@Tinymrscollings
Last night I was helping a friend buy jeans online. It made us realise again how preoccupied women of our age (40s) are with looking as slim as possible. It’s really limiting and can look a bit dated, always fretting about this or that part and how to make it look smaller or bigger (generally smaller)
The current way of dressing has shifted focus to outfit proportions rather than body proportions, and I really like that. It’s inclusive of all body types, I think. With no expectation that anyone’s bottom looks tiny and neat or is hidden away like a dirty secret if it isn’t, wearing barrel legs and a shorter, boxier top piece looks great on everyone. Not ‘flattering’ in the sense we grew up with, but balanced.
I agree entirely with this. I'm early 40s, and in the last few years I've managed to shuck off the psychological torment that was inevitable from coming of age in the 90s:
- Every part of your body that deviates from the Kate Moss template is a Problem Area
- Problem Areas must be dealt with either by "skimming" over them, or subduing them with torture modern corsetry
Bloody Trinny and Susanna and Gok Wan telling us to wear fucking wrap dresses and "control" pants—sad Pygmalions, determined to sculpt our substandard bodies into acceptability.
I spent three decades feeling like I should diminish myself because I'm built like a Viking. That's insane. Fashion now is so much more about the interesting shape of the clothes—it's fun and exciting.
A flattering garment isn't one that makes me look small, it's one that makes me feel immense.