Is this too "gowny" for a wedding?

[Whenthechipshitthefan]

DH says its too much. Hoping to wear it to 3 weddings... its so over my usual budget so...
Catholic church/smart hotel
Outdoor wedding /barn next spring
Chapel /Hotel wedding by the sea in Summer

And any suggestions of how to make it suitable.

Bridemaids are in blue.
Its Ralph Lauren. Hence why I don't have anything like it!

If you want a red dress then how about this one?
Red midi occasion dress from Reiss

Although I think a red dress will be competing with the bridal gown for attention. Maybe another colour such as this Green Reiss dress can be worn with a jacket for church & then taken off in the evening.

It's less the red I like that the shape. I think this would really flatter me. But don't want to look like I'm trying to outdo anyone!
Back to the drawing board.

My opinion:

This is an evening dress, suitable for a black tie function. Not suitable for a wedding.

If you love this colour and shape on you, can you find something similar but shin-length?

any suggestions of how to make it suitable

Chop it off at the knee and pull the shoulders up properly.

What about this one?
https://www.ralphlauren.co.uk/en/jersey-off-the-shoulder-cocktail-dress-3616537667523.html?utm_subchannel=shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=paidshopping&utm_campaign=no_converting&utm_term=pmax&utm_content=crid_campaign21646318075_adgroup_tid_pid3616537667523&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADnESOwijhmowckR8g9DcErCENJO0&gclid=Cj0KCQjwlvW2BhDyARIsADnIe-IqaIhUpMc9JsFxz2WWXoP0kdmORibzLc50hAb0rr0VLvYe75sI61EaArLbEALw_wcB

I think that's more of an evening dress

It’s lovely, but it’s an evening dress. Suitable for a wedding only if dress code is “black tie” which it usually isn’t. Weddings need shorter, or maybe a more casual “maxi” style. This is neither so won’t work. Sorry. It’s beautiful.

Feels like a black tie dress, or movie premiere or other quite dressy event. I would feel overdressed in this at a wedding, even more so if the wedding was set in a barn.

This is a great suggestion. Similar in style but far more appropriate, and I think you could wear it to both the barn wedding and the more traditional ones.

Only if it's black tie. It would look seriously over the top at most weddings I've been too and having seen what people have bought for my imminent wedding. Every Catholic wedding I've been to has been more midi floral than red carpet and barn weddings are more chilled still usually.

I don’t think the first person to comment actually understood the question …

OP, it’s an evening dress for a black tie event. To me that doesn’t sound like any of the weddings you’re invited to - unless perhaps you were arriving for only the evening hotel reception. But you presumably know better than anyone here the vibe of the circles you move in?

It’s an evening dress and given the puddling length it really is only appropriate for an evening do or an earlier wedding where the invite explicitly states “black tie”.

It's a lovely dress but really for a black tie do. I think you will feel out of place at a wedding in it.

The OP has said she's going to reconsider the dress and find something else in case some have missed her recent updates.

I got married in a catholic church and had bare arms! Have you ever seen a traveller wedding in a catholic church? That dress has way less flesh on show! I'd wear it myself if I was young, tall and had my size 8 figure back🤣. Go for it op it's stunning.

@Whenthechipshitthefan If you truly don’t have any suitable events to wear it to, but love it nevertheless, would you consider having it shortened to midi length? (As a pp has suggested.) That could be anything from low calf to somewhere around your knees - a dressmaker / tailor / alterations service should be able to advise on the most flattering length for you.

Then you’d only need a coordinating coat (the most elegant option) for the church / chapel ceremonies. And to give some thought to your styling for the outdoor event.

That’s a beautiful and stylish dress! Wouldn’t look as good shorter, it’s meant be long. Go for it, stunning.

I guess I don't think there's one dress for them all.
I'd wear the same dress to all those weddings. I don't think the dress code is particularly different between all of them. It's just that this dress is too eveningwear for all the events.

I would say yes to the hotel weddings IF (and only if) they stipulate black tie. If they dont, then no.

Deffo no either way to the barn wedding.

More like a dress for a black tie event than a wedding. You'd look overdressed.

It's more like the sort of thing that bridesmaids wear.

I think its too "black tie" way too much fir the weddings you describe

I don't think you can wear that to a Catholic wedding - you should cover your arms in church.

It's a bit to dinner dance for me anyway.

The dress that @jenthehen found is actually the same dress, shorter and in more boring colours!

In OP's place, I would strongly consider The Dress, having it shortened and perhaps stitching up the split. Or ask Ralph Lauren if they're going to have the shorter one in the bright red.