Another wedding guest one

[Fraa]

Does this look ok for a wedding celebration party (no ceremony)?

Context is southern Spain in mid-September, late afternoon and evening buffet and dancing in a fancy hotel but the hotel also have a pool party kind of vibe to it. Would imagine most guests (literally hundreds of them) will be European/ Middle Eastern, well-off, glam, and in their 30s. I am none of those things (not well-off, don't dress up, mid-50s, English).

I'm quite hard to dress - 5ft 2, don't show legs, a bit overweight, mid-50s, need natural fabrics but can't afford silk etc. This dress ticks the boxes in that the shape and colour suits, it covers my legs (more like a mid-maxi on me), shows my waist, and is cotton. Minus is that it possibly isn't dressy enough. I'd wear it with suede block platforms, jewellery and get a bag to try and make it look a bit more dressy. It's also quite booby on me, which I'm putting in the plus camp as it makes it feel more like a going-out than office dress on me.

I don't know if I'm overthinking it. Maybe the younger people will all be quite casual, I have no idea. Thoughts welcome! I did also get an Another Sunday dress which I liked but the proportions completely swamped me.

Yes, looks nice.

And me in it

Oops bit too cropped, need to click on it. Thanks for first vote of confidence @DappledThings !

You look so much better than the model in it, you have lovely proportions and I really like the length.

You look lovely. Stop putting yourself down. Go and enjoy yourself 🌺

Gosh, you’re hard on yourself!

Did the wedding couple spring fully formed from the earth, with no parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, godparents, older cousins, etc, etc? Surely the older people at this party will be just as welcome and celebrated as the younger cohort? It’s a mystery to me why you’re giving any thought to what younger people might be wearing.

You look perfectly fine in your dress. Can’t really comment on whether it’s suitable for the event - but with hundreds of guests there’ll surely be hundreds of different outfits worn, so 🤷‍♀️

Looks perfect on you and perfect for the occasion

Was wondering about the younger people more from a 'fitting in' point of view. I don't want to stand out for not making an effort.

I don't think I'm too hard on myself, just realistic from a clothes buying point of view.

Thank you all for the reassuring comments.

I guarantee the most beautifully dressed people at the event, male or female, will be in their eighties or nineties …

Well yes...I'll be out dressed by them too. Focus on the younger people is that I know they will be the vast majority of the attendees, as older relatives were at the actual wedding, and most won't be travelling again for the party.

Wow, looks lovely on you.
Are you going with those shoes or something a bit more 'delicate'?

Lovely 😊

Thank you! Was going with those, or a different colour platform, though not sure what would colour would go. I don't want to wear flats, and can't walk in proper heels. I also like the 70s look of platforms. Agree the black looks a bit heavy.

I've ordered the same dress in a bright blue, though again don't know what colour would go with them! The only other colour platforms I have are brown leather (definitely too casual) and fuschia pink suede (the pink might work the blue maybe, don't know, haven't received them yet).

Try the pink suede with the red dress …

(Can’t tell until you see them together but red and pink together can look completely fabulous.)

I''ll try them...not sure the shades will be quite right. These are the shoes. Can't do a photo for some reason.

www.modainpelle.com/sandals-c29/heeled-sandals-c41/quinnie-raspberry-suede-p14341

And the dress in blue. https://www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/eve-double-cloth-midi-dress-indigo-bunting/sty-d0910-blu?cat=C2S22_G4

Not the blue.

This dress

and

this one

both from & Other Stories, both either viscose or linen and viscose, are more the sort of shapes and structures I’d expect to see (on any age group) at the event you describe. Just because they’re not things one might normally wear day to day.

Quite like this 89% cotton

trouser suit from Zara.

If your dress were sleeveless you could have worn it with a very light, diaphanous summer coat that matched the pink shoes …

The red is nicer than the blue. Like WhatWillIWear I agree that the super stylish people are unlikely to be the younger crowd.

Thanks for the suggestions. The satin dress is a possibility, though fear it would show every lump and bump. I can go and have a look though, there is a branch near me.

Re the age comments...again, I was stating it for context. If I was going to the wedding celebration of a pair of 80 year olds in rural Texas, mainly attended by eighty year olds, that would have been the context to try and fit into.

Not everything on S&B is about weeding out suspected ageism.

I wasn't commenting from that aspect- more the assumption that the younger crowd will be better dressed, or you have to fit in with them.

It's not just being younger. It is being wealthy, and from cultures where it is the done thing to be glam for this kind of occasion. But then again younger people tend to dress down, at least in London, which is my main reference point. So I'm unsure what to expect.

But anyway...think I have enough feedback now. thanks to all.

@Fraa why not get in touch with someone from the wedding party (assuming you are not one of them) and ask?

I was going to say no, that the fabric makes it look casual and the colour hard to wear (looks more dark orange than red), but it looks fab on you. You have an amazing figure and colouring so I think you could wear many different styles.

I asked the groom who was hopeless, his only input was 'make sure you can dance in it'. 🙂