're all a bit too dramatic and dressed up. I normally opt for grey or navy.

Maybe you are young and don't go to a lot of funerals, but the older you get the more often you do. I have a pair of plain black trousers that I originally bought for a funeral and have worn them to two others since. I have rarely worn them for any other purpose. I would say it actually doesn't hurt to have a funeral suitable outfit in your wardrobe so in future you won't ever have to think about this problem again.

Sadly I have a funeral wardrobe for summer and winter.

I’d just get a pair of the £17.50 M&S wide leg jersey trousers. And I guarantee you’ll wear them again!

Or how about one of the ubiquitous satin bias cut skirts?

I thought that said sombrero there

No, dont wear a sombrero OP!

They look squeaky. I wouldn't want to wear squeaky trousers to a funeral.

I agree. In some cultures it's very much don't stand out or make too much effort because it shows that you're thinking about yourself not focusing on the person/ the grief and I kind of agree with that.

In that case you need to make it clear in your funeral plan that you would like mourners in bright colours or dress to impress.

There have been threads before where people had been invited to funerals with instructions of 'No black clothes' and a majority of posters felt this meant dark brown or navy.

Some of these replies have really made me laugh, which I never expected on this post!

I definitely won't wear a sombrero, squeaky trousers or anything that makes me look like someone from Eastenders 😂

I am in my 30's @Escaperoom so am fortunate in that funerals are thankfully few and far between 🙏🏼 so I wouldn't necessarily have thought to have a funeral appropriate outfit ready just incase.

I'll take a look at the jersey M&S ones @PiggieWig, I could stomach £17.50 for something that may not suit me day to day. I can't envision them, would jersey be okay to wear? We've established that faux leather isn't, so I don't want to make another boo boo 😂

I like the suggestion of the skirt @AuntieDolly as that is something I would definitely wear again, would you say satin is okay to wear?

They’re not to my taste, but I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid if you’d turned up to my Dad’s funeral in those.

I wouldn't wear black satin either op, sorry, not unless (as I've said) I was confident the deceased would have approved or if the family had requested dressing up.

Obviously I don't know anything about you or your lifestyle but I found that, by my mid-30s, funerals were cropping up fairly regularly (older family members, work colleagues etc) and I was glad to have a few plain, safe, stand-bys in the wardrobe.

What about this? Could be worn to work or at the weekend after.

www.cos.com/en_gbp/women/womenswear/dresses/product.asymmetric-merino-wool-dress-black.1251463001.html

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