Would you wear this to a funeral?

[LouLou198]

Sadly it's my lovely FIL's funeral next week.
Obviously I want to look smart, but my hair is a bit of a mess. I'm growing out a fringe and it's at that annoying half way stage. I've seen this hat which may be the answer - I thought I could clip my fringe back then cover with the hat. Do people wear hats to funerals these days? Or will I look ridiculous?

I wore a similar hat to my grandmother’s funeral a couple of years ago because I thought that she would have admired it. Everyone - particularly the elderly ladies - told me how smart I looked, and it led to lots of lovely conversations about my grandmother and her sense of style. So I think it depends on whose funeral it is. In my case it was right to wear the hat.

@Onlinetherapist I felt similar when I saw it. I know it FIL had seen me wear it he would have liked it.

If you're at a terribly smart funeral, maybe. Such as at St Paul's or for a member of the Royal family.

Every funeral I've been to in the last 20yrs has been much less formal. And absolutely no "wedding style" hats even at a very very religious Catholic ceremony.

@Rugglesbarry thank you. When I saw it I thought FIL would think it was very smart.

You know what? If that's the case - go for it!

@Waitformetoarrive I've gone with a plain black padded one like others suggested.

What a nasty comment 🙄

@ButtSurgery thank you, it's been around 10 years since I last attended a funeral so that's why I wasn't sure.

First thought was it reminded me a bit of what the princess of Wales wore on her head to prince Philips funeral...

I've been to two funerals recently, and worn a hat. I was in the minority, but there were a few hats at both.

@Comedycook just had a Google and yes it is very similar.
Thinking about it, the most recent funerals I have seen are Prince Philip's and the Queen's. Probably why I thought hats were worn.

Sorry for your loss. Funerals seem to be less formal now, black smart dress is fine, probably don't need a hat as such. Good to ask for advice and best wishes, good to show kindness at this time.

@jennylamb1 good to know, thank you. I've got the dress sorted, very plain with 3/4 length sleeves.

@LouLou198 I’m shocked at some of the responses here! Very mean indeed.

Wow at some of the responses, this is not aibu this is style and beauty.
The op is attending a funeral and wanting some advice , not ridicule & snide comments.
The hat might not be everyone's choice but there are nicer ways to put it, or don't comment!
This place is bizarre sometimes

Definitely not. You'll be the only one in a hat and it'll restrict the view

Unless you are from upper class or royality then No!
Ask a hairdresser how to tame your hair for the day.
It is not something i would worry about.
Most funerals are casual tidy.

You know what, if it's your sort of style and your FIL would've loved it, I think you should wear it. For close family at a smart funeral I don't see why not.

@Onlinetherapist @Thistooshallpass24 I was a bit surprised at the responses too, but I just thought I was being sensitive due to my current circumstances.
Anyway I have got what I needed from this, I now know funerals are less formal affairs, and a black headband had been ordered.
I can see now I wasn't thinking straight with all the upset and panicked.
Thank you for all the kind responses.

I agree, and said as much upthread - I think it would be a nice tribute.

If you want to wear it. The last two funerals I've been to I've not worn black, as requested by my in-laws.