Would you wear this to a funeral?

[LouLou198]

Sadly it's my lovely FIL's funeral next week.
Obviously I want to look smart, but my hair is a bit of a mess. I'm growing out a fringe and it's at that annoying half way stage. I've seen this hat which may be the answer - I thought I could clip my fringe back then cover with the hat. Do people wear hats to funerals these days? Or will I look ridiculous?

Ridiculous

I wouldn't as you'd be drawing attention to yourself which should be the last thing you want to be doing at a funeral tbh.

It's a bit '1930's upperclass widow'. Too much imo.

No one wears a fascinator to a funeral. Most funerals are not as formal as they used to be and even those that are, just no.

I think it would make you stand out. People wear sunglasses to funerals not hats now.

Well said

Ridiculous I'm afraid

Sorry, but it made me laugh out loud. Ridiculous.

In the UK I’ve only ever seen Royalty or aristocracy wear hats or fascinators to funerals. And everyone attending is wearing them.

If you’re the only one wearing something like this I’m afraid you’ll look ridiculous.

sorry for your loss, it’s such a sad and difficult occasion and your husband and his family will need your support

No I wouldn’t, I would advise you try and pin your hair up with the fringe or trim the fringe and regrow after. Which ever is the easiest for the day, you don’t want to be worrying about it.

No one wears hats to funerals anymore. At least not the ones I’ve been to.

No. Too much.

Why not pin back your fringe with a Bobby pin and have a place hairband over the the top to hid it

@Belladone thank you for your kind reply.

I'm sorry for your loss.

No, I don't think that hat is appropriate really. Would a black hair band of some sort work with your hair, that would be fine I think.

@Twistybranch thank you, that sounds like a better solution.

Depends on how smart the funeral is.

My Grandmother in law’s was a hats and gloves affair. She was always very smartly dressed and it was fitting and natural that her funeral was very formal.

@LoneHydrangea laughing out loud seems a bit much. I haven't been to a funeral for a long time, and it's causing me a lot of anxiety.

Sorry for your loss. Personally I don’t think a hat/fascinator for a funeral is generally the ‘done thing’ but I think some of these responses are rather harsh, both wrt the headwear but also towards someone recently bereaved. The chunky/padded headband suggestions seem good.

Sorry for your loss. Funerals are just awful, and somehow really stressful.
Wear a hairband? They can look smart and tidy. Quite thick ones are fashionable.
Good luck 🤞

Thanks @Twistybranch and @Muffin101. I've found a suitable hairband.
Don't know why I didn't think of that in the first place.

It's because you're all churned up. Don't worry. It'll be fine..

@KateDelRick thank you.

@LouLou198 I wore something very similar to my mother’s funeral in a chapel.
I wanted to wear something very special for my mum. I honestly could not care less what others did or did not wear. I had a lot of compliments.

people don’t tend to wear hats at funerals, if you did I think you would feel a bit self conscious. What is the headband like?