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Appropriate for a funeral?

81 replies

Woahbodyforrrrm · 17/10/2024 12:31

I have a funeral next week. I've recently lost weight so my usual (extensive black wardrobe) doesn't fit.

I've been looking online and have seen a pair of wide legged faux leather trousers which I really like. However, I'm unsure whether they are appropriate for a funeral due to the fabric. I would wear them with a fitted black roll neck jumper or a black blouse of some description.

My thoughts are that they are something I would wear again as opposed to buying a pair of normal wide legged black trousers which I wouldn't wear again.

What would you think of someone wearing these?

www.karenmillen.com/faux-leather-high-waisted-wide-leg-trousers/BKK13721-1.html?color=105

OP posts:
heldinadream · 17/10/2024 12:35

I'd think they were fine, whole outfit sounds fine. But I'm not a great stickler for formality or ceremony. What relationship are you to the deceased and we're they young or old?
I am sorry for your loss.

AuntieDolly · 17/10/2024 12:37

Funeral of a celebrity maybe. Aunt Ethel not so much

DreadPirateRobots · 17/10/2024 12:38

I get why you're asking, but... I don't think pleather comes off great in this context.

If you've really no use for a LBD, I'd get a pair of non-pleather black wide-legs.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 17/10/2024 12:39

I think for funerals it depends on the individuals - some are more relaxed, some are extremely formal. If you are the immediate family, wear whatever you want.

My general rule for funerals (or interviews) is that once the context is considered, if in doubt, don't.

WindowsSmindows · 17/10/2024 12:40

The whole point of dressing for a funeral is to avoid standing out and those trousers are very "look at me"
If it was a person who worked in fashion, or if you do, they're fine.
If you are an ordinary person, you risk looking like you want to make it all about you..

LoafofSellotape · 17/10/2024 12:41

I don't think so. Just get a pair of black wide legs from M and S .

KnickerlessParsons · 17/10/2024 12:42

Big no from me. They look like something you'd wear for a night out, not a funeral

BleachedJumper · 17/10/2024 12:43

I don’t think it’s ideal, no.

Im struggling to think of anyone who would have no use for some wide leg black trousers!

SallyWD · 17/10/2024 12:45

WindowsSmindows · 17/10/2024 12:40

The whole point of dressing for a funeral is to avoid standing out and those trousers are very "look at me"
If it was a person who worked in fashion, or if you do, they're fine.
If you are an ordinary person, you risk looking like you want to make it all about you..

Agree with this

MrSeptember · 17/10/2024 12:46

if one of my more fashionable friends died I'm sure those trousers would be great. I wouldn't be wearing them to the funeral of my granny.

It really depends on who the funeral is for, what role you play, and what the immediate family are likely to want/expect.

redtrain123 · 17/10/2024 12:46

My first thought was that they were a ‘evening going out’ wear, rather than a funeral. Or I’d assume you’d just come from meeting friends at the pub.

AnnaMagnani · 17/10/2024 12:47

Funerals I have been to have been 'wear something smart and a bit dull' rather than 'wear black '

Especially in autumn/winter when no-one buys a black coat specially.

CrotchetyQuaver · 17/10/2024 12:50

Personally I think they'd be a bit OTT for a funeral, a pair of regular cloth ones would be better and more suitable for other everyday occasions. Then again people wear all sorts for a funeral these days, always a revelation for me when I have a funeral to go to and you see other funerals and what their guests are wearing.

LoafofSellotape · 17/10/2024 12:52

AnnaMagnani · 17/10/2024 12:47

Funerals I have been to have been 'wear something smart and a bit dull' rather than 'wear black '

Especially in autumn/winter when no-one buys a black coat specially.

Yes, smart and dull and nothing attention grabbing.

user2848502016 · 17/10/2024 12:55

I think no too sorry. Surely you'll wear a plain black pair of trousers again? Or a dress with black tights?

Rebootnecessary · 17/10/2024 13:34

Why be dull? I quite like the idea that people might get a bit dressed up for my funeral. Why not celebrate the deceased by wearing something you consider to be stylish and when did it become the norm to dress soooooo boringly for funerals. We dress up for weddings and other big life events, why not dress up for a funeral.

sweetpickle2 · 17/10/2024 13:43

I think they're fine OP.

"Look at me" indeed, they're black trousers.

redtrain123 · 17/10/2024 13:44

I think you can dress up for funerals, but in a formal style.

Precipice · 17/10/2024 13:47

They look like they're made from bin bag material.

Surely you can find something that you'd both wear again and isn't this? What was in your black and no longer fitting wardrobe? Can't you get something in a similar style as you did wear before or alter something you already have to fit you now?

sweetpickle2 · 17/10/2024 13:49

Maybe OP likes clothes in a different style now she's lost weight? I know I like different styles when I'm different sizes.

BCBird · 17/10/2024 13:53

I'd say no

Bestyearever2024 · 17/10/2024 13:55

Definitely no

SparkyBlue · 17/10/2024 13:56

They would be absolutely fine in my opinion for a funeral as people dress in all sorts of things. It wouldn’t even have entered my head that they wouldn't be okay. Only you know what type of crowd will be at the funeral so no one here can really answer your question.

NannyR · 17/10/2024 13:56

Do you have anything in grey or navy or anything else dark/dull in your wardrobe? None of the funerals I have been to recently have had everyone wearing full on black, most people were just wearing something dark and smart looking.

itwasnevermine · 17/10/2024 13:57

No no no.

Just get a cheap black dress. Your previous wardrobe was all black, so you'll have a reason to wear it.