to think MN view of what to wear to a wedding is based on 4 weddings and a funeral?

[BigDahliaFan]

Young ones now wear all sorts to weddings...I'd got to the age where I'd had a break from weddings and now in my 50s I've started going to them again as the next generation starts the merry go round.

Short dresses, slinky dresses, night gown type dresses....and they all looked young and lovely.

On here anything other than a flowery tent gets the thumbs down...

I'm in my mid-50s and haven't been to a wedding in about 20 years. I get pretty surprised about the dresses people suggest that are short, backless, black etc.

I'm going to a wedding in a few weeks so will be having a good look around to see what people wear these days.

I wish it was that interesting! The general MN view of suitable wedding wear is so rigid and narrow that I doubt those fabulous outfits worn in the film by Andie Macdowall and Kristen Scott Thomas's characters would be allowed 😁

Not the threads I've been on. "Flowery tents" have never been advised.

Or is the film reflective of real life?

I’m in my mid-40s so not a young one! But I think the only thing that isn’t suitable for a wedding (within the dress code) is white. I went to a wedding once and someone said an acquaintance of mine (who was wearing a white dress) “congratulations!” Obviously they hadn’t been paying attention when the vows were being said - but I still remember it! This acquaintance obvs didn’t care, though, as I saw her in a white dress at another wedding we both attended.

@BigDahliaFan One thing that comes across very much is there’s a whole variety of weddings. My DD has been to 27 in 3 years since Covid. So I trust her judgement. Some have been deliberately informal two have been multi day extravaganzas in Italy and Switzerland where ultra rich people rocked up. So these were amazing events where looking pretty perfect was the dress code of the days. Evening wear through to smart day wear.

The more informal ones tend to get younger people in a variety of clothes but a lot depends on evening event and where it is. A country marquee or swish hotel. DD usually chooses a day dress and a hat on a band. A bit like the ones favoured by the Princess of Wales. Quite a few don’t wear hats at all: certainly at informal weddings many don’t. Shoes, bags, makeup and hair are all part of the dressing up but being comfortable all day is important. Not dressing like a 19 year old is vital if you are 50. So not too short, no skimpy nightclub attire and always wear a bra.

Hope that’s helpful. DD is very observant!

I drove past a park on Saturday where the guests- including Bride and Groom- were swigging from Vodka bottles in their wedding attire.
Clothes looked OK, Smirnoff hanging from lips not so much 😬

But the question was about what people posting on MN think of as suitable wedding attire.

Unless your daughter actively posts here, her opinion really isn’t relevant to this thread, surely, @TizerorFizz?

I went to a wedding in my early 20s and was 😯at some of the dresses worn by women my age to a church wedding. It was just a very different group of people who had different ideas about what was acceptable.

I think it depends on the wedding doesn't it? I've been to a few the last couple of years and some have been very formal with more 'traditional' wedding attire and some more casual. I haven't seen anyone in anything incredibly short unless they were an evening guest only.

@IWantedThereThereButItsGone Er? She sends me the photos! Lots of them. I was just giving context as I bet most posting haven’t been to 27 in 3 years. I was trying to be helpful but I’ll jog on. How strange that DD must post directly on her observations for them to be valid. Photos don’t lie.

From a personal point of view, I don’t think you should be able to see anyone’s pants at a wedding, no tits falling out of dresses and no clothes so tight you can see whether or not they ate the bread roll that came with their soup.

I'm going to a wedding this weekend and having seen the dress dd is wearing and others, they are basically coast, per una, Hobbs or similar, not quite as structured as in 4 weddings, but similar

I always wanted to be Kristin Scott Thomas when I grew up and I still do.

Grey Goose would have been a much better look

I think very young girls can wear what they like, because everyone accepts that they don't have much formal wear, are still learning in terms of style and social norms, and that they enjoy the privilege of youth to wear a boohoo dress, Liverpool eyebrows, satsuma skin, draught excluder eyelashes etc without anyone saying anything.

That doesn't mean everyone else at the wedding would get away with a similar look.

What are “Liverpool eyebrows”?
Google had no answers!

my thoughts on what to wear at weddings are driven by my experiences of what people wore at weddings I went to.

i accept that might be quite a narrow experience - most of them have been 5* hotel or country estate type affairs, although I’ve been to two late afternoon/evening black tie affairs. I’ve never been to the sort of wedding where people were drinking vodka direct from a bottle

“young ones” at recent weddings very much seem to favour self portrait, Rixo, Rebecca Valance etc

We’re all driven by our direct experiences.

Try Scouse brow

Young and lovely sounds delightful but most MNers are asking for themselves, not the young team.

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The can't wear anything white or cream crew. White long flowy dress is not ok. But I've seen plenty of wedding guests wearing white or cream trousers or skirts with navy or patterns or a floral design on a white background. It looked lovely. No one was offended, and no one mistook them for the bride.

The last time I looked Hobbs and Phase Eight were still flogging the same dresses they've been selling for thirty years, and women in their late thirties to early nineties were still buying them.

Yes younger women and/or women on the pull have always worn tiny little bodycon numbers in black or red. And lots of women will wear something in between the two extremes. Wearing Hobbs pastel florals is, amongst other things, a signifier that you're not on the pull.

That's definitely not true.